What’s Worth Fighting For?

Leandra looked straight at me this morning and asked, “What do you think is worth fighting for?” I was preparing myself for a deep, existential and introspective brainstorm followed by an intense discussion on the meaning in life, because after all — if it’s not worth fighting for, is it worth anything at all?

I know. I told you this was deep.

And then just as I was hunkering down to really channel and challenge my innermost self as my yoga teacher often “invites” me to do (thanks for the Paperless Post, Cheyenne, but I don’t need to RSVP “yes” to my own house party), Leandra offered what she would fight for: a good pair of true blue jeans, and the right to name her first daughter Spirulina.

(Spirulina is like a nutritious sea fern or something if you’re wondering.)

So that meant I could say something more along the lines of…horses and the perfect bagel, as opposed to love, or education, which is originally where I thought we were going with this.

But really. Think about it. The things we’d choose to fight for don’t have to fit neatly like folded handkerchiefs into philosophical pockets, because if we would actually throw up Jose Canseco and Bill Nye (those are my left and right fists, respectively) for good denim or the name of an ocean-tree, then it means something. So it’s worth something.

Riding horses, for example, is probably the only thing that keeps me mildly sane. Winston Churchill once said: “There’s something about the outside of a horse that’s good for the inside of a man.” He also said: “A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on,” so the man knows what he’s talking about.

And the perfect bagel! Imagine a world/hangover without one! I am a pacifist in general but I’d remove my hoops for chive cream cheese and thinly sliced tomatoes on a double-toasted Everything Flagel in a heart beat, because nothing makes me feel more complete.

Or really good Mexican food at a restaurant that doesn’t charge extra for chips and has reasonably-priced guacamole. Only thing better than that is a hug.

At the end of the day we should be willing to fight for what makes us happy. And perhaps I don’t mean fight in the literal sense — resorting to fisticuffs is the fastest way to get thrown out of a bar or ruin a school photo — but rather, I mean fight as you would strive for something, or persevere for something. It’s determination to find/keep/preserve/and maintain exactly what it is that makes you smile.

What about you? What do you think is worth fighting for?

— A-million Dollar Baby Diamond

  • you’ve got to fight for your right to wear denim on denim

  • I quite adore lettuce (preferably in a salad with some other raw veggies, served with some pumpkin seed oil, no vinegar, thank you, absolutely no onions or garlic, but yes to mozzarella balls) and for some reason 🙂 I talk about this passion of mine quite often.
    What I invariably get is questions along the line of “Oh, getting ready for the bikini season?”. So I feel it is my duty to always explain that a) not all women are dieting all the time and b) some of us actually like salads, it is not a punishment for food-related midnight sins or whatever! And anyway, what makes you think I should diet!?!?
    But then … a few years ago, I did keep quiet when a Swedish cashier/waitress saw a bowl of veggies in my hand and asked me “Do you want something to eat or only dis?” “Only dis.” I told her.

    Generally, I tend to argue for freedom, especially the freedom to do things the way I (or you or anyone) want to and not according to some unwritten rules no one has proved useful yet (and even if). Jep. Freedom. Definitely worth fighting for.

    That and salad.

    • Amelia Diamond

      What. is. PUMPKIN SEED OIL!?!?!?!

      • Dis.

        (it also happens to be delicious)

      • Sophia

        It is the BEST. My friend introduced it to me last year. He’s a culinary snob who likes to tell me e.v.e.r.y. minute detail of his dinner parties, especially what the food consists of. I scoffed at first. But man, pumpkin seed oil is great! As a salad dressing, dip your baguette in it, on pizza…everything.

        • I found out a few months ago it is also terribly healthy – didn’t know that. And some people sprinkle it on vanilla desserts (ice or cream) … never tried it, but you never know …

        • I am so intrigued now.

    • Saakshi Kaushik

      EXCELLENT!! Alcessa, I have a question for you if you do not mind answering it. How comes is it that you do not eat onions and garlic?

      • My tummy … it wants to divorce me if I as much as come close to anything from the big Garlic/Onion family (= I feel queasy). But also, I quite dislike the smell: my nose is a real Madame and turned up at the world most of the time anyway so I know better than to expose it to garlic & Co….

        • Saakshi Kaushik

          So do you use any substitutes or other spices to substitute the flavour of o+g like Asafoetida?

          • Not for salad: I really like it basic 🙂 Yes with other food (cumin, cilantro, chili, cinnamon, allspice, thyme, rosemary, turmeric … and many, many more)

  • Totally agree with you!!!


  • Bees. Without them, we’re all fucked.

    • Amelia Diamond

      Funny you should mention BEES, Emma. Check the BOI section in like…15 minutes.

      • Might it have something to do with the “buzz” that youths are getting by rubbing Burt’s Bees lip balm on their eyelids to enhance a high? #qualitygeneration

        • Charlotte Fassler

          IS THAT A THING?

        • Amelia Diamond
        • alex

          The youth generation is doomed.

          • Are we, though? Every generation has tried stupid things. As far as I’m concerned, the only thing that dooms a younger generation from an older is the unpredictable climate of the future! People in their 20s and 30s now really have to ask themselves if they want to bring a child into this world that is changing at a rather alarming rate both climatically and geographically. It’s not silly drug fads we have to worry about, it’s water shortages.

  • Quinn

    I fight for the right to draw on plain canvas sneakers. They need me.

    Instagram: QustomQuinns

  • Sofi Ayala
  • Just scored some Beyonce/Jay-Z tickets this morning!!!!!!! Those were definitely worth waking up and fighting for. I was just in Nashville, and was yelling “ANIMAL CRUELTY” at all the horse drawn carriages because Lea Michele told me to a few years ago, and because I had been drinking since 10am. My friend told me that I “had a lot of causes”, so I guess I find a lot of things worth fighting for, or maybe I just like attention.

    • Amelia Diamond

      ooo Charlotte’s gonna be jealous

      • Quinn Halman

        and most others with beating hearts

      • Charlotte can come with! I’ll be seeing the Carters at Tom Brady’s house.

  • Quinn Halman

    Besides my family, I would fight my way backstage at a concert

    and also this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HiqmZLOaD8o

    • Amelia Diamond

      I know all the words to all Mulan songs. Sorry to brag, but.

      • Quinn Halman

        Alright then; let’s get down to business.

  • Oh snap! First appearance of the word “flagel” on my screen that I had to look it up. Now I’m educated. I’d fight for my food, too. Specifically, cream cheese and lox…on a flagel!

    • Amelia Diamond


      • I realized that. As soon as I googled, I saw mixed pictures of flagels and flagella and got confused.

  • Dancingcheektocheek

    When I was reading the paragraphs above paragraph 5, I was laughing. When I was younger I was drinking spirulina that was in Naked Juice often–more often than necessary. Everything deeper than that ¶, except the comments in part, caused queasiness.

  • Lest we forget Spirulina … when she’s all grown up she’ll be fighting for the right to change her name. No?

  • Fishmonkey

    I’d fight to own as many white shirts as I deem necessary even if they look the same to some people. Also, avocados and roasted sweet potatoes.

    • Amelia Diamond


    • Aubrey Green

      Avocados make everything better.

      • Fishmonkey

        Don’t they? I could LIVE on avocados. And sweet potatoes. And possibly beets.

        • Aubrey Green

          I also love sweet potatoes and beets.

          • Amelia Diamond

            I’m slowly getting in to beets. But sometimes I get a bad one and it tastes like dirt 🙁

          • Aubrey Green

            I can’t say that I like the taste of dirt, but I love the smell of dirt.

          • Fishmonkey

            Beets are really unfairly maligned, IMO. If it tastes like dirt, I suspect poor peeling technique is the culprit. I do love mine roasted with olive oil.

  • The right to day dream! Oh, and the right to break into song during a conversation because, well, why not?! http://www.madelienerose.com

  • Everytime i see a picture of Amelia here on MR i think about horses and equestrian stuff. Guess i was right. That’s my friggin’ intuition, man, i have a third eye.
    With that in mind, i would fight for the right of saying stupid things and to have sense of humor. Please. What would be the world without that?

  • Brandon Isaacs

    Three words for all this.
    Displaced value systems.

  • Roshni

    Red lipstick and loose white shirts. Oh and bacon!


  • I would fight for some good poutine and socks

  • Kandeel

    Can I fight to possess the whole indescribable essence and aura of cool as f? By that i mean:

  • Julia

    I think the right to sleep in on a Saturday morning is worth fighting for, along with (and sorry I’m getting deep here) a good education. But that’s just because I’m in a broke public school :p

    Bagels are pretty great too 😀


  • girlinmenswear

    I would fight for my right to listen to Miley Cyrus and not to have to get into a discussion about how she is a “negative role model” every time a twerk inducing song comes up on my iphone. I just like her music, k?


  • Kaitlin

    I would go to indescribable lengths to defend that deep-in-your-soul disoriented joy that can only be produced by a champagne day drunk. That and dry shampoo. God bless it.

  • I would like to sign up for Team Bagels, and I would also totally fight for clean bedsheets. There is nothing like crawling into a freshly made bed. 🙂

  • ecantada

    Things worth fighting for: anything that matters to you AND (as in, plus this other thing) where the fight for that thing that matters won’t cost you more than the lack of that thing.

  • There’s a few things I’ll fight for (the right to spend my free time as I see fit and not be judged. Judgy McJudgerson’s can get off my back) but my biggest take-away is that you have to PAY for chips at a mexican restaurant? What the hell! Endless chips and salsa are non-negotiable I’ve always wanted to visit NYC, but remind me not to eat my favorite mexican food while there. That’s a bitch.