Charmed, I’m Not So Sure
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New York Magazine and Tech Crunch have both taken to covering a social dating app that just rolled out yesterday called Charm. Though created in a similar vein to that of Tinder’s, this app features a selling-point of a game changer: that instead of utilizing profile pictures to connect singles interested in getting to know each other, it’s actually using video footage.

Its tag line reads, “Because you’re so much more than a profile pic.” Here’s the thing, though. Are we? I don’t know about you but my profile pictures have historically been highly manipulated to appear as the best versions of me which more often than not are also irregular versions of a better me that may or may not actually exist.

Furthermore, because no data on whether or not the video content being shared via Charm is being passed through some sort of administrative ringer, I have to wonder: isn’t it possible that as this app grows larger and larger, the content being shared on it will grow more crass? And in the event that happens, doesn’t it seem more like what we’ve got on our hands is a cold case of Chatroulette: Mobile Edition? That effectively means pinched nipples and penises flying everywhere! (Update: a representative from Charm has confirmed that they have a zero-tolerance policy for any offensive content and all videos are reviewed.)

Sometimes I feel so bummed that I’m married during these golden years we’re living.

[Charm, A New Dating App via The Cut]

  • Quinn

    For girls my age (16), the profile picture is so defining. It gets edited, has the perfect caption, and it makes people feel a sense of self-worth based on the amount of “likes” it gets. Frankly, I don’t get it. Friends are begged to share it asking everyone else to “like it up”. So what happens if you get 200+ likes? To me, if a lot of people mindlessly like a picture of me, it’s not going to break my self-esteem. But the thing with a video, is how many times one will re-do it to get it just right. How does my voice sound? What can I say? How’s this angle? Can anyone hear me? Are all extras worries the profile pictures does not burden us with.

    Also, let’s say things work out with this guy/girl, that’s going to be a great story for the kids!

    • Nikki Chowdhury

      Incredibly insightful comment for a 16 year old!

    • Amelia Diamond

      Oh god I would cringe to have my voice play over and over to strangers. The thing about video is it’s probably a LOT harder to fake. You can’t really do the notorious Myspace angle for a whole video can you?

    • Chloe

      An eloquently expressed opinion, Quinn. You offer such an interesting insight into the culture of crafting an online identity.

  • Luciana Safdie

    I am seriously afraid for my dating future… seriously, I’m 21, I shouldn’t WANT to be married just to avoid all these apps…

  • AngieMontreal

    Having recently gotten out of a 10yr relationship and entering the world of online dating, I’ve decided I would like a dating site that just shows me 10 pictures of the mans favorite pairs of shoes. I feel it would be shockingly accurate and effective.

  • Aubrey Green

    They can always doing something like the “starbucksdrakehands” – which come to think of it, I am surprised this site hasn’t touched on that yet. – guy hit on girl in starbucks, then sent her this video…

    • Amelia Diamond

      I was too traumatized what I first saw this to write about it!!! Should we do a post?

      • Aubrey Green

        hahaha – I would love to see what Team MR thinks, as well as other readers, so yes, please do :).

      • Amatoria Clothing

        I think each of you should do a re-enactment. That would make my day.

        • Hereshoping Themayanswereright

          That would be SO f *king funny I would die- awesome idea.

    • Oh my goodness, yes! Please! I was waiting for someone to bring up #StarbucksDrakeHands!

  • Hereshoping Themayanswereright

    I would not benefit by this at all. I don’t know if this happens to anyone else but in real life I’m very chatty,relaxed, and friendly. But put a camera on me in a situation like this and I morph into an uncomfortable stone with a very pained expression and act like I’m reading the news off a teleprompter. I cannot be normal when it’s being recorded and I’m supposed to be conveying something and acting natural.This would be horrible:-(