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MR Writers Club Prompt: The 5 Stages of Locking Down a New Friend
10.11.19

Have you heard of the Man Repeller Writers Club? Every month we pose a story idea, then you write about it and send it to us (write@manrepeller.com) with the subject line “MR Writers Club.” We read through all submissions and post the winner on the first Friday of every month. Ready? Let’s go.


A new friendship of mine was recently solidified when the following occurred: We met up for coffee when I was in a terrible mood. As soon as I arrived and she asked how I was, I proceeded to monologue my distress for upwards of five minutes. By the time I took a breath, I felt terrible for bombarding her with my problems—frankly, we barely knew each other. But what followed was an emotionally intimate conversation unlike any we’d had before. Months later, that meetup marks an important turning point in our friendship. A seal that required breaking.

Adult friendships are finicky. They look different from the ones that fell into our laps in school, when connections bloomed through seating charts and group projects and team sports. As we get older, making friends becomes a more active pursuit, meaning it feels like there’s a right and wrong way to do it. Of course that’s not exactly true, but each new friendship does require a kind of improvised process, the most successful of which will probably hit similar beats.

For this month’s Writers Club prompt, we want you to spell out that process in familiar terms. What are the five stages of new friendship when you’re an adult? What does courting look and feel like? What are the twists and turns that make the process feel a little familiar, no matter whom it concerns? Tell us in 500 words or less and email it to write@manrepeller on or by October 25th.

Graphic by Dasha Faires.

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