5 People on Why They’re Spending the Holidays Alone
12.22.17

There is a definite stigma attached to the idea of spending the winter holidays alone. It’s reinforced by movies like The Holiday wherein single women lament the prospect of a solo Christmas, general hype around gift-giving and all the other cultural clichés that seem to tell the same, repetitive story: If you’re alone this time of year, your life is lacking.

Like most stigmas, this one is due for a check-up. I asked five people spending the holidays alone in different parts of the world to share their particular reasons for doing so and what highs and lows they predict will come from the experience. No two answers were the same, and that’s what I love about lifting the hood on a preconceived notion and polishing away the rust of stereotype. The collective gleam underneath almost always tells a different story.


Kasumi Mizoguchi

Kasumi is a 25-year-old sales consultant at a software-as-a-service company in Tokyo.

What holiday(s) are you spending alone, and why?

I’m spending Christmas and New Year’s Eve alone this year. I live in Japan, and Christmas is actually marketed as a “couples” holiday here, so many of my friends spend Christmas with their significant others. It is comparable to Valentine’s Day in the U.S.: an occasion for a romantic dinner for two. You’ll see a lot of “gift guides for your significant other” and date ideas on magazines and TV programs in December. People talk about being single this time of year as something tragic!

Having spent time living in the U.S., my family still celebrates Christmas the American way — presents under the tree, a big homemade dinner and a cake — but because my parents happen to be moving back to the U.S. this month, I’ll be solo. It’s not that big of a deal; in fact, in the past, since Christmas isn’t a public holiday here, I’m used to treating it like any other day.

New Year’s, on the other hand, is a major family holiday in Japan. Everyone spends time with their parents or distant relatives, eats traditional New Year’s food called osechi, pays a visit to the shrine, etc. This year will be my first time spending New Year’s alone.

What are you planning to do?

Not much. Maybe cook myself dinner and read or watch a movie? Get a big thing of mint chocolate chip ice cream? The world is my oyster.

What about the experience do you think will be most challenging?

I doubt I’ll find it challenging. I guess it may seem a bit sad to some people, but Christmas in particular has no significance to me.

What about the experience are you looking forward to?

No stress, no fuss, no nothin’.


Molly Simeone

Molly is a 23-year-old registered nurse who works in a neonatal intensive care unit in Boston. 

What holiday(s) are you spending alone, and why?

I’ll be spending Christmas Eve and Christmas Day alone. I’m scheduled to work December 23rd-26th. I have worked during the holidays before, but at the time I lived in Connecticut where my family is and was still able to see them and celebrate after my shifts. I’ve moved since, so this year is the first time I will be truly alone. My roommate is also a nurse, but we are working different shifts — when I leave work for the night, she’ll just be clocking in.

What are you planning to do?

I’m working 7 a.m. to 7 p.m. both Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. We’re having a big potluck and doing Secret Santa at work, which will be fun. My floor really goes all-out for the holidays. It definitely helps to have a “work family” when I can’t be near my actual family.

I don’t have any crazy plans after my shifts. I’ll come home, make dinner, shower and go to bed relatively early — lame, I know! My parents usually buy my sister and me new festive pajamas to wear Christmas Eve. It sounds cheesy, but I’ll probably put on an old pair just to stick with tradition.

What about the experience do you think will be most challenging?

Coming home to an empty apartment. To me, the holidays are about family, and being apart from mine will be hard. I’m sure they will try to FaceTime me into their celebrations, but it’s not the same.

What about the experience are you looking forward to?

I’m looking forward to being present for my patients and their families. While it is hard to work during the holidays, it’s even harder to be a patient in a hospital during this time of year. Since I work with newborn babies, they’ll be celebrating their very first Christmas in the hospital. We will do something special so it feels like Christmas for them, like make a craft with all of their footprints. Some of the babies are small enough that we can fit them in Christmas stockings, so we’ll do that and take a photo for their parents. We’ll also cover their isolettes (newborn infant incubators) with festive holiday quilts.


Julia Knolle

Julia is the 35-year-old co-founder and editor-in-chief of Hey Woman!, a web destination for smart and savvy women based in Berlin.

What holiday(s) are you spending alone, and why?

Christmas has never been my favorite holiday. Growing up, I had to split the day between the homes of my parents, who are separated. Eventually, I convinced them I needed this time to myself to recharge from work. After eight years of doing so, they now understand and fully accept this decision, which makes it way easier for me.

I also don’t subscribe to the tradition of forced gift-giving. There are so many other ways you can express that you care about someone. I occasionally visit my family after Christmas, but I only bring a present if I have a particularly good idea. If not, my homemade sweets will do.

What are you planning to do?

The Friday before Christmas, I plan to celebrate by finally leaving the office (which has been my second home for the last 12 months since I never got a real summer break). I’ll jump straight into my black leggings and ideally avoid wearing normal pants or jeans for the next two weeks, or makeup of any kind.

I have a pile of books begging to be read and a list of TV series I want to watch. I can’t think of anything more luxurious than being able to do yoga or go on a run almost every day of the week, whenever the mood strikes. Plus, I’ll have so much time to prepare healthy food, sleep as much as I please and get back into green tea to replace the slight coffee addiction that has slipped into my daily work routine again. I’m planning to put my phone away and on silent mode as much as possible.

What about the experience do you think will be most challenging?

Since this is my favorite time of the year, there is no challenge in sight.

What about the experience are you looking forward to?

As selfish as it sounds, I’m most excited about focusing on myself. The holidays provide a rare window of time in which I can really do that. Everyone else will be busy skiing, sunbathing or seeing their families, so no one will be offended when I go off the grid. After two weeks of unplugging, I think I will actually look forward to returning to work.


Travis Weaver

Travis is a 27-year-old stylist and designer living in Brooklyn. 

What holiday(s) are you spending alone, and why?

I am staying in New York for Christmas and New Year’s Eve. Though I’ve previously spent the holidays apart from my family in Michigan (my boyfriend of seven years is from Australia, so we often go there or Europe for the holidays), this year will be the first time I’m spending them completely alone.

What are you planning to do?

I am planning on sewing my FW18 collection for my brand One DNA. In addition to designing and creating my own clothes, I also have a full-time 9-5 job, so I am taking advantage of the time off to sew. I will probably cook a vegan chili for myself to eat on Christmas Eve and Christmas.

What about the experience do you think will be most challenging?

I am someone who loves to be surrounded by people all the time. It will be challenging to not have human interactions since all my friends will be away, too. I might visit Prospect Park to get outside and see other humans, or maybe I’ll go ice-skating.

Not having a New Year’s Eve kiss will also be a challenge. My boyfriend will be in Australia with his family, so I will not get to physically kiss him, but we plan to FaceTime at midnight to say cheers. This will be our first New Year’s Eve apart since we started dating.

What about the experience are you looking forward to?

I’m looking forward to sewing. It’s my passion, but I don’t always have the time to devote to it during the busy workweek. Every time I sew, I learn something new about my machine.

I also look forward to snacking on all of my favorite foods (specifically chips and salsa, hummus with pita, and oatmeal raisin cookies) and watching TV or movies (Black Mirror is on my list, as is The Killing of a Sacred Deer).


Tiago Valente

Tiago is a 38-year-old multidisciplinary artist and creative director living in New York City.

What holiday(s) are you spending alone, and why?

I’m spending Christmas Eve and Christmas Day alone, the perfect occasion to have a lovely date with my inner Grinch. I currently have no plans on the horizon and am therefore open to whatever my Grinchy side might desire. In the past, I’ve always tried to spend the holidays somewhere by the ocean. Part of my family is Brazilian, and I grew up following the Brazilian New Year’s Eve tradition of jumping over seven waves, one straight after the other. It’s a tribute to Yemanjá, the goddess of the sea. For each jump, you are allowed to make one wish for the new year. Even though I won’t be in Brazil this year, I guess the ocean is only a train ride away on the wonderful LIRR!

As a global nomad and researcher, I’ve spent the holidays alone in the past, but I’ve tried to reverse the stigma of doing so by seeking out compelling and memorable creative adventures. I’ve traveled to the middle of the jungle, coexisted with tribal groups, learned how to talk to volcanoes and developed art interventions in some of the world’s most unexpected places. However, this year, I choose to stay in New York City, and it’s just starting to hit me that everyone else will be gone…ugh. I’m trying to reframe it in my mind as an opportunity to continue my personal tradition of taking a situation that might seem sad or lonely on the surface and transform it into an exciting new adventure. My creative juices are already boiling in the kitchen.

What are you planning to do?

I’m going to immerse myself in a new adventure of public intervention and “invade” some spots around the city with a new art project. I can’t reveal much about it yet as it would ruin the surprise, but stay alert and start paying attention to the hashtag #talktoyouralterego.

What about the experience do you think will be most challenging?

The freezing cold weather! Give me tropical mosquito bites instead of runny noses and cold hands, please.

What about the experience are you looking forward to?

One of the most valuable lessons I have learned over the course of my past adventures is that creativity is a universal language that transcends any cultural, social or emotional barrier. Creativity brings communities together and initiates conversations. That’s why I am not worried about being “alone,” because aloneness is just empty space waiting to be filled with unexpected encounters and wonderful conversations. And you know what? I am ready to savor every little second of it. Ciao, Grinch!

Illustrations by Ana Leovy

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  • Elise

    All about this, particularly Molly’s outlook on spending the Holidays in a hospital — love that they do something so sweet for those babies and their parents. <3

    • Mia

      I recently spent some time in the ER- and, while there, I noticed how much of themselves nurses and doctors give to their patients/jobs- it’s all hours, all days, and very serious (no time to pee), and I think Molly and other medical professionals, who give so completely to the care of others, regardless of the calendar day, should have lots of respect and good vibes.

      • Georgia Christakis

        As a pediatric resident who’s worked every New Years since graduating medical school- thank you! A little appreciation goes a long way. Molly’s attitude is a nice example of how we should all try to be when working in stressful environments on a holiday. Happy Holidays. xx

    • cecilrahn

      i was born on christmas eve and can confirm holiday traditions are present in every hospital i know of. i myself was swaddled in an XL stocking on my trip home from the hospital!

      • Elise

        So cute — be still my heart!!!

  • Adrianna

    One of my favorite Christmas’s was the one I spent alone. I ate fried pierogi and chicken cutlets, watched vintage America’s Top Model, and went to Polish midnight mass at a Polish church three blocks away from my apartment.

    I was also training for a half marathon at the time, so it was insanely bizarre to be drenched in sweat after running 9 miles in a t-shirt and shorts, because it was 70 degrees and humid on December 24th.

    • rachel

      I haven’t been in a few years but my family and I used go to see my mom’s family in buffalo, and we always always went to midnight Polish mass. I hated it as a kid but now that you mention it I am feeling a bit nostalgic

      • Adrianna

        I’ll go about once a year purely for nostalgic/cultural reasons. I hated the amount of time I spent in church as a Polish child

  • Amanda Faerber

    Just before reading this, I was daydreaming about how nice it would be to spend the holidays alone. Why? To avoid awkward relative small talk, possible political explosions, and randoms you see once a year prying into your life would be great. This might be the first year I will have to try and politely yet firmly shut down the ‘why aren’t you married’ interrogation. Makes me just want to run away. I am so envious of these folks, even though they aren’t all choosing to spend the holidays alone, because if I could choose to roll solo, I definitely would.

    • Adrianna

      I know that the grass is always greener on the other side, but being partnered means I have to go to not one, but two family homes for Christmas. (I live in NYC, and I will be traveling to NJ and PA.) There’s cliches about being an outsider when you visit your partner’s family, but no one talks about.. how boring it is to sit around and discuss things like family cookie recipes and Christmas decorations with people you don’t know. I was so bored out of my skull and car sick from the travel on Thanksgiving that I desperately wanted to suggest that we go away on vacation in the future.

      • Amanda Faerber

        Yes, same!! There is no travel involved but combining events with my family, his family, and now my sister-in-law’s family, it’s pretty much non-stop until forever (it feels like). The BF and I have talked wistfully about taking the holidays off and going someplace sunny … this might be the year that turns that dream into a “we’ll fight for it” reality. Is it wrong to make it a New Year’s resolution to try and spend the holidays alone???

        BTW: I generally enjoy my family and his. It’s just this has been a long year, amiright?

        • Adrianna

          Yeah we’ve been into Christmas the past couple of years in our NYC life, but I’ve just had zero interest this year. We recently moved, and I’ve burnt out on thinking about decor and purchases.

          I don’t mind his family, but I would much rather spend the time reading a book or something. I don’t have any sort of relationship with anyone, nor am I the type of person who wants to surround myself with people, so it reminds me of how I feel when I have to go to the DMV.

      • tuberoseandvetiver

        Yes! I think I much prefer to see my partner’s family casually throughout the year, but during the holiday everyone is just stressed out from hosting/traveling and tries very hard to have a good time. Christmas vacation getaway sounds amazing right now.

      • Jam Jam

        I hear you. I’ve met most relationship expectations kicking and screaming, and I can’t get my head around the expectation for me to meet and hang with my fella’s family. My relationship is with him, not relatives. I don’t buy into it—luckily, he gets where I’m coming from.
        I’m played nice through childhood, I’m over it. No more Ms. Nice Girl.

      • JennyWren

        I think it’s so much more depressing to be on the road at Christmas than it is to be alone. My side of the family lives overseas, so it’s not always feasible for me to go home, but that’s fine. If you’re not religious (as I am not) it’s just a couple of days off work in which to hang out and sleep in as much as possible. We’re spending Christmas with my husband’s family this year so it was a six hour drive yesterday and another back tomorrow. They are lovely people but they all know each other better than I do, so I usually just feel like a leftover. And either you skip church and everyone gives you the sad eyes, or you go and end up feeling like a hypocrite.

    • Kate Hal

      I’m so sick of the ‘why don’t you have a boyfriend/why aren’t you married yet’ talk. I try to explain that I am dating, but that I haven’t met anyone I’d like to be in a relationship with. I then get the ‘your eggs will dry up if you wait too long’ exclamation, to which I roll my eyes, force a laugh and wander off (with a, hopefully, full glass of wine).

      • I’m single and I don’t want children. I don’t know if you want them but, usually, a smart, caustic answer floor people, and most of all makes them shut up.
        Like “children? Are you crazy? What a pain the a**” 🙂

        • Kate Hal

          Yeah, I do want children, but I think I might just say that to shut them up 😀

          • Trust me, it works! 🙂 Merry Christmas!

    • “possible political explosions”, I’m not American and I don’t live in US but… so true. European situation is not merry, either.
      I don’t celebrate Christmas anymore but, since I’m single, I dream of spending it alone on the couch, reading and watching something good on tv.

  • Madeline

    Love these illustrations so much!

    • Rebecca B

      So fun and colourful !!

  • Jaclyn Levy

    The artwork is outstanding! Gorgeous portraits.

  • Lauren

    Thanks for this article, it’s superb! I’m spending Christmas on my own for the second time in my life (the first I was gravely ill) and I’m really looking forward to it this year! Christmas is always stuffing yourself with food and drink and it tires me out so much that I get a headache. I’ve had such a full on year that I just need this down time to recuperate but I’ve felt like it makes me such a lonely loser to be alone for Christmas. My family are 6000 miles away, and I’ll miss them terribly. Thanks for making me happy to be alone this year, it really is ok 🙂

  • ClothesHorse

    I love Julia’s answers, and I wish my holidays alone last year were as idyllic!

    But I live in London, and last year, just a few days before my flatmate had left to go home for Christmas, we saw a mouse in the kitchen. I was so, so paranoid, and ended up spending the whole Christmas alone in my flat googling mouse-trapping devices and ordering takeaway in my dark and freezing flat….definitely hoping for a better one this year. X

    • Ana

      Also from London 🙋🏼‍♀️ You just perfectly summed up living in London lolol

  • kforkarli

    I really enjoyed this!

  • Just the same with me, I’m not the only onl who spend holiday alone lol

  • tuberoseandvetiver

    For the past four Christmas I’ve spent with my partner’s family because I’m foreign. They are nice and but it’s a lot. Not seeing my own family during this time is also hard for me. I hate the forced togetherness and holiday food always makes me sick for some reason. I really, really, really want to spend Christmas alone, or just with my parents. Marking it as one of my goals for 2018.

  • Debby A. Debryana

    Gonna be part of these people who will spend their holidays alone too. But after reading this, I am actually looking forward to it! Merry Christmas everyone!

  • It’s almost a little absurd that we’re taught to feel lonely or sad on days like Christmas, Valentine’s Day etc., if we’re not spending those days the way we’re expected to. Objectively, they’re just another day in the year, but we put so much value in them that they suddenly become significant. It’s interesting to see how people think they have to meet some expectations, but in reality, it always comes down to us and how we react to it.

    • Additionally, they can be significant with OR without someone to share them with, you know? I am spending my first holiday season alone currently and although I was tempted to just treat Christmas like any other day off of work, I made sure to do special things, like packing a festive picnic and heading to the beach for my first tropical Christmas, or buying myself fancy coffee, so the day would be memorable.

      • Yeah, I agree. I mean, despite all the criticism Christmas tends to get every year, I always make sure to take full advantage of it and enjoy myself (like unapologetically eating as many cookies as humanly possible without feeling bad about it). I’m glad you got to enjoy it, too! Also proves that hanging out with yourself can be a pretty good day out. 🙂

  • ladle

    I usually spend Christmas having a nice lunch/dinner with my mom. We get along awesomely (and we live together) so it’s not that big of a deal. I also spend New Years with her, and am asleep by nine usually. This year the difference will be that I am going out on the first of January with my best friend. I am looking froward to the new experience and catching up.
    I wouldn’t really mind spending the holidays alone, since I don’t have a lot of close knit family, apart from my mom. I am a lone wolf at heart. I guess.

  • Néo Bourgeois — Christum

    losers

    • Gemgirl

      I spent Christmas with family….but, I’m glad I showed up here only to say: “No, you’re the loser”. Anyone who would troll some obscure internet thread about solitary Christmases….and call people names….is absolutely deserving of the moniker of ‘loser’. You, in fact, epitomize the word. I’m sorry you’re such a loser. You poor thing. I feel sorry for you.

  • I had planned to spend NYE with my friend, but she bailed (she chose her significant other at the last minute). I feel hurt, but I’m definitely looking to spending sometime alone, after spending Christmas with a large family.

  • These are great! I just wrote a piece about this myself and love hearing other people’s stories. I love how they reveal the complexity of a life alone — no two stories are the same. (I especially applaud those who are working on the holidays — especially those who are working to help others.)

    I’m also spending the holidays alone — in a foreign country. I find that for me it I do a bit of preparation ahead of time (mostly involving stocking up on my favorite foods and drinks) the days can be enjoyable. Peaceful and quiet and relaxing. I love it when I can be with my family or friends during the holidays, but I also love it when I can be with me. Learning to remove the stigma of being alone has been an ongoing challenge but one that is immensely liberating.

  • Kim

    These illustrations are wonderful; bravo!

  • At the end of October I uprooted from Australia to London – a city where I didn’t have a job lined up/ didn’t know anyone/ didn’t know how to operate. The last two months have been such a flurry of activity getting my life in order (now, thankfully, have a Sainsbury’s card & job) that I am completely content with doing nothing come December 25th.

    What was lovely though was the sheer number of new friends and work colleagues (essentially people I barely know) offering for me to spend Christmas with them. So, while I’m choosing to be alone, I’ve discovered I’m not lonely, which is a present in itself.

    Merry Christmas fellow festive season solo-ers!

  • DON’T WATCH ‘THE KILLING OF A SACRED DEER.’ Not worth the 2 hours of anxious tension.

  • Odette Greyling

    I could not agree more. I live in Catalonia and have to go to dinner with a mix of Spanish and Independists.I also have the flu, a fever and a headache. Torture. My family is all over the world and don’t really fit into this family. I don’t feel like spending 5 hours around a table in a small flat with them, struggling to keep up in Spanish and Catalan, desperately hoping a political fight will not break out, my sister in law’s messy divorce will not come up, my mother in law will not remind me that I have stolen her ‘niño’ from her…the list goes on. How do I convince my very traditional Spanish / Catalan man that I want to be alone and remember my own traditions and cry about my mom who died. Sorry, I needed to rant. Thanks 🙂

  • Idi

    I voluntarily decided to skip out on the holiday festivities to enjoy solitude this holiday season. My folks are merely about 30 mins away. No, I do not have anything against them. I just thought this would be the perfect time to really give back to myself especially when I was feeling symptoms of burn out. I feel like I’ve been literally ripping and running this month – multiple holiday parties, dates, juggling 2 jobs…yeah I was in need of a much warranted break so this is how I decided to give it a go. I feel like I made the right decision as I’m able to really rest, eat well and attend to neglected responsibilities in my apartment. I let loved ones and friends know that I would be taking a brief hiatus so that they would not worry. I completely shut off my phone since Friday night. I am so glad that I gave back to myself in this way. #notlonely #notsad #selfcare #MerryChristmas

  • Kattigans

    This year was one of the best Christmas’s I’ve had in a long time. Last year was horrible for a variety of reasons. This year I wasn’t entirely alone bc I had xmas eve dinner with my dad and then did Chrismakah (mom + stepdad are a judeo-“christian” pair) stuff. Both events were so low key and perfect. But despite seeing my parents, I woke up in my house alone on xmas eve and Christmas morning. And I have to say it was a great feeling. There was a stillness in the air that felt so peaceful. I live alone and having the feeling of just waking up, no obligations, no stress, no nothing was perfect especially after such a tumultuous year. For the first time in my young adult life, I finally feel like I’m ending a year on a personal high note. Oh, what a feeling.

  • Sati Marie Frost

    I spent the day alone yesterday because my family disinvited me. I’m not quite sure why, and it was miserable. Last year, I was also alone (in hospital) and this year I made such an effort to enjoy the season (and my currently unemployed ass spent way too much on presents!) so it was a bit of a shock to find myself alone. My BFF, after driving 200 miles to spend Christmas Eve with me, had a car breakdown and had to spend the night at his mom’s.

    I think this article gives me hope because it shows me how different it could be if I *chose* to be alone. I actually enjoy being alone most of the time – I spent last summer writing in a studio apartment in China, and my only interactions were pointing and smiling at the supermarket cashiers and takeout restaurant staff once a day (I don’t speak either Mandarin or Cantonese) – so I have faith that Christmas alone might be fun one day. So thanks, Harling et al.

    The breakup from my family is going to be difficult – this Christmas is just the last straw in a long line of things – but I think it’ll be healthy for me to focus on myself for a while. Maybe one day we’ll work things out and be able to be civil, but right now I’m learning that I deserve better than continual exclusion.

    And next Christmas, I’m saying b*****s to present-buying, and going to the Maldives instead. 🙂

    • Kat

      Definitely look after yourself first! I’m sorry to hear of your troubles with your family, but they don’t get a free pass just cos you’re related. Everyone should still be kind to everyone else! If they are going to exclude you like that you’re better off with a “family” you choose. Bring on the sunny xmas with no clutter-causing present buying! I hope you had a good NYE and enjoy 2018!

  • Michelle

    I could relate to Julia from Berlin’s story. I have never understood compulsory gift giving and choose not to buy into it. I’d rather give my loved ones a gift when I randomly see something that reminds me of them, or when I feel like I want to give. Not because society tells us we should all give on this one day. I just don’t get it.

  • Kara

    Even though I am not big on social settings or on hanging out with family, it took me until this year (at the age ignored 24) to not care about going toy parents for Christmas. I decided to skip all that chaos and go for my moms birthday instead (on the 1st). Not only will I save myself from having to buy a bunch of gifts that may not get used, I’m also saving money because plane tickets are half the price after Christmas. I’m one who had to become independent from my family at a young age because my sanity depended on it and I can’t keep sacrificing myself by forcibly showing up every xmas and allowing extended relatives (who hardly know me) to guilt trip me for not living nearby (though they never cared to see me when I did) and judge me for not finishing college. I only care to see my parents and siblings, share a few meals and that’s it. Everything else is exhausting tradition.

  • Maria Fernandez-Davila

    wow this was perfect to read!

    I usually spend Christmas with my immediate family (mom, dad, sis) doing the usual nice dinner, opening gifts, etc. but this year we decided to take an international trip. After our family vacation self-imploded amongst arguments, food poisoning and altitude sickness, we all were exhausted and decided to part ways right before the holiday to avoid any more bad luck. I spent Christmas for the first time alone this year, in NYC, just me and my dog. Surprisingly, it wasn’t that sad at all. I cooked and baked for myself and finished a puzzle while watching holiday movies. It felt like a real mini ~vacation to rest and relax. Next year I will surely want to go back to doing our usual family tradition but it was interesting to be alone for the first time. Glad to see I wasn’t the only one!

  • Aydan

    Yes yes yes to all of these, but rather than stay home for the holidays I packed up and jetted out to the Austrian mountains! I’m on a solo week long trip (started on Christmas) that will roll right through to New Years Day! Its my first time taking a solo trip at this time of year and I can tell you despite this little interlude of checking ManRepeller, I’ve been writing, reading, walking, eating, and BREATHING the fresh air and am thoroughly enjoying myself. Whether its at home or a physical extraction from one’s comfort place, I do really believe that it is so important to nourish one’s soul–BY ITSELF! You may even surprise yourself!

  • Bella Zaydenberg

    This was such a necessary read today. While spending Christmas alone isn’t much of a thing for me (I’m Jewish, and my family usually gets together for one night of Hanukkah dinner) I was really looking forward to spending New Year’s Eve with my boyfriend (it would be our first one together!) Unfortunately, he has to spend it with family, as it’s a big family/tradition thing with his extended fam.

    At first, I was miserable. And sure, my friends invited me to parties, to bars, etc. But IDK — I’ve been really into the idea of just hanging out at home and treating it as any other night. Like, I’m gonna draw up a bath, cook dinner, eat, sleep, wake up the next day.

    There’s so much hype around having the WILDEST NYE plans, but I feel like the best plans can sometimes be having no plans. Besides, I don’t feel like spending money on a NYE outfit I’ll literally only wear once, ya know?

  • This could be the theme song — If I Don’t Make it Through This Christmas
    https://soundcloud.com/megan-schroder/if-i-dont-make-it-through-this

    Happy New Year, everyone. We made it through!