I’m not positive this is unconventional, but things really locked in for me, attraction-wise, when my boyfriend recited the quadratic equation by memory. I also fell deeper in love with him when I learned he was a mathlete in high school. He had to get up at 6 a.m. for it! That’s math dedication!
It would be dishonest to call this a one-off. A boy I dated in high school, who I’m pretty sure was just my good friend and not my boyfriend despite us titling ourselves otherwise, once drew me on his graphing calculator. It was very romantic and a genuinely good portrait. I’m livid I don’t have it framed in my living room.
Both of these guys, now that I think of it, went against the “math nerd” stereotype and are also very artistic. I wonder if I’ve been waiting my whole life to date a mathletic artist. I can’t even say that with irony; I’m genuinely turned on by that combination. I also like beards and glasses, but that feels unrelated, and also pretty whatever.
Attraction is a curious thing. Despite what Cosmo-of-the-90s would have us believe, entire genders are not “driven wild” by the same things. Everyone I know has massively different predilections; that’s part of what makes gossiping about dates and relationships endlessly interesting. The clichés about what men and women like are so boring and, more dangerously, often wrong. I present my late research on spooning as Exhibit A.
I think the shape of our attraction ought to be considered as complex as the shape of our personalities, which is why I’d like to request you consider the below comments section Exhibit B: a safe space for sharing what unconventional qualities attract you. Let’s paint this picture as colorfully as possible. And while we’re at it, maybe let’s discuss conventional ones, too, because I’m still processing being turned on by Avi drilling something into a wall the other day and I need someone to talk me through it.
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