What’s Your Fashion Equivalent of a Baby Blanket?

What’s nice about a button down shirt is that, should the situation call for it, you could rip the shirt off your body without really ruining it. (I taught myself how to sew buttons back on shirts just in case.)

See, when you dress as casually as I do, it’s nice to wear things that have a bit of secret drama. I don’t know when I’d ever need to rip my shirt right off, but it’s nice to know that I COULD be enflamed in a fit of passion at any moment, without having to fumble with buttons. It’s nice to know that I COULD flash someone if I needed to get someone out of detention like Cat did in 10 Things I Hate About You but without untucking my shirt.

I also like button downs because they always look good on me, no matter what kind of day I’m having. They fix every outfit when I don’t know what to wear. They work in every kind of weather. They always make me feel put together. They can work as a skirt if you’ve got one large enough, or they can be worn sans pants as a beach coverup. And they make me feel like me. The whole world and every dad wears button downs; they’re hardly unique. But when I wear one, I feel like I’m in “my signature.”

While getting dressed one day, my friend Sam, who had been staying with me for over a week, said, “Button downs are like your security blanket, huh? They make you feel comfortable.” I’d never really thought about it before. She was right. She told me hers were these oversize scoop-neck T-shirts that she had a bulk of in black, white and navy.

I think about this idea every time I reach for a button down. Before, when I grabbed one, it felt like a cop-out. “You can do better than this. You can be more creative than this,” I’d whisper to myself. But now I’m like, “Yes. Grab that cozy motherfucker and feel good about yourself all day.” I definitely have the same thing with sweaters, too. You can’t rip those open but maybe that’s for the best; security blankets have a tendency to wear down as-is. Then your mom puts them in the wash without asking your permission and they turn to shreds and you have to cuddle a piece of string all through college

Anyway. What’s your fashion security blanket? Why does it comfort you, or make your outfits feel complete? Post a picture if you have one. Give your security blankets its much-deserved glory!

Photo by Louisiana Mei Gelpi; Tiffany & Co. necklace.

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  • Alice

    A line dresses! I’ve gained weight and have been dealing with some crazy bloating so those make me feel comfortable and put together. Lipstick and sunglasses complete the look.
    Also really thick, loose sweaters in the winter.

    • Amelia Diamond

      where do you like your dresses from

      • Alice

        Most are from Mango but I have a great one from Uniqlo! I would try more Uniqlo ones if they had lower shipping and returns to where I’m from.

    • Marquise de Merteuil

      Same here with the dress + lipstick + sunglasses

      • Alice

        It’s a winning combination!

    • Daisy Tinker

      Oh, and if you luv a thick, loose sweater, you gotta check out this Weekday one I got the other day. It’s maybe the best thing i’ve ever brought because when they say “oversized” they don’t just mean a bit baggy, they mean “fucking gigantic and boxy” in a great way. Think you might like it! http://shop.weekday.com/gb/Womens_shop/Sweatshirts/Super_Sweatshirt/542466-13645364.1#c-47958

      • Alice

        Which size did you get? I’ll offer this one in return: http://www.stories.com/gb/Ready-to-wear/Knitwear/Wool_Sweater/582940-0567261001.2

        I bought it while on holiday and since it was too hot to wear it I carried it around when travelling like Linus. It’s just so cosy and flattering but blobby.

        • Daisy Tinker

          Ooo, this is cute, thanks! Is it soft?? What was sizing like? I got a L! It’s great cos it’s huge but didn’t end up turning into a jumper dress πŸ™‚

          • Alice

            It’s super soft! I’m going to check the size later. It’s the perfect gray.

  • jen

    leather jacket!!!

  • Abigail Larson

    Outdoor Voices leggings. I have really long legs even though I’m only 5′ 5″, and I can’t ever find jeans or pants that fit me well.

    • Amelia Diamond

      those OVs are always too long on me! (i get the shorties to fix)

      • Hayley

        They are even long on me and I am 5’10”!

  • Elisabeth

    Skinny jeans and when serious Scandi winter arrives skinny leather pants + loose fit round neck t-shirts.
    I’ve felt exactly the same – looking myself in the mirror and thinking “you can do better” hah. I think doing better would be ironing my laundry and pulling on one of those many shirts that I never wear because I never iron!

    • Amelia Diamond

      i need to re-think getting back into leather pants

  • tmm16

    Leather jacket and vintage Levi’s. I know, so predictable, but I could wear it anywhere and feel good in it.

    I also love a good white button-down as well!

  • I always feel put together in my Common Projects, even if I’m wearing ripped jeans. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/58818238ea6598bff41909e77bc4826d638a4c480a02674b03661ef1cc7056e3.png

    • Amelia Diamond

      ideal commuting shoes

  • Hayley

    My ancient-as-fuq grandpa cashmere sweater that I got from the lost-and-found bin at a small department store I worked for in high school. This sweater must be older than me, and is so worn in and comfortable (in a perfect truffle brown, I might add) that I breathe a sigh of contentment any time I put it on. My husband and I will actually fight over who gets to wear it in the winter.

  • Emily

    White eyelet tops (of any kind), skinny jeans, and nice brown leather shoes. definitely my uniform, and also a combination I love on literally anyone.

    • Amelia Diamond

      all season? (sounds verS)

      • Emily

        yes!! bc just as good with boots and a coat in winter as with sandals in summer. the best

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  • Hayley

    Also, I’d love to see someone stylize their security blanket into an article of clothing.

    • Amelia Diamond

      ha like their literal baby blankie?

      • Hayley

        Yes! I imagine you’d need additional fabric, but I’m picturing lots of knit crop sweaters and scarves…

  • Kelsey

    Crew neck t-shirts- I own too many love them all dearly.

  • afaithleader

    A white 90s Gap cabled sweater that I stole from my mom and have never figured out how to properly clean. Baby blankets are always gross.

    • Amelia Diamond


  • Natalia Soto

    i’ve got three of these pieces, and i wear them with other newer clothes or as an outfit. my short sleeved black turtleneck (so comfy!!), my vintage petite gloria vanderbilt jeans (the perfect fit on my thick thighs and short legs), and my nine west square toe boot heels (need i say more). the whole ensemble makes me feel like alyssa milano in “who’s the boss”.

    • Amelia Diamond

      omg picturing that outfit 100% b/c AM ref

    • Etch

      Literally just bought a pair of black ankle boots from Nine West. I blame you πŸ™‚

  • Ulricha Ferdinandsen Bodenhoff

    SO TRUE !!
    My Saks Potts coat because
    A) Comfort
    B) Color during winter months
    C) See face in photo

    • Imaiya Ravichandran

      GIRL!!! so fab.

    • Amelia Diamond


  • Abby

    Black, sleeveless, collared buttondown. It’s not too tight or too loose, can be dressed up or down, and goes with anything.

    • Amelia Diamond

      where’s your FAV from

      • Abby

        My fav is Urban Outfitters from my sophomore year of college (many, many years ago), but I recently got a really good one at Uniqlo!

  • Lindsey

    Really any tee shirt (but boxy preferred) and oversized sweaters. I want there to be space between my body and my clothes and to feel enveloped by them. Also, scarves. I know it’s very 2010 of me to have the stack of pashminas that I have, but IDGAF. They tuck my hair and make me feel snuggly, and (again, key word here) enveloped. I basically want to be swaddled at all times.

  • Shevaun

    I am at my most comfortable in my enormous Jeff shirt, giant sweatshirts, and skinny black jeans/pants.

    Oh and men’s or unisex Vans sneakers.

    • Shevaun

      Oh shit I just remembered that my other security blanket outfit is skinny high waisted black pants with black long sleeved turtleneck and black doc martens. I wore it to work at the library every weekend and it made me feel powerful and secure when kicking out undergrads.

      My husbu says it makes me look like an angry thespian.

      • I would like to start describing myself as an angry thespian.

        • Shevaun

          You get to wear a scowl to match. I also like to drape my huge scarf over my shoulders like a shawl as I stalk around, so, y’know, you can accessorize.

  • Alicia McElhaney

    Yes! button downs (paired with mini skirts) are my fav clothing experience. Comfortable & cute & easy to put together

  • Madeline C

    Monocrome of basically anything. All black, all white, all neutrals, all denim. It makes me feel put together even if what I am wearing are just my old standbys and most comfortable items.

  • The super predictable combo of black jeans (with a little flare!) and a denim button down. I always feel good in it and I feel like I can really easily dress up or down.

    OR I have this navy crewneck sweater that I love and is fitted but not too tight and kind of season-less and goes with everything.

  • Christel Michelle

    Fall is my favorite season because I can wear mini skirts with opaque tights, chunky knits or turtlenecks, and a leather jacket. That’s my go to outfit recipe. Always. And the shoe possibilities are ENDLESS.

    High waisted jeans (denim of any kind really), leather jackets, and culottes are all items I constantly reach for. Mini skirts are my ride or die item. I like playing with proportions, but to a certain extent. So, a micro mini with a huge blouse, or a sweater I’m swimming in. Or baggy boyfriend jeans and a tiny tube top. I got these culottes from Zara and the color and cut combo have easily made them my favorite/most powerful pant. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/5bb490cf6b7dd95aa84413cfdee9be81ccc7c4207aaa55ea8c146f52c749750c.jpg

  • Anni

    Max safety space: Midi skirt (solid color, interesting texture e.g pleated / satin / soft print) + button down with two buttons undone (office creative levels of acceptable collarbone cleavage) with the sleeves rolled up to my elbows and a pair of comfortable statement flats that ARE NOT BALLET FLATS.

  • Hansika Vijayaraghavan

    Cozy, J. Crew sweaters I’ve owned since high school. Oh and I’m a cop out for shoes – every year, I get a pair of staple shoes that I only change out of when the weather makes me otherwise (this year it’s a pair of Nisolo leather loafers)

  • Honestly, I think my fashion security blanket is a pair of ripped skinny leg Hudson jeans. I wear them year round; in the summer they’re perfect for cooler nights (I’m constantly cold) and in the winter they have enough stretch for layering leggings, thigh high socks, etc underneath. They go with pretty much everything and make ridiculous vintage tops (that I’m addicted to) look less costume-y.

  • high-waisted black skinny jeans till I die. They always make me feel great and easily put together any outfit

  • Callie Clemons

    Crisp, white, over-size, non-iron men’s button downs from Brooks Brothers. Throw on with with skinny jeans or leggings. Immediately makes me feel like Audrey Hepburn or Ina Garten (depending on mood).

  • Anne Dyer

    Cuffed sweatpants been rocking them since the 5th grade.

  • Mika Deshmukh

    I have a pink cropped flamingo sweater from h&m that works in every season–with skinny jeans and boots, bf jeans and sneakers, or even my denim skort and some sandals. Best part… it was on sale for $5!

  • JennyWren

    I have a massive cotton-jersey infinity scarf in forest green from American Apparel that I’ve had at least ten years. It goes everywhere with me, on plane or bus journeys you can roll it and use it as a pillow or as a blanket. It can be a shawl or a snood if you get caught in the sun or the rain. It’s amazing and I don’t know what I would do without it.
    Less specifically, grey sweatshirts, Breton stripe T shirts, and chunky statement necklaces. I’m very into no-effort effort.

  • Kelly Funderburk

    Boyfriend jeans — you can wear flip flops or tennis shoes during the day & embrace grunge and then flip a switch, mess with the tuck of your shirt, do your hair, and put on some heels and it looks thoughtful. They’re just *easy* cool

  • eden

    A good skirt. Every time I put on pants I feel uncomfortable and unsure but then I put on a dress or a skirt it’s like “Yes I’m about to go slay”.

  • imeansure

    Babydoll/smock/tent dresses. Lately, the more oversized, the better. It’s just so easy and just about any shoe works with them.

    • imeansure

      The alternative to this for me is skinny jeans, wedges, and an oversized top.

  • Beatrice

    Summer blankie is an oversized Brooks Brothers blue and white striped button down or a button down from Madewell (I have the Courier shirt in 4 colors😬) and in winter I always pull out my trusty navy cable knit wool Ralph crew neck sweater, purchased 2 sizes too big. Been with me 4 winters now and I actually have nightmares I’ll accidentally shrink/lose it.

  • sifsgoldwig

    For me, it’s a silk blouse, usually in cream or black and as flowy as possible. The drape on them is always lovely, they make me feel like a grown up lady, and they’re pretty much style chameleons, going from work appropriate with a skirt and heels to laid back cool with jeans and ankle boots. An added bonus is that they’re one of the easiest things to find in thrift shops and secondhand stores.

  • Jacqueline Melendez

    Plaid button downs during fall and winter from Levi are my absolute favorite. they go with everything, are great for layering and make me feel my most comfortable, best self

  • Christine Dyson

    Currently recruiting for a new security blanket following a wardrobe clear out so my list is earrings – if I’m not wearing them the day did not start well, wedge heel ankle boots – 1″ to 2″ heels and I feel positively leggy, crossbody bag because hands free is good plus it makes me carry less junk.

  • Aliki F

    Anything with stripes, horizontal ones, vertical ones, anything really as long as it’s striped! Skinny jeans are also my blanket, I love how they match with every kind of shoe, no need to overthink the outfit.


  • Miss Crystal

    Anything with polka dots!

  • Mareike Borkowski

    A trenchcoat! They always makes me feel put together. For me it’s something that projects instant-coolness but is so very comfy at the same time. Doesn’t matter if it’s my cheap AF Primark trench or my lovely vintage Buberry. Also, with a lovely trench it really doesn’t matter much what you’re wearing underneath.
    Oh! And my blood-red shiny brogues. I’ll wear them until they fall of my feet!

  • Emmie

    i think your friend Sam and I might be the same person. Oversized tees for the rest of my life.

  • PCE

    Honestly – my work dresses! I work in an industry where the predominant colors are black gray and more black, but I love patterns and colors! I have a few J. McLaughlin dresses that are the BEST material, great patterns and fit me perfectly. They’re magic.

  • Lucinda Bayly

    Round neck black vintage tee’s all the way. Can wear the same one five days in a row and never feel insecure. Oh, and skinny jeans. And black ankle boots. So maybe I have a few haha

  • Amanda

    dark navy, v-neck cashmere sweater from Uniqlo has become my security blanket for the past 3 years. The horror is I’ve moved to South Texas and may never need a sweater again!

  • Jolanda van der Wagt

    In my case it is not clothing but the accessoires that make me feel put together. Especially lipstick and jewelry… Even if I wear just a jeans and a blue shirt, an orange lipstick and a nice necklace never let me down :). I wonder what my friends think is my uniform now I think about it….

  • Sugar Bones

    Crop tops! Years and years of crop tops. I ride the plus/straight size line and have a small waist, and am constantly turning my tees into crop tops with knots and fancy tucks, scouting thrift stores for 80’s and 90’s crop tops, knotting button-downs into crop tops, buying fast fashion crop tops (and feeling guilty about that last). I wear them with pencil skirts, a-line skirts, midi and maxi skirts, high waisted pants, over dresses. I don’t end up showing much skin, but they give me the ~*structure*~ I crave while making me feel fearless.

  • Arden

    A friend recently snapchatted me a mirror selfie of him in high waist black jeans, loose white t-shirt, denim jacket and white converse, or as he called it: “The Arden”

  • Linda

    This thread of comments is so comforting..

  • Delaney

    A striped gauzy tunic bc I know I can eat as much as I want and still be swimming in it. Also great for when I’m on my period and absolutely NOTHING feels good except for this.

  • Pterodactyl111

    Cardigans all day every day

  • Aydan

    black shift dresses! can’t live without them!!

  • prairie dogs

    Heathered grey tshirts or tank tops in warm weather, a navy cashmere sweater when it’s cold. Vans all year round.

  • KTD091

    Definitely black jeans or leather leggings (I need a new pair this season, if anyone has any recs!) I wear the black jeans allllll the time but especially in fall/winter/spring with loafers or moccasins. In this heat, loose dresses in either black or white and sneakers.

  • Jessica

    My Mackage-Aritzia collab leather jacket. It is heavy AF, with many zips and pebbled leather and I wear it like every day. Always makes me feel cool and a bit edgy even if I am just wearing jeans a t shirt.

    Also, oddly I have a make up one. Colourful lipstick. I wear pretty much exclusively black/white/grey and then pick a bright/bold lipstick to go with it. Makes me feel done up and adds fun to my look regardless if I am literally just dressed in black t shirt and baggy black pants.

  • Hannah

    Red nail polish is my security blanket, I know it’s not an article of clothing but I’m going to count it. I’ve obviously tried other colours on my nails, but it never lasts long and I always go back to my classic red colour. I feel more comfortable and more myself when my nails are painted red.

    As well as having my hair long, I’ve tried cutting my hair short before but that ended up in me crying and spending a year waiting for it to grow back… skirts and dresses too, I’m really not a pants person and feel more comfortable and just good about myself in a skirt or dress rather than pants.

    I’m just weird I guess, but everyone has their habits and their security blanket. That just happens to be mine.

  • amcrni

    Striped shirts (usually in shades of black / white / gray / cream). A good pair of skinny jeans (dark, dark wash or black). That’s basically it for me. I looked through my closet once and realized how many simple patterns I gravitate towards (stripes, polka dots, little baby anchors, florals that aren’t too wildly in your face).

  • Andrea Raymer

    that Tiffany HardWear Necklace though!

  • Catherine Mardosa

    levi’s 501’s and a sturdy pair of boots. gold hoops. and lipstick.

  • White cotton button downs from Uniqlo. All day, erry day. Tucked in, tucked out, slim fit and extra loose

  • Ai-Ch’ng GB

    My seasonal clothing security blankets for warm cold months: always boyfriend, or flared jeans with any over-sized print T tucked in, my oversized vintage black leather biker… And for warm months, long slip dresses with T-s/wife-beaters underneath.

    Throughout the year (accessory) security blankets: a (pricey to me) belt and pair of sneakers, a plethora of mismatched earrings in my multiple ear piercings, and 14 antique chunky and thin gold rings (all layered: that’s how more rings than fingers can fit on fingers available)

  • alexia

    a bompard cashmere sweater : they are timeless, the cut is impeccable, I buy one in store every year on sale, always take a size up to feel cozy πŸ™‚ and I hunt the (very) old ones on ebay (fr), they’re indestructibles

  • Debby Azizah Debryana

    Mine is any kind of wide legged pants <3

  • Laura

    Gold hoops! I always need to be wearing earrings and I love them in all shapes and sizes, but my hoops are my go-to.

  • Natalie Smith

    A white t-shirt and black skinny (but not skintight!) jeans. It’s the ultimate blank-slate, non-statement outfit.

  • Jay

    For me it’s actually the T-Shirt. I figured that the Asos Boyfriend Tees are pretty darn good and so much cheaper than the drykorn ones I used to purchase all the time… so now for me it’s a skirt (some kind of paper back at the moment, or just a classic pencil one) and a tee for work (colours between white grey and black)… and the same shirt with jeans hotpants or mom-shorts for after work… or with my super cute jeans skirt with disney prints – so tacky but pretty cool nonetheless – and who doesn’t wanna be Belle?!

    Oh, and Sneakers for sure… all kinds of…

  • My denim jacket that previously belonged to my little brother when he was a husky middle schooler. I wear the shit out of it from October-March.

  • Tabitha

    Combat boots. If I can’t wear it with combat boots, I don’t need it. Coincidentally, I’ve found there’s really nothing I can’t make work with them.

  • My fashion security blanket is an all black outfit. There are so many ways to style a black outfit.

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  • Abigail

    Riding boots- you can wear a tee and leggings and you’ll look somewhat put together, which is ideal.

  • Marta Millere

    White t-shirts and black suede ankle boots. Work.with.everything.

  • Charlie

    I love the idea of a security blanket! Mine are definitely a dark blue super tight crew neck wool jumper from COS. The quality is crazy good and you see that immediately. And crew necks always make you look so put together no matter what you pair it with! I also reach for my mock turtle necks, turtles 🐒 and heavy knit jumpers as soon as the weather allows me to. Coming to think about it, mine come close to being actual blankets! But my ultimate go to is my jewellery. I’m not complete without my rings.

  • Holly

    My thrift shop $3 jeans that are an inch too short in the leg, which I sort of like, which fit me perfectly and make me regret all the $100+ jeans I have bought and now never wear.