3 Women on What They’ve Learned in Their 70+ Years of Life

When Emily, 77, told me that as long as I had enough money to pay my rent and feed myself, I should stop worrying, it was like she knocked one of my loose screws back into place. Her perspective felt refreshing, like a splash of cold water on a tired face. She was funny and irreverent, chock full of unassuming wisdom. I walked away from our conversation with a dopey smile, wondering if I could rope her into a weekly lunch.

A few weeks ago, Amelia, Leandra and I set out to interview women who had been around the block a few more times than us. I think we expected to learn a thing or two about getting older, sure, but I don’t think we were prepared to feel such a way about it. Emily, Barbara and Beatrix dished out amazing stories and advice with the kind of casual confidence that can only come with decades on earth, and — ask anyone in the MR office — the three of us couldn’t shut up about them. Scroll down to read their perspective and see if you get what we mean. (I think you will.) -Haley Nahman

Emily Lemer, 77, has lived in New York for 38 years. You can catch her on Advanced Style.

I don’t have a favorite part of aging because I don’t even think about it.  I’m really not different than when I was younger. I had a lot of energy then and I still do! I ski, I do yoga, I go to the theatre and the opera and the ballet. I’m out every night. I feel terrific. Albert and I just had our 25th wedding anniversary, which was a big bash with balloons and 125 people. I danced all night. I don’t notice that I’m aging. My only regret is that I’m not 40 again so that I can re-live the last 37 years. I had a good time.

Once in a while I reflect and think, “You know, you’re going to be 80 in three years…” But then I think, “Oh well, who cares? How should I spend it?” You have to stay in the now and not worry about aging. I never thought about it. I was too busy flying to Europe or the Middle East or partying or being jet-lagged. I was a flight attendant my whole career, 36 years. I was never sad at the thought of turning 30 or 40. I was having too much fun.

At 39, I moved to New York from Chicago to leave a bad marriage. And then I was a bachelorette in New York City. It was a fun time. Thank god it was the ‘70s or I’d be really in trouble. Around then my grandmother died, which was hard, and that’s when started meeting people that were into Eastern philosophy — you know, reincarnation, being present, believing we’re not a body but a soul. It gave me a new way of thinking that I’ve built on ever since.

As long as you have enough money to pay your rent and buy food, don’t worry about anything.

It’s not really scary, getting older, but it does make you think about leaving the body — about death. When I was traveling around the world last year, I came back to find my husband had a heart problem. I was shocked. I see him being ill, and I see other people getting really sick. When you’re taking care of somebody that you love that’s older, you think, “Oh, is this going to happen to me?” Your mind goes there. Aside from making sure I have long-term-care insurance and all that, I try to stay present. I don’t wallow very much. I think about my scheduling. About how many ballets can I go to in June. I take very good care of myself. I exercise, I do my yoga, I eat well, I take a lot of supplements. I have some aches and pains but they’re no different from, say, the ones you get when you’ve been skiing.

Most people my age can’t keep up with me. Their conversations aren’t very lively. Like, tell me what the children are doing — I’d be delighted to hear — but don’t give me the whole scenario. Don’t give me fifteen minutes of it! When I talk to young people, I learn things from them. Young people have so much life, you know?

When I married my first husband (I was about 25), we decided we didn’t want children. I’ve never regretted it. I’m so happy I don’t have kids. I wasn’t willing to spend the money or give up my job. It was the perfect decision for me, and most people I know that made the same one are still happy about it. It helps that we live in New York. I think if I lived in Ohio or something (where I’m from) life wouldn’t be as exciting. I wouldn’t be the person I am now. New York breathes all this excitement.

I’d advise people to stay young. In mind, I mean. Don’t think old. Hang out with the young people, hang out with new people! I see some people hanging around the same couples for years. I can’t imagine going out to the same dinner with the same batch of people every week. I mean, what are you going to talk about? Anything interesting?

And stop worrying so much. As long as you have enough money to pay your rent and buy food, don’t worry about anything. I have some young friends that work 14-hour days. Working too much is really the wrong way to do it. What is success? Financial success? Does that mean that you have to have a million dollars in your bank by the time you’re 30? I don’t think that’s necessary. Don’t do it. There’s a balance of being comfortable, of having enough money to live on and then just having a good time. You’ve got to balance. You’ve got to find time to play. You gotta have a little life, a little fun. Find your soul.

Barbara Flood, doesn’t do age or birthdays, but is a Scorpio

I used to be a model. I modeled for a very long time. I worked for a lot of people: Donna Karan when she was working for Anne Klein, Calvin Klein, for Oscar de la Renta and Rudi Gernreich — a style icon, you should look him up. I loved working with [the other models]. We all had Sassoon haircuts and we all smoked brown Sherman cigarettellos. It was a very creative time and people weren’t afraid to be individuals.

I grew up in a fashion household. My dad was in the knitwear business. When I was about 12 or 13, he told me he wanted me to model the sweaters. Terrific. I had no tits then, I have no tits now. That started my foray into the industry.

My parents were both European. They were from Poland and Russia, but they were in this country many, many years and they met and married here. They had a lot of artist friends and a lot of singer friends and so the household was always [full of people]. When people came to dinner, there was a choice of two things: they could have meat or they could have fish, and my mom believed too much is never enough. She was a redhead and had a great eye. We lived in The San Remo, which is this wonderful tower on the west side. I’m a New York kid, born and raised. The ‘60s and the ‘70s [were the best in NYC] because fashion was really exploding. It was a very creative time.

I don’t think my style has changed very much. Even [in the ’60s and ’70s], I never went out in nothing, I just couldn’t. I sleep with a body chain. I have two ankle bracelets that never come off and these three little diamond things that never come off. And glitter is important. A touch of glitter here and there is definitely important. It makes me happy. I feel like I’m Ginger Rogers or Fred Astaire walking down the streets. A little glitter uplifts your personality.

I’ve had four great relationships. It seems that I’ve learned from every guy I’ve been with. I learned about living in Europe, I learned about dance, I learned about directing, I learned about painting. These people were very important in my life, but I never wanted to be with them forever. I’ve been married and I don’t want to ever do that again. I have a child and I’m very happy to have him, but marriage is not for me. Living together, fine, but living apart is better. I have a huge amount of friends and a lot of close friends. They call me late at night to talk — they know I’m always up at 12 a.m.

I really don’t do age. If you say, “I’m 65,” or “94,” people calculate the time. They immediately think, Oh, senior citizen. But if you are who you are, you could be 20, you could be 100, and you are who you are and it comes across. I don’t want to think I’m getting older because I’m planning to stay around for a long time. I think about what’s happening in my life and what I want to do, you know?

Things happen to you physically [as you start to get older], although I have young friends going through a lot of stuff at well. I am a 16-year survivor of breast cancer, but I found it early. Things happen to you that you don’t want to happen to you; your body changes. But as long as the brain is alright and you can go forward, that’s the most important thing. It’s like Scarlett O’Hara said, “I’ll think about it tomorrow.” That’s me. I’ll think about it tomorrow or next week.

Guilt can paralyze you and it’s boring. What’s the point? I’d rather have some nuts and a glass of water and go to the theatre…

The best thing [about getting older] is knowledge. That you have the knowledge to say, “Oh yes, I did that, I went through that, I understand that, so I don’t have to obsess like some people do 24/7.” You don’t obsess so much and you just say, “I’m just going to do it,” you know? And that’s it.

I have no regrets about me and what I’ve chosen and what I’ve done and who I am today. I do have regrets that my mother died. She didn’t have to die, but she had a bladder infection on a weekend and being Jewish, she didn’t call the doctor because of her guilt. By the time we got to her it was too late. My dad died at 62 of stomach cancer and in today’s world he’d be alive. I have regrets that I was a Madoff person (you know, Bernie Madoff). I have big regrets about that because it changed a lot of my lifestyle; I never got any money back. The whole thing was a mess.

You have to learn everything, do everything, don’t be afraid, don’t have regrets, don’t have any guilt. Guilt can paralyze you and it’s boring. What’s the point? I’d rather have some nuts and a glass of water and go to the theatre, go to the movies, go to a museum and go out dancing.

Beatrix Ost, 77, says our only real homes are our bodies

I came to the United States in 1975 out of fun, I just fell in love with New York. My husband and I looked out the window of the Waldorf Astoria and said, “Why don’t we live here for a while?” And then, half a year later, we moved.

There is a trick to living here, you know, if you don’t leave before 10 years, you aren’t gonna leave. I think after ten years, you just become — I was neither/nor for a while, neither German nor American, and then it just happens. You settle in.

My husband and I were together over forty years, but he’s had a girlfriend since forever. I always tolerated it, sometimes with hysteria and with fights and not seeing him for a year, but then, five years ago she moved to Charlottesville, where we have a farm — she’s a lawyer and feisty — and that became unbearable. He changed dramatically. Now I’m just very tired of him being who he became. I don’t want to be with him.

If I could give my younger self advice, I would say be fearless but cautious. Go with your nose, with your instinct.

Men can sleep with a younger woman who could be their daughter and everybody says, “Oh he’s so great, he’s a nice guy, he got this very young woman, she could be his daughter.” But when a woman wants to sleep with a man her son’s age, “Oh my god, she has this very young guy, is he crazy? He sleeps with this older woman?” I am looked at, I know it, with desire and sexuality, but that is so alien here. In Europe, we don’t have that age thing.

Do I miss anything about my youth? What I miss is the view forward. In my youth, life was endless. We never think we will die tomorrow. We live in an illusion of limitless life. But I’m not at all afraid of death. I grew up after the war — death was so eminent. My grandmother died upstairs in a mahogany bed and two days later, that bed became mine.

If I could give my younger self advice, I would say be fearless but cautious. Go with your nose, with your instinct. And don’t regret; regrets don’t bring you anywhere. Just don’t repeat what you know you did wrong, “Okay that was a shit relationship, forget it, I’m not going to go for that again,” and then really be cautious. My son, who is a psychotherapist, said to me a few months ago, when I was sobbing about the end of the relationship I knew, “Mommy, you lived a roller coaster for so very long, do you want to stay in it, or do you want to get out?” This sobered me up. Yes, I don’t want a roller coaster anymore. It was such a turning point because he didn’t say, “Oh mommy, I know how you feel,” he just said the facts.

When I was younger, I was very soft. There is a knowledge you accumulate as you get older.

Also, you must take care of your body. I grew up very healthy. We had a farm, and I grew up without sugar. You should know what to eat and what not to eat. Your body is your house, you need to take care of that house, otherwise it crumbles. If you are sickly because you eat so much sugar, so much meat, too much coffee, and you are all sour in your body, how can you function?

I also like that you can find yourself with clothes. Young people are bombarded by how they should look and what they should buy — you’re 14, 15, 16 and you neither look like the magazine girls nor do you have the money to buy $1,500 shoes. Don’t look at that, get together with your girls, figure out what suits you and go for it. You find yourself. Recreate yourself with clothes. If you were told — “Oh your legs are too short, your arms are too long, you’re never going to be tall enough” — it’s all bullshit. It’s you in that body, you’re the only one there. Make it a good place to be. Your body is the only real gift you get.

Photos by Edith Young. 

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  • Liza

    This is my favorite thing ever on Man Repeller!!! Such wisdom, wit, and beauty. I am going to read this over and over! And, I would also like to wrangle some lunches with these gorgeous gals. All the feels, so much inspo, as the kids would say. Going to take some of this advice to heart, starting today. ❤️💗❤️

  • Bel

    Hi from the Antipodes. This is such an inspiring story! I’m five days away from my 44th birthday, and birthdays (especially post 40) can give a gal pause for thought. I truly hope at 70+ I have the same courage, curiosity and savoir faire shown by these stellar women!

    • Hello. I am already there (44) and I promise it’s good. It’s great, actually, so good luck to you, too .-)

      • Bel

        Thanks alcessa! That’s good to know. 🙂

  • Zeus Zamfir

    They are all so beautiful and stylish.

  • Beatrix is stunning!

  • Danielle Cardona Graff

    I loved everything about this!!!

  • Micha

    I love these stories, but if theres one kind of person I have a hard time relating to, it’s an older white woman.

  • A Local Honey

    Truly one of the best reads on this website. More of this?

  • God this was fantastic.
    All of these women are so interesting and inspiring – could read a ton more pieces like this!

  • Sophia Lizardi

    This was great! Such practical wisdom we all need to hear. But what about WOC? Please include these perspectives next time because they have wisdom, advice we all need to hear and gain perspective from.

  • Alexandra Malmed


  • Best article on MR!! Loved this. Please, can you make these three regulars?

    • Sylvie


  • Vanessa

    I think Man Repeller should feature an interview with an older person in a daily newsletter. These wise women are reminding me to chill and just live. The feeling is thrilling.

    • A Merry Mishap


    • Elizabeth

      YES! Loved this feature.

    • Szia Ujj


    • Mellisa Scarlett

      AGREED!! this was super good for the soul. I actually thoroughly believed everything they said. ( which is not the norm for me in regards too “live your life” articles lol. Please MR make this a constant! *fingers crossed*

  • Jennifer

    YES! So good. Please include WOC next!!

  • K Wolf

    So good! Please do interviews with more lovely older women.

  • Whatwould Slashdo

    Yes, great to read, alas all 3 are white, well-off women, none of them had to survive much hardship. And the assertion that in Europe a younger man with an older woman is not frowned upon, it’s just BS.

  • primadarling.com

    Fantastic story, great advice from all of them and love how they all have such a strong sense of their own personal style. I’m obsessed with Beatrice Ost and featured her on my blog this past Monday in a story about turbans, http://www.primadarling.com/fashion/feeling-for-turbans/ she is super chic!

  • Lou

    This was my favorite thing I’ve ever read on MR. Please make this a regular thing. Getting a shot of perspective is so so important. I feel lighter already!

  • Samantha Lee

    I love this so, so, so much. Such fabulous and insightful women. <3 Sharing for sure!


  • Evernolia Gillespie

    I loved this article.

  • Najah

    Yes, MR! Reeled me in with these wise women preaching realness.

    Though, I’m reserving the distribution of cool points for your follow up interview with wise women of color.

    • Najah! Where have you been?!

      Loved this article to pieces, hope this becomes a regular inclusion. Also raising my hand to see the diversity that happens at MR extend to this!

      • Najah

        Hey, Marcy! I been incognegro, I know. Been enjoying some quiet making lately but will be coming out of the woodwork very soon. Funny as hell to run into you on the first blog I come out of the woodwork to read. Yours was next ;-).

  • Amanda Vasilikos Blancato

    I LOVE this article. Thank you!

  • This is my favorite thing I’ve read all week! Please, more of this!!

  • Obsessed with this. So good. 10/10

  • Cynthia Schoonover

    This is my favorite post! What they have to say is so true!

  • Thea Charles

    I have never left a comment on an article online and I literally made an account just so I can say how awesome this one is.

  • Love, love, LOVED this.

  • Deirdre McCluskey

    This was amazing and just what I needed to read tonight.

  • Lil

    All these women are amazing and so inspiring! What a refreshing reminder to just enjoy life and live for ourselves.

    “I understand that. I don’t have to obsess over it like some people do 24/7”

  • gracesface

    As I’m sitting here worrying over income and bills, these wise women are really giving me perspective. Thanks for putting this together y’all!

  • More of this, please!

  • Betty

    Think you need to expand the age diversity of your team of writers. Your audience is not just 20 somethings. Have writers in 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and 70’s. It’s a great way to learn from each other.

  • Anna

    I live in Charlottesville and see Beatrix around town sometimes—it’s an event! She’s always dressed to the nines and I probably stare longer than I should. It’s a thrill to see someone looking so fabulous and it inspires me to go a little bigger with my fashion choices because why not? If I want to be on her level when I’m 70+ I’d better start working now!

  • this was such a great read, inspiring, please do more such articles!

  • Livia Papiernik

    Such a good article. Really loved everything they had to say!

  • Bonny McIntosh

    I just loved this piece! Please do more.articles.like this one.

  • Mark Welte

    As a man, I wish more (a whole lot more) women would read this all and take it to heart.

  • Fantastic!!!!!

  • sedonakathy

    I am one of Emily Lemer’s roommates from our Chicago days. Em is and always has been amazing. Her life has always been of her choosing, but with the softness and caring that only she can demonstrate. There is room for more Miss Ems… What a brighter world we would have.

  • I love these women- so full of life!!


  • Flóra Mihály

    I LOVED this article! I swear these women are so inspiring!! Thank you MR!

  • Liz

    Lovely interviews! What wisdom. Memorizing their advice. Thank you.

  • lateshift

    ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
    ok: maybe I’m biased, but I stand by it anyway: Older women everywhere are amazing, but there’s just something about fabulous old New York ladies…I know a dozen women like this IRL (and when you get to the golden years, it’s basically JUST ladies left), and I dream of one day being half as cool as they are. And I can’t imagine growing old anywhere else.

    (I know, I know, I’m being super-provincial here, and I totally expect lots of very smart people to point out the many reasons I’m wrong….it won’t do any good. From what I’ve seen, the way this city is set up makes it easy as possible for older people to stay active and mobile and independent and social for as long as humanly possible – way longer than a lot of other places, especially suburban or rural areas – especially if you’ve lived here long enough to get the housing situation squared away. Take away the cold, and imho it’s the best retirement community of all time) 😊

  • Amazing and inspiration insights! Thxs

  • Melissa Campello

    I’ve been noticing how everything written on aging is either telling you how to stay young (or faking youthness) or it’s very vague about wisdom or something.
    So PLEASE MR make more of these!
    I’m about to turn 25, and as a shameless over-thinker, I’m thinking a lot about getting old. It hit me that my body has technically “peaked”, I’m not growing up anymore, I’m growing old (I know, over thinking AND over reacting). I’ve started to see getting older as a second puberty, where you have to learn how to deal with your body changing and how to come to terms with these changes all over again. And that’s so weird.

    • Andi Loveall

      Hey, don’t worry. I’m ten years older than you, and my body is still improving a LOT through exercise and a healthy diet. There’s no limits on improving yourself. Upwards and onwards! 🙂

  • Ally H

    wait beatrix low key has a harry potter scar

  • Kimberley Boehm

    I enjoyed this article and add my voice for more. Please include WOC. I just turned 57 and I’ve entered a new physical and mental landscape. It would be nice to hear from older women on a regular basis, especially since many of us entering into our 50s-70s have already lost our mothers and grandmothers. I miss them terribly! Nice to hear from these women.

    • Leandra Medine

      Can we hear from you!?

      • Kimberley Boehm


  • Shakirah Hill

    I really enjoyed this piece. It would have been nice to see more diversity. These women are all white and also all well off or presumably financially comfortable, which makes their view point homogeneous. Financial, racial and geographical diversity could have made this a bit richer.

    • diana

      Couldn’t fully enjoy the piece because of this…

  • Leah Kirpalani

    Excellent read. So much perspective!!

  • Viviana Cruz

    Best article of the year!!!

  • Trilby16

    Beatrix Ost is so beautiful!

    I’m surprised she put up with the philandering husband for so long. Yes, people find it weird when an old(er) woman is with a young guy, but it can be pretty fun, at least for a while. They are going to come with defects, tho’. For two years I dated a guy who is 28 years younger than me who lives in my building. Cute and fun, but he’s an alcoholic. When he recently got worse, I had to leave.

    I like this feature a lot. I’m pretty old and trying to get used to that fact. Seeing ladies like these helps a lot!

  • Furaha Moye

    Thank you so much for doing this feature on older women and their thoughts on wisdom, life and getting older; or moving through space and time. I look at many older women and feel truly blessed that I can be a much different older woman than my Mother was allowed to be at the same age over 30 years ago! Women have come a long way…fortunately. I think in addition, that it is truly a function of being comfortable in your own skin. I was exposed to this wonderful page as a result of a post showing Ali MacGraw at 78! I want to be just like her when I grow up!!!! If….I grow up, that is.

  • Angela

    This really just saved my day. I neeeeeeded this.

  • Jones

    I will come back to this article and read it over and over. It was inspiring and real.

  • This is absolutely brilliant and inspiring – thank you! Advice fully taken on board. I hope my life is just like these ladies’ in my 70s 😘

  • ApocalypsoFacto

    I will be 40 in a few days and I can’t explain how much reading this meant for me today. I realize that instead of lamenting what’s behind me, I really need to think about the next 30 years and how to cram as much life into them as possible. Thank you, thank you, thank you for posting this.

    • Andi Loveall

      I’m 35 but same feelings, I am inspired after reading this. I realize this post is a month old but happy birthday!

  • Kristina

    This was so lovely and refreshing.

  • I’m in love with these interviews!!! More of this, please! *thank you MR

  • Bee

    I adore this! Love hearing about such interesting women who lead the kind of rich lives I aspire to. Please make this a recurring thing!

    Briana | youngsophisticate.com

  • Paige Gurski

    I love this so much. More more more please!

  • The best you’ve featured!

  • Margaret McKever

    omg, this is amazing. so uplifting.

  • Mun

    I thoroughly enjoyed this 🙂

  • Anne

    I love loved these interviews from these older wise women. I just wished there were more of them. I hope it’s not the last one.

  • Hadeer El Mutairi

    why wasn’t this a podcast or a chat video? why isn’t there more pictures at least? otherwise i enjoyed this very much! fantastic

  • Dani Settle

    Very enjoyable article. I would be great to see more diversity of Women we all have amazing stories. I was 69 in April I worked for many years as a schooner cook (Freedom Schooner Amistad). I have a wonderful friend living and working in St. Croix who turned 80 this year Eliza is amazing she teaches yoga 3 days a week, an artist, has a messenger service and writes for one of the small weekiy papers. There are so many of us with wisdom to share seek us out.- Nam myoho renge kyo

    • Mellisa Scarlett


  • Loved this article – there is a problem when I log in I have to scroll way down before I see it. This may cause some people to think the article is missing.

  • Bagbabe53

    Am in my mid 60s and love it, because I care so little anymore about what anyone else thinks… and I love being a grandma! I feel like a kid again.

  • I absolutely loved this! I am 20 years younger than these women and this gives me such joy to know that the knowledge we gain is worth the wrinkles. These women are amazing!

  • C. Killion

    Be kind, so doing saves so many regrets later. Be kind to yourself, to the world, to your friends. Be content with your sharp corners, your edges, the enemies you will invariably make. They, too, define you.

  • jill

    I do admire these ladies. However I have seen them so much, as if these are the only older women around and everyone keeps taking their picture. They have become the ‘go to’ old lady symbols, which is sort of trite and lazy on the part of those doing articles. There are plenty of beautiful and wise older women around. Make an effort.

  • Marcela Sp

    I am living for Beatrix’s aesthetic.

  • This was an amazing read! Sometimes it’s hard not to get caught up in the day to day “things” that bother us, but on the grand scale they shouldn’t… such a nice reality check 🙂

  • Jane Doh

    So true on the role reversal discrimination. I’m in my 50s, my bf of 3 years is 29. Everyone is always asking him how he can be with someone older. His response is that we fit together and it’s the best relationship he’s ever had. He dated women his own age before meeting me and it never worked. But why is it if he were the older one and I was his age, no one would ever say anything about it?

  • sam walden

    came here to be another voice asking for PLEASE MORE 💘

  • Teared up reading this. I’m coming up on my 30th birthday in a few weeks and I didn’t think I could be any more excited for it than I already am. Reading this proved that to be wrong. I’d love to see more of these type of features!

    26 and Not Counting

  • Néo Bourgeois — Montecito

    The masters of ‘pretext’, women are genius.

  • Disappointing that only upper class women were interviewed and sadder still that one stays married to am an she’s unhappy with! What’s wise about that??

    • Margeaux Jerushka

      Was thinking the same thing… the other was crying over a rollercoaster relationship at 80-something….

  • mingming

    i love this. wonderful advice and stories

  • Amanda Blair

    I loved this article! This made me feel excited to get older!

  • Katie

    Love this! This brings me such joy and hope in a society where age = bad.

  • Cio

    I am completely enamoured of these women. Beautiful feature!

    Rocío x


  • Regina Spelman

    Interessante story. Unteranderem mit der klugen Trixi aus Bayern.

  • Andi Loveall

    I rarely comment on blogs, but this is one of my favorites that I’ve ever read in my life. Thank you for sharing the stories of these strong, wise, and beautiful women.

  • Kokonuts

    Best article ever! These woman are so uplifting, motivating, and provide such sound advice. I hope you feature articles like this more often!

  • Danielle Baxter

    I love this so much! I would love more newsletters/blogs like this I always ask the older 40+women around me if they could go back and do something different what would they do 🙂 I’d love to see that here!

  • Danielle Baxter

    Also I love the line “fearless but cautious”

  • Shevaun

    fuck, this was good.

  • I’m a bit late to the party, but these are some wonderful women.

  • Valerie Adrianne Barahona

    thank you for THIS <3

  • trixietimez

    Lovely. Super interesting women. I have clients like that But… How about someone that isn’t part of the trendy art crowd? It was nice, but again it plays into the media/ad myth that only if you’re a thin, quirky, female, are you worthy of being shown in the light of day if you’re over 50. Our culture portrays women over 60 in three ways: Needing prescriptions. Elderly but thin with long hair and makeup to look 40ish, or the artsy Georgia O’Keefe types.

    Would love to see features about creative women that… well.. look average. I know so many older women artists that look like they should be shopping at the garden department at KMART. They’re awesome,too. No pretense

  • beachmama

    I’m not quite there at 62, but relate to much of what these wise woman have said . . . thanks for giving a voice to a segment of our population that is largely ignored . . . I too, would like to read regular content by “women of a certain age” . . .

  • winslow57

    How refreshing that you are paying attention to older women. Very good of you to have made this fabulous discovery. When I was 18, i worked in a nursing home. That year long stint provided a more profound learning experience than 6 years of college did.

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  • Vana

    Just what I needed. So enlightening! ❤️✨

  • Maria Carreon

    I think this is THE MR article of 2017. These women impart so much wisdom. And I don’t mean that in ths most stereotypical sense as an attribute of their age–as human beings. I was particularly struck by Ms. Lemer. As a nearly 40 year old woman who was once married and would never even consider doing it again, who has chosen very consciously not to have children, who is in a monogamous relationship that is deeply satisfying but does not require (and in fact depends upon the absence of) cohabitation, I am buoyed by her validating perspective. Our choices should be our own and we should not scrutinize those choices based on society’s values or what we are told makes us “complete people.” We should just be happy with who we have chosen to be.

    I was also, unfortunately, acquainted with loss at a very young age, and have never had the luxury of ignoring death’s presence. But I deeply appreciate the perspective of each of these women on the topic of mortality. It really helps me to think about an existence free of fear and worry associated with the idea of losing people or dying myself. Thank you for taling the time to share these perspectives. Again, fave MR story ever.

  • Shannon Reese Harbin

    I love Emily Lemer! She is amazing. I am of a certain age, 52 and know that I have my whole life ahead of me. I am just now getting married for the 1st time and have started my own blogging/brand influencing business. Age is truly just a number. Live life as you want. Leave the haters behind. It’s your story, WRITE IT!