What Trump Winning Means

Look, we’re not here to add noise to a conversation that is happening on every corner of the Internet and beyond — that is never the intention at Man Repeller.

Last night, before the polls were officially closed, it was extraordinary (and I do mean outside ordinary) to see Instagram effectively go radio silent for several hours — to watch the gravity move over to Twitter, where voice surpasses photo, and to partake in a conversation with a community that maintains a common, important goal: the preservation of democracy.

Following Hillary Clinton’s loss, it was disheartening to rejigger the stories we had set to publish this morning — they would inaugurate her presidency — and hitting un-publish felt a lot like preparing a cemetery plot for someone that was still very much alive, but after a night of sleep, I have this to say:

It’s not over.

None of it, really.

We haven’t come as far as we think we have. Yes, we’re impacting change but not as much, or not as gravely as we may have thought we were. And frankly, I’d rather have a very clear idea of what the world looks like — no matter how grim — so that I know what I need to do to make it better. Isn’t that preferable to deluding ourselves into thinking that equality might be around the corner?

It is terrible and terrifying that we’re still so far away, that we’re a country largely governed by an overwhelming majority of white men but maybe instead of recoiling at this thought, instead of throwing our arms up in surrender and subsequently crashing Canada’s immigration website, we have to rescind our ability to “flight” and push ourselves into the fight. We’re at the helm of a revolution, people! The beginning, no doubt, of a stunning fourth wave of feminism.

Now, I wish I could say something that would actually provide comfort — that I could send the e-mail you’re probably frantically waiting for that provides some version of respite or inspiration, and I do hope that confronting reality can feel as invigorating for you as it does for me, but mostly, this letter is a reminder that we’re in this together. That I, personally, have never felt like I needed my community more and I wonder if its the same for you. If it is, good thing we’re members of the same club! Because I promise, I will not let you forget that we have each other. That we can and will fight, first by continuing to be who we are without apology. And we’ll be even more convicted in the navigation of our identities.

Trump’s presidency provides a real chance for our generation to fight for a critical system that unites us beyond skin color and gender, beyond sexual orientation and class.

It’s my belief that the human spirit responds better to community than it does to resistance, so for a minute this morning, let’s set him aside. Let’s put our hashtags down and remember that we — a large, inclusive number of individuals — are in this together. That we have each other and that it has never been so clear why we need each other. Of course we won’t forget how far we’ve come, but we also won’t deceive ourselves into thinking it’s far enough. So hear, hear, to us.

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  • Molly D

    I went to bed last night knowing I would find comfort here. I know I’m not the only one who needs it.

    “I’d rather have a very clear idea of what the world looks like — no matter how grim — so that I know what I need to do to make it better. Isn’t that preferable to deluding ourselves into thinking that equality might be around the corner?”

    ^ Thank you for saying that. I agree. And yes, let’s fight first and foremost by being proud of who we are. The hard and scary question is — what’s next??

    • Caroline Jackson

      For me (a Brit who is living with the Brexit nightmare) the answer to that question was – get involved. Join the political party that speaks to your beliefs. Volunteer in your community. Even if it feels like everything is going to shit – ESPECIALLY when it feels like that – stand up for what you think is right and good. Fly the flag for equality, decency, compassion and all the values that you believe in. Be active not passive. Get stuck in!

      In solidarity with my American sisters today. *fist bumps all round* xx

  • me

    L, Thank you for this.

    On this grim, gray, rainy Nov morning in DC, we need all the MR-inspired hope we can possibly get ….

  • Kelsey Loraine

    Leandra! I needed this from you!

    I was just settling into work, scrolling through newsfeeds and timelines, and finding such little hope in anything. I felt misunderstood, like I’d missed a big pity party memo – and I don’t mean that disrespectfully – it’s just…did we really just lose every bit of hope?

    I went to MR expecting grief, remorse, defeat. But in truth MR is the only place I’m finding a comfort. Thank you. People – of all races, backgrounds, orientations, and otherwise – need to hear this.

  • hearceespeak

    Thank you for this, Leandra.

  • Julia Park

    Thank you. I deeply needed the below line. It’s hard not to feel hopeless, but now I have a new battle cry in my head. We can fight.

    “We’re at the helm of a revolution, people! The beginning, no doubt, of a stunning fourth wave of feminism.”

  • Mika Deshmukh

    Leandra, thank you so much for this article. I take comfort in your emphasis on community. This was not at all the outcome I wanted for my first presidential election where I could cast my vote. But I’m happy that the Man Repeller community is here to spread love and equality during this trying time.

  • Carolin

    For as much as I like the idea of turning this into something positive, imo saying that “Trump’s presidency provides a real chance for our generation” is completely wrong, no matter how you spin it. I agree that no more words need to be spilled on his attitude towards women, and also clearly this is not the place to fire up a political discussion. Yet for me this is yet another way of diminishing the severity of the setback for women’s, LGBT and minority rights that his victory represents.

    • It could also be the right moment to light some fire under lazy asses (like mine, mostly), too comfortable to raise their voices for minorities’ rights till now.

    • Right. Yes, we may not be as close to progress as we thought by not electing a clearer path to the country we’d like to live in. No one said it would be an absolute overhaul with either candidate. That is not the point. However, with Trump, we cannot just fear the future, we have to apparently fear the past. It’s double work: Trying not to regress on our progress, whilst trying to incite more development still.

  • Mariana

    We can only truly fight hate and difference with love, understanding and hope and this was a piece made and for that, Leandra.
    It is time to reflect, “close for inventory” and make some adjustments in our route, for us, for others and for the sake of a better future. We have more power than we think to make this PLANET better.

  • Dani Heifetz

    This is what I needed this morning

  • Cristina Pavelescu

    Couldn’t agree more not only on the spreading of the the good vibes in spite of the results, but also on sharing this feeling of being kinda close to each other. It’s times like these when we feel the need to even put it on paper and make it official. Ha! We’re in this together, even if so far (as in Romania far) geographically away. Rock on!

  • Anne Dyer

    Yes. Leandra, yes. I am choosing to love a little harder today. Smile at the other moms at preschool a little wider today and show my boys that anything is possible, for anyone. I refuse for the spirit of my small family to be broken.

  • mollie blackwood

    Yes! Thank you! More than anything it shows us we need to work together no matter the outcome of this election. We all need to strive for a better America and be more active in our own communities. Thank God we live in a country that allows us to do so. One man can’t bring us down and one woman can’t save us either.

  • Andrea Raymer

    I am less afraid of what he will do than I am about what this indicates about the values of the American people. How is it that his behavior is so excusable to people? Right now I think we are in a culture war more than anything, which is why media like Man Repeller is so important. The next 4 years we need to spend changing the minds of the American people and fighting to spread love to everyone. Artists, writers, filmmakers have never been more important. Right now I am fired up to be engaged, use my voice and create to spread a message of love instead of hate.

    • Hilary


    • No matter what, we’re still stronger together.

    • Molly D

      I too think love instead of hate. But then I realize what a hypocrite I am. I feel hatred toward the people who voted him in. If we say love we have to be inclusive. Near impossible for me right now. This is some Jesus-level shit.

      • Andrea Raymer

        As someone who identifies as a christian evangelical, that is what scares me the most. The fact that people are taking MY identity and using it to hate. That is not what Jesus preached and not what our job is as christians and I hate that people use His name to defend and excuse hateful behavior.

        • Molly D

          You are right. I offended and I apologize. I incorrectly demonstrated that when we say “love trumps hate” it has to include ALL the people we don’t identify with. As I alluded to, it’s hard and I feel hypocritical spreading a message of love when I feel so critical of some of our country right now.

    • tunie

      “How is it that his behavior is so excusable to people?”
      …er, porn maybe? A few men get it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRJ_QfP2mhU

      Ran Gavrieli: Why I Stopped Watching Porn:

      • Heather Chester

        But why don’t women get it?!

  • Lana

    AMEN, Leandra. I’m ready for that revolution!

  • Thank you for the respite, Leandra. This was a beautiful piece. However, I cannot really bring myself to feel invigorated by “having a very clear idea of what the world looks like.” This is NOT what the world looks like, and that is precisely the issue. This is what happens when a rogue candidate fires up a large but not-diverse base of voters who have precisely DEFIED what is happening in the world, who have lived in their own reality, who have continued to block out the progressive exchange of ideas, of diversity, of positivity. Sure, we can allude to incidents like Brexit, and so on, but largely, I do not believe this is our world.

    And, really, there is more than the future to fear. There is the past. There is that sinking notion that this man could try and knock down or modify policies that we’ve fought for to resolve issues of the past. And while our efforts on these issues seem, at points throughout history, meager or docile, I am still scared for what we’ve tried to do for: female bodies, POC bodies, indigenous bodies, non-binary bodies, and, more than anything, our land. I am scared for those who have been fighting for the right to their land at Standing Rock. I am scared for exploitation of public lands at the state level.

    So, I cannot be invigorated by this. It extends both back into history and to the future. That is, as we know, the reason he was elected in the first place.

    • Next year, there’s election in Germany. I’m already afraid of getting my fear confirmed this is what our world looks like in too many places.
      Now, about the past … how about we fight.

      • As we always have, as we continue to do so. That’s all we can do.

      • Anna Diane

        i’m already afraid aswell, alcessa. Lately, the world seems to be even more filled with hatred, racism and sexism than it already was. I cant remember being scared of politics before, but here we are. I couldnt hold back my tears when i heard about the election in us this morning – and I’m not even american. Its heartbreaking.

    • Molly D

      I’m rethinking my own response now. The divisiveness between the candidates and the people who support(ed) 🙁 them represents the divisiveness on what they think the world does or does not look like, and what it should or should not look like. They have their own realities. What the world looks like is up to them, sadly and terrifyingly.

  • Thinking the same here! Also wrote about this in my blog (http://wp.me/p6nSRT-Pt). We are having the same problems in many other countries in the World, and using the fact that extremists are everywhere to find out what we have to do to make the World better is just something that we HAVE to do now just so we can all live united, and fighting for the real problems our World and home has.

    I think that our biggest mistake is exactly to think that we are done and that we are always right, since we have to do more to really unite people and to face the problems that should be important to us though nobody ever remembers.

  • nevvvvave

    it’s so hard because we can’t really get a sense of how much impact trump will have policy-wise. Even with the reinforced republican majority in the house, senate, and presidency the republican party is not what it was 8 years ago. I don’t know what level of support will be given to him for the next 4 yrs (especially on matters of foreign policy where he is embarrassingly unintelligent). Will republicans take this as a chance to reflect on what they want their party to be and the values they claim to uphold? My larger concern is the tacit support and encouragement of trump’s camp for fringe alt-right sentiment and how clear it is now that the ideas we got used to writing off as “fringe” are thriving and being celebrated in the mainstream- but what’s done is done. His electorate voted and now they can have him- we’ll see who’s left to shoulder their rage in 4 years.

  • Ghazal

    Love this and I agree completely. Thank you, Leandra.

  • Basil

    I’m on the other side of the Atlantic, and thanks to Brexit this wasn’t a shock. It’s depressing but not shocking. What both of these victories show is that postwar liberal values are under threat. That protecting and advancing women’s and minorities’ rights are no longer a given, that hateful groups (like the KKK) who’d been shunned from mainstream society are back and loud, and that there are millions of disenfranchised angry people who want to go back to a past that never existed

    We can’t be complacent

    • Olivia AP

      I’m mexican and you can’t imagine the panic going on here. Because we know that it is not up to us and we have come a long way to get at where we are (which is not that great btw but the future is looking darker). A lot of friends and family living in the US were telling me how much they like the country but they don’t get that feeling back. A glass was thrown to one of my friend’s brother because they were speaking spanish.
      I feel truly sad 🙁

  • Alice

    I am a Brit but was up all night watching the numbers come in. Much like the sickly feeling I had the morning after Brexit (which, FYI MR, I still get) I am bloody petrified. Every group chat I have ever been a part of is pinging away with outrage/ surprise no matter age, race, gender, sexuality. I find it so difficult to comprehend that on both these issues the media/ politicians/ polls got it so wrong. How did we not gage the feelings of the American (& British) peoples???

    I wondered when I was making my own breakfast today what American parents would be saying to their children over breakfast. I hope the next generation don’t feel uninspired. I hope they still understand the impact they can create. I hope they don’t think it’s okay to bully. I hope girls don’t grow up thinking they can’t report sexual assault because a man with double digit accusations can make it to the White House so who gives a stuff, right?

    Speak louder, teach louder, love louder. Keep the conversation going.

  • Nathalie

    Thank you for this Leandra, finally got the electric shock last night… now… action!

  • RMG2016

    As a Canadian I am rooting for you. A lot of us (most I hope!) were saddened by the news we woke up to today. I’ve travelled many times to the U.S. and met a lot of nice, good, kind hearted people along the way. Trump is just one person. A tiny little man on a planet of billions. He may have the “power” for now but he doesn’t define you as a country. Good luck!

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  • Susie Gorden

    It is amazing to me that you’ve done a better job of summing up the need to stay in the fight than all of the center-left and left-leaning political writers I follow. I’ve spent my entire life standing up for progressive change. And screw that noise if the intolerant think they’ve won forever. Change is inevitable. We just have much further to go than I’d hoped.

  • I was devastated by these results and what it says about our country.
    One thing that has been comforting (albeit minimally) to me this morning was the projected map for if only millenials voted. I know that there were huge polling errors in this election (understatement of the year?), so who knows how accurate it actually is, but I am choosing to believe that this generation will prove itself to be capable of great and progressive change down the line. We have a long way to go, but I haven’t (completely) given up hope yet.

    • Aydan

      Yes but my concern now is the school-aged children all over this country. What are their parents teaching them? What are their teacher teaching them?

      • MT

        I have limited interactions with kids, but I’m close friends wiht my neighbors, and their nephews range from like 6 years old up to 13. The 13 year old and the 6 year old have both told me at points during the last year or so that they want Trump to win. It makes me very afraid of their father.

      • esyl

        Teachers are typically pretty liberal. We’re union members and we see how the deck is stacked against poor kids in this country. We don’t need a president who wants to abolish the Department of Education. We’re trying, man.

      • Elizabeth


        The posts on Twitter about children getting bullied and intimidated by their classmates have me seriously concerned and heartbroken. If anyone sees any of this happening (with kids or with adults), please stand up for the victims and tell those you suspect of acting on the divisive attitudes of racism, sexism, homophobia, or islamophobia to stop.

    • Olivia AP

      I felt hope. But you have to take into account the many millennials that didn’t bother to go vote. Less young people voted in this election 🙁

      • Mo

        I feel, enlivened, and ignited by the aftermath. To know that the choice itself isn’t set, that people aren’t always going to make the decision you yourself believe to be true. It’s inspiring to see where people stand, and to encourage them to speak on those beliefs regardless of what they are. If Clinton had triumphed, I’d be sitting with a false sense of security, believing that change happens with or without the push. But it doesn’t, people resist adaptation, when for me, its always so rewarding. I suppose the challenge is understanding the fear of it all and using that knowledge to build a momentum against it.

  • diane

    i keep flashing on the memory of marching in my first political demonstration in NYC in 1970. Marching down Fifth Avenue alongside 50,000 other women in the Women’s Strike for Equality, it felt like we could change the world. Today, all that hope has dimmed. All that we fought for will be lost now with the appointment of Republican choices for the Supreme Court. Such a sad day, but especially for young women who will now lose their right to govern their own bodies.

  • Kay

    Thank you so much leandra I so needed to hear some encouragement. I guess we did get ahead of ourselves with hope. Has anybody seen the movie pump up the volume, the end where Christian slater is getting arrested and he’s still shouting his (soooo cheesy but awesome) message “talk hard”? That’s all I want to do today is watch that movie.

  • Max
    • b.e.g.

      W.W. – the word is CONSCIENCE, not conscious. If you write wordy, barely intelligible, paragraphs, at least use the correct words.

  • I really needed this. I found an article on Huffington Post that had a list of things to help this morning that included volunteering with minority and immigrant groups and donating. I donated a little to Planned Parenthood (because Pence’s opinions on women are terrifying) and feel a little better.

    I’m also thinking about taking some self-defense classes because I need to feel powerful and know that even though the majority of the nation doesn’t have my back, I have my back. And I will have your back too!

  • Mon Valdés

    I woke up today with a heavy heart, hoping that yesterday was just a nightmare. I don’t live in the States, and I know to some it might seem like my opinion doesn’t really matter. But the sadness a lot of you are feeling, we feel it here in Mexico too. I am a young Mexican working woman, part of an immigrant family, with a disabled brother… I’ve felt every attack very close to home. It worries me that Mexico will have severe economic consequences, but reading this and seeing all the posts on Twitter or Instagram of the wonderful people I follow tells me not all American people have hate in their hearts. That people will help build new hope.

    Thank you, thank you for writing this, thank you to everyone, who even in this dark time, hasn’t given up.

  • Alison

    Thank you, Leandra and MR! I am supposed to give a talk to students tonight, and I didn’t know how I was going to stop crying. I’m watching HRC speak, and reading the comments here, and I think I can summon the optimism to reject the kind of hatred that has characterized this election. Thank you.

  • Morgan Heuer

    I love you, Leandra! Man Repeller is the only place I want to be on the internet today.

  • Eleni Skoutakis

    Thank you for this.

  • Well written post and I agree, all good will always beat bad.
    Aleeha xXx

  • Hopeforthefuture

    Stop the division and the finger pointing, this group or that group held this group back from what we all deserve etc. love, that is the message we need. We need to identify solely as People first and demand that all people are treated equally and fairly which everyone can and should agree with. It’s completely ridiculous to think otherwise and hard to argue against. But, if we divide into genders, races, place of birth, political affiliation then we are saying you vs us to a lot of people and it takes away from the unassailable truth of the original argument that everyone should be treated with love and equality.

  • But the thing is, you DID provide some version of respite and inspiration by saying this:

    “I’d rather have a very clear idea of what the world looks like — no matter how grim — so that I know what I need to do to make it better. Isn’t that preferable to deluding ourselves into thinking that equality might be around the corner?”

    I haven’t yet heard anyone put it quite that way, and I think I find comfort in that pragmatic approach.

    The day after, as I hear people (myself included) use the words “continue to fight for what we believe in,” I wonder what the word “fight” really entails. Does it mean volunteering? Does it mean educating myself? Does it mean continuing the dialogue, both online and in person, rather than letting it fade out? All of the above? I think a powerful role for MR to take as we all move forward would be to provide some of those ideas; small steps we can all take to further our ideals from here on out.

  • Alanis

    This was beautifully written, very inspirational. Thank you for this Leandra. What makes America beautiful is that we are a melting pot of cultures and celebrate the diversity! We lend our helping hands to those in need!
    I believe this will only make us all stronger!

  • Irene Roberts

    What are you doing in four years? LEANDRA for PRESIDENT! WHAT? It’s not farfetched AND she is DEFINITELY much smarter than our “newly elected President”. I refuse to say his name….. Thank you for your uplifting piece in this somber morning.

  • Audra

    Thank you for this Leandra. It is a strange comfort to know that we at least have a better idea of where the country really stands and what we have to do to make it better. I feel like I’ve been living in a bubble in San Francisco, and it’s time to wake up to the harsh and bigoted reality that so many other Americans deal with every day.

    • Grace B

      I felt the same bubble feeling in the bay area too. not that i didn’t love it but i definitely felt like i returned to some reality when i left.

      thanks for this post leandra, it’s important to know you’re not afraid to speak up and say what you’re thinking no matter the topic on MR. it means a lot.

  • ILoveFastFashion

    He doesn’t believe in Climate Change. It doesn’t matter that we can see the damage its doing. He says and does what he thinks benefits him.

    On that note, please stop promoting fast fashion on this site. Unless you are living in a bubble, you know the damage its doing to the planet and to people. And you continue to endorse H&M and Zara and the likes. Why ? Perhaps you can answer this question someday.

  • Imaiya Ravichandran

    Thanks for this, Leandra. Though I am not an American, I could not help but cry upon hearing the horrific news. After some initial wallowing, I feel invigorated by your call to unite despite the overwhelmingly bleak situation before us. Unfortunately, I think others, those who are more directly affected, those who have more to lose, might not be…at least, for now. And I think that’s okay.

    For many, this will be a time to hurt. To scream. To be enraged. To feel despair. For many, these will seem like the only appropriate reactions to have. We must not invalidate these feelings, but hear them out, for they are cries of indignation, a response to being disregarded by more than half of white America. I can only begin to imagine what that feels like. To walk outside and see a white man and know that there is more than a 50% chance that he voted against you and all you represent, propelled by his fear of losing his excessive, undeserving sense of entitlement. It’s revolting. While this period of outcry may not seem productive, I believe it necessary. It’s not healthy to brush pain under the rug. And it’s certainly not conducive to meaningful mobilization.

    I’m inspired by people like you Leandra, people who are full of optimism and ready to hit the ground running starting today. But I also feel for those who are weary and so fucking sick of it all. Let’s wait for them to regroup, to process all that’s happened. When they do, they’ll join us with a renewed sense of hope and only then, the fight for what’s right can recommence.

  • Kendra

    You are a light, thank you for your courage to speak truth. I had a similar vision last night / that he is, oddly the messiah – the shadow, that brings us back together. To stitch together a wardrobe that better suits our beliefs / honoring rights of all and most importantly our dear Mother Earth. A piece I wrote today / “Today I feel Alive, today I feel Activated – let’s overrule this fear & anguish together. Instead of viewing Trumps presidency as a wound, separating us from one another even further – let us rise up and see this as an opportunity to step up, take action, and love harder. I believe in US, thank you Trump – for putting the fire under our bums, it’s fueling a renewable flame that won’t be put out. AHO! #lovetrumpshate”

  • Barbie Beauty

    Wow this is interesting the comment section is so heated


  • Well said. I woke up feeling like, “Ok world. We’ve got work to do.” This was a big fat orange reminder of that.
    After shedding some tears as I watched Hillary address her defeat, and after reading this, I actually feel energized. I think the silver lining may be that this is going to make the next generation stand up and care WAY more about politics. This isn’t the end of the story.

  • It’s never far enough!

    Let me send you all my support to the minorities from Spain. I really couldn’t imagine these results… it’s like the biggest joke ever – The 1st Lady: from stripper to 1st Lady… she is the one that made career here.
    I only hope that the Spanish saying “perro ladrador, poco mordedor” turns true in this case… for the world’s sake.


  • jacq

    This is a wake up call to all of us. A lot of us were feeling the bern and WE CANNOT let the fire burn out. Instead our voices should be MUCH LOUDER! We have the potential to change all of this. We need to unite. We need to be the change that we want to see in the world.

    • I’m Canadian but I was honestly so sad when Bernie lost the primary. He was exactly what you needed. I’d take him over Trudeau any day.

  • Idene Abhari

    After a fruitful conversation with my sister, we seemed to agree on a few things. People are ignoring the same shit through all of this. We are all talking to each other. We need to branch out, we need to find larger audiences. We need to find candidates that can appeal to larger audiences. We need to appeal to what people are looking for. Everyone felt like “both candidates sucked”. We either didn’t vote, or voted incorrectly and thoughtlessly. I think its important in this current place of mourning to stay together, but keeping those likeminded close to us fails in mobilization. This might be too early but if I don’t start thinking about the future I can’t carry on with my life. Democrats keep relying on changing demographics but obviously thats only happening on the coasts. Why the fuck was Lena Dunham the strongest proponent of Hillary? Who the hell is she appealing to that wouldn’t already vote for Clinton? We weren’t smart enough. These same people voted for Obama because he knew how to inspire. Hillary didn’t talk about real things, things that people were thinking about. She never addressed the insurmountable doubts about her. I connected to her, personally, and thats why this election feels like heartbreak. I am not sweet or charming. I don’t have an easily loved-by-all personality. I am not a bubbly female. I don’t think Hillary is either. And when she tries, she fails. As do I. But few did. Few connected with her. The lack of enthusiasm in her campaign was shocking. She assumed Americans would shift their focus from the candidates to the issues. Remember the genuine speech Obama gave about race? Hillary needed to do something similar. She is a classical politician and we as a democratic party did not appeal to a large enough breadth of voters. We very clearly wanted an outsider. The democratic party failed itself. We need a better candidate moving forward. This isn’t about fucking Bernie because he LOST the primary. Stop ignoring facts. It wasn’t rigged. Blame your damn selves. We need to fix things for next time. We don’t have time to be upset. We thought wrong. Everything we thought was damn wrong. Hillary Clinton, in all her qualifications, failed to appeal to the same people that felt inspired by Obama. This is our issue. We need more relevant campaigns. We need better candidates.

    • Sky

      Truer words have never been spoken.

  • Emma

    I’ve been expecting since the summer to be spending all of this day repeating “we have to remember despite her flaws that this is our first female president and we need to celebrate that!!!”, assuming I would be spending the next few weeks fighting off nay-sayers and reluctant Hillary voters and trying to remember the history of it all. I was so excited to have our first female president (even though that is a tricky thing to admit to, it seems) and this feels like a giant slap in the face. Not only did we lose, but we lost to Donald Trump, and as a teenage girl who spent her youth being sexually abused, I feel betrayed, demeaned, and scared. I should not be afraid of the leader of the free world. I should not want to throw up because of election results. When we talk about “bringing down the system” for the next 50 years, I hope we talk about this. When we talk about racism/xenophobia/hatred of any kind for the next 50 years, I hope we talk about this. When we talk about rape culture for the next 50 years, we better fucking talk about this. Because this, America, is what it feels like to watch your abuser go on to live a happy and successful life. When a sexual predator can assume the highest office of our beautiful country, that is when we know we have more than a problem- we have a culture.

  • Carrie Asby

    Thank you. I really needed to read this. XOXOX

  • Audrey Fromson

    I aim to remember this feeling so that we can use it as fuel to never give up.

  • Ferrisienne

    “I’d rather have a very clear idea of what the world looks like — no matter how grim — so that I know what I need to do to make it better.” Perfectly put Leandra. This article has helped me make sense of such a shocking reality.

  • Tara Jayne

    Canada doesn’t have this figured out. I was surrounded by men today who would have voted for Trump, a man who treats women in such a horrendously poor manner that I am taken aback by my own ability to process it and feel the weight of it on my chest. You are not alone over there. Myself and the women at my office and all of my friends are standing with you. This is not okay. It’s not okay that the vote of others made it okay. You are not alone in your sadness or outrage. Sign me up for the fourth wave.

  • Becca

    Thank you for this Leandra. I was devastated last night and the only thing that got me through was reminding myself that there is so much good in people too. I spent the day trying to focus more on the good and I feel like I can breathe again and prepare myself to keep fighting for everything that matters most.

  • Ezzra Snyder

    As sick as I feel today, I know that Hillary Clinton feels infinitely worse. As much as I feel like this loss was a personal attack on me as a woman, it was truly a personal attack on her. She has fought so hard over her lifetime to help people and improve the world we live in. I LIKE Hillary Clinton, and this loss hurts deeply. But I’ll do my best to be more like Hillary and stand my ground in a male dominated field, and in a male dominated world. And rock a killer pant suit while doing it!

  • Shea

    Thank you for this. A much needed piece of perspective amidst all of this numbness.

  • elpug

    Thank you, Leandra.

  • Vega

    Didn’t a majority of women vote for Trump than to Hilary? What does that say?

  • Catherine

    if millenials voted… why didn’t they?

  • Karen Lee

    I was raised being able to name the female secretary of states. I’m Canadian. My dad was so excited for the election in 2008. He might get to watch, with his two daughters, a woman rise to the most powerful office in the world. That didn’t happen. But this time, it surely must happen, right? Wrong.

    The results were heartbreaking. After moving through all the stages of grief, in a long 20 hour day. I was stuck in China, but I stayed up chatting with my American friends (coincidentally all men, some life long republicans). As I moved through the shock, I reached out to one of my facebook friends who are part of the silent trump supports who “came out”. I asked questions, I tried to understand. In some ways I did. She denied that racisms was as bad as the media make it out to be. That people wanted an outsider in the office. And for all of trump’s misdeeds, she sparred with one from Clinton (true or not – it’s what she believed to the core). Even though I could never imagine brushing trump’s comments under the rug, especially when they insult the dignities of so many people, these people voted with the conviction that they were voting for a better america. There is a whole group of people who are blinded by their privilege and feel deeply threatened. The hardest thing to come to terms with is that this is so not black and white. Evil doesn’t always wear an evil hat. I’m trying to understand the scope of the situation, but it is so hard.

  • me

    G’morning, all…. Just wanted to give a shout-out to all of the MR readers from outside the U.S. who’ve posted messages offering comfort & commiseration.

    On such a dark & shocking day for those of us here in the States, I was (am) so touched by the solidarity that comes from our friends/neighbors abroad. Thank you for standing with us.

    You guys are a big part of what makes MR such a special community.

    Love from a grateful neighbor.

  • anniek

    Fuck yeah!!!!

  • Tess

    Hope is a form of planning!

  • Scarleth Figueroa

    More women than we/media thought voted for him as well. Many white women in fact.

  • pamb

    As a white woman, I was disheartened to see that most white women voted for Trump. But even more disheartening are those who voted third party, particularly as a protest. The margin of error was so small, those votes might have made the difference. And they were used for PR instead of actually working. I hope the Bernie or Bust people realize that.

  • Mo

    It was painful that I couldn’t articulate before the election why the idea of abandoning this idea of political correctness was so alarming to me. But now, with so many premature statements being strewn across my well filtered social media, I’m prepared to say it. I wouldn’t condemn anyone for sharing their thoughts, but speaking is easy. Speaking before thinking… is guttural. It’s reflexive and it is human, and it makes a statement that will be publicly associated with us, quite premature. Because we’re cultured and we are a community. I imagine, through all of this that what I value most is the ability to articulate my opinion, and the time it takes me to shape it. What is unsettling is the amount of vocal people that are so aggressive and dismissive in their statements these last few days. How they can be so generic in their grouping of society, generations, religions, and ideas. Which is why I would argue the importance of specifics. Specifics allow us to be accountable for our statements. It’s this vagueness in commenting and blase opinions that condescends so many and ignites an emotional, personal response rather than a logical one. Logical doesn’t abandon emotion, it is engaged by it. Man Repeller, what I mean. What I’m hypocritically being vague about is that confrontation promotes change and the disheartening thing is that it seems the community itself, has chosen to avoid it, and now, I feel I have to listen for a while and try to understand before I spew my own rhetoric everywhere. Because I’m still quite confused.

    • Grace B

      I agree with you 100%.

  • Lara B.H.

    It’s almost ironic that not only Hillary lost and a woman
    could not yet break the “highest, hardest glass ceiling”, but such a
    misogynous man has won. I could not imagine to wake up that day with
    such horrible news for women around the world.

    We need, we must stand together and care for the women around us more than ever. It’s in our communities that we start change. So let’s stop the judgement, let’s stop criticizing ourselves all the time and start caring and supporting each other once and for all.

    As Leandra said this is the beggining of a new wave of feminism and we must
    continue to be who we are without apology. And in that sense and talking
    about fashion, as we love to do in this place, I don’t know why but I
    expect designers to create for the next seasons very masculine
    collections for women as to empower us and making us feel “valuable and
    powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world”.
    Sort of like a new wave of “Working Girl” style. But actually I would
    love it to be the total opposite. I would love them to be as feminine as
    possible. I would like society to empower us by letting us be who we
    are, not by giving us tools that apparently will make us enter a certain

    This is going to be a tough ride for us and for all the minorities in the world, but a crisis is an opportunity and this is our chance to fight together for our rights.

    Let’s try to enjoy our ride.

  • stand together, you will be more stronger than ever…! If its trump or hillary

  • This is such an important post and one that is saying everything that nobody else is saying. The wallowing is still taking place on the Internet, and that’s natural, but this post is the perspective that we all have to remember, to motivate us to keep going forward in spite of the aching disappointment that we’re living through at the moment.

  • BK

    I (Australian, connected only to the US through a few friends living in NYC) had a conversation with a friend from uni (also Australian) and his long-running outlandish bet that Trump would win (he is now the proud owner of one case of beer), and we were speculating on what he would do first politically. I suggested it would be something regarding winding back firearms legislation, military spending or a protectionist economic measure – politically “safe” moves in the eyes of the electorate yet decisive enough to give him he appearance of gravitas (in reality, he has none). We had a long text discussion about Trump’s various economic policies and what would come to light out of them. At the end of one of my texts added that I wanted him to never ever mention anything about “ripping the baby from the womb” again – and was met with radio silence. I don’t think he’d even considered those aspects of Trump’s campaign – his attitude towards women’s rights in particular. It occurred to me that this was so emblematic of the attitudes so many people take to voting – as in, they like the idea or policy of a candidate, so they’re willing to ignore many other unsavoury elements of their character. I don’t think that is a defining characteristic of every person who voted Trump, but certainly rings true for a significant portion of them. And I think it’s sad that people are willing to compromise their beliefs for a dubious figure because they find so little faith to hold in the rest of the political system.

    We are lumbered with a Trump presidency, yes, and my first instinct was to hope/speculate that he would be reeled in by the rest of the party, or would dial back some of his extreme proposals before legislating them. It’s hard to put faith in somebody who seems so unwilling to change and I realised that the one faith we all can still hold is faith in ourselves and our own beliefs. Because a system has (temporarily, ideally), aligned itself against us, it doesn’t change who we are and what we hold dear. One day the tides will turn back to us and until then, we have to take it upon ourselves to make these days our own as much as we can.

  • Cynthia Schoonover

    This is the best post-election blog post I have read. As a high school teacher, in my school system, I am not allowed to state my political viewpoint, and I all could say was whether or not I voted.