I Clean My Closet Once a Month: Does that Make Me Compulsive?

Reaching for wardrobe nirvana

10.27.16
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On the fourth Saturday of every month, I clean my closet. There is no exception to this rule. For the majority of that morning, I sit cross-legged, as if meditating, in front of my closet among piles of garments I have newly vetoed and begin folding them into bags labeled Sell, Donate and Mom (the stuff in this bag goes to my aunts and cousins).

What you are probably thinking is that as someone who is frequently called an influencer and thus gets given a lot of stuff, that I even have the ability to clean my closet so often is a privilege. Given the frequency with which incoming merchandise is infused into my wardrobe, it makes perfect sense that I should match this volume with that of outgoing merchandise, but no! I have always cleaned my closet on an alarmingly regular basis.

When I think about why that’s possible, I feel guilt about a former fast-fashion addiction (I recall buying at least one thing every week with my allowance over the course of high school and college from either Forever 21, H&M or Zara), but I digress. The whole ritual is curiously cathartic for me. Truly a bit like meditating. I get to think long and hard about what’s in my closet and why it’s there and how it even got there and whether it brings me joy.

Just kidding, I do not ask myself if everything in my closet brings me joy. (If you are unfamiliar, this is a basic principle of Marie Kondo’s tidying method: you’re supposed to ask yourself whether your garments bring you joy and if they don’t, you get rid of them. Personally, I find Marie Kondo to sound a bit like a serial killer so it is hard to take her advice at book value.)

Recently, I heard on a podcast that tidying up is a form of self-respect and that made me feel less compulsive about the whole thing. It’s a nice sentiment, isn’t it? That taking care of your space, respecting your belongings, knowing where everything is at all times is one way to show that you respect yourself? I’m going with it, and because we’re no longer flirting with the beginning of a season but rather are knee-deep in its trenches, I’m also going to suggest that if you have no plans on Saturday morning, you take some time with your closet. Get to know it, you know? Tell your summer clothes to fuck off (but in a nicer tone) and remind yourself constantly as you appraise pilled sweaters and ripped jeans and poorly ironed wool pants that quality trumps quantity. Quality trumps quantity.

What I mean by this is that sometimes it’s really comforting to look into a full closet, even if it’s full of stuff you don’t care about. But wardrobe nirvana, really, is the ability to blindfold yourself and feel satisfied with whatever you subsequently pull out of your closet. This means you are an extremely coordinated shopper, but also that you’ve actually developed that sort of French wardrobe of which women’s magazines are always extolling the virtues.

I’m not sure if I’m supposed to give you closet cleaning tips now, particularly because I find the photo above kind of condescending (ultimately, I *do* have a lot of shit, but that’s the double-edged sword about compulsive behavior, isn’t it?), so instead, I’ll speak to both ends of the compulsion coin and share three questions I ask myself when stuck on a garment while cleaning my closet, and another three I follow (made up?) for shopping. If you feel like I wasted 612 words worth of your time, I’m sorry; here’s the gift of discovery (snake toothpaste!!!!!) to make up for it.

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For closet cleaning:

1. When is the last time I wore this? (If the answer exceeds 12 months, I will typically relinquish the garment.)

1a. Do I like how I feel when I wear it, or do I often take it off because even though it makes so much sense theoretically, it never works when I put it on? (If this answer is yes, so long.)

2. Do I have another, better version of this garment that I would almost always choose to wear in its place? (See 1a answer key.)

3. Am I holding on to this because I feel like I have to, even though if I were not blinded by the label inside, I’d have probably gotten rid of it already? (I find this happens a lot with vintage designer clothing.)

For shopping:

1. Am I buying this because I’m bored or because I actually want/need it? (If you’re bored, don’t get it. You probably don’t actually need anything, btw. Unless you’re starting a new job at Goldman Sachs and used to work at Man Repeller in which case, WTF are you doing?)

2. Will the acquisition of this garment provide an overall lift to the rest of my closet? Will it make getting dressed on a consistent basis feel more fun? (If the answer is yes, ka-ching, ka-ching.)

3. What utilitarian purpose does this serve? (If none, that’s okay, but you should know, particularly if you are training to be a professional walker-with-platform-on-head.)

Photos by Krista Anna Lewis.

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  • Meggie Sullivan

    Thanks so much for this!! Completely agree that a clean closet/room/ even general hygiene is a great sign of self-respect and appreciation.
    I’m going to have to write out those shopping tips and keep them on a lamented index card in my wallet..

  • I weed my wardrobes regularly, too – depends on the state they are in. Something about hating to put on an outer shell that was crammed in dark places, doesn’t look or smell clean or taken care of … bleurgh.

    I do keep clothes for a longer time, though, and it often turns out to be a good idea, but mostly when it is simple basics I am reluctant to give away (right now, I have my “no jeans” period and am patting myself on the back, grateful for not having thrown out all those classical pants …)

  • Mariana

    The problem with closet cleaning for me is that: 1) I get emotional about clothes. “Ohhh, I wear this at my 20th birthday. You stay here, little shorts that actually don’t fit. And 2) “Ok, I don’t wear it since 1990, but bottom jeans made a comeback, AM I RIGHT? You stay ir safe and sound, my precious.”.

    • nygirltrappedinfl

      I totally do this too and I just gained a TON of weight so I relegated piles of items that don’t fit me into a spare room but every time I look in there I feel horrible….I should probably just toss it all and hope that if I lose weight I can start fresh.

      • alexa11221

        You know what? THIS IS PERFECTLY OK! Not everyone has to purge their wardrobe on a regular basis.

  • Molly D

    Feel more zen just reading about this. One thing I’ve been doing lately is getting rid of clothes I actively resent. The things I wear out of familiarity and utility. Practical maybe. If I see something and think “ugh, YOU again” then bye. Might be a good tactic for quality people and friends too but that’s kind of mean.

  • Andrea Raymer

    I also like to go through my closet regularly, however I have a problem where I tend to send the things I don’t want home to my parents just in case I want them again in a few years. This happens particularly often when it comes to pants that are either too big or too small.

    • I always keep a few pants that are too big or too small and have been heard to say Thank-you! to my past self for that reason many a time … 🙂

    • b.e.g.

      Oh how I wish I had done this with that pair of kid pants I purged and donated to Goodwill. In my case though, my sister probably would have snagged them out of my Mom’s closet and I’d never see them again anyway.

    • Senka

      I do a similar thing. My parents have more storage space so I often pack and take boots, coats, sweaters and bigger stuff I don’t wear that very moment to their place. Sometimes I even forget I had something and get really happy when I find it there. I also share a shoe size and in many things clothes size and penchant for simple cuts with my mom, so we often swap stuff.

  • Spencer Glassman

    Sigh.. Why does everything I love have to be so problematic. I’m not assuming anything about Leandra because obviously she knows her life better than I do. But why do the makeup and fashion industries have to use and overuse words like “obsession” and “addiction”. As a recovering alcoholic and someone with diagnosed lack of impulse control I believe that throwing these words around willy nilly makes them so much less effective when people who actually suffer from addiction use them.. I don’t know, I love man-repeller soo much.. Just a thought.

    • Agreed agreed agreed. Disclaimer: I *love* Man Repeller and this is in no way the first time I’ve seen this done, so I don’t mean to throw shade on just this one instance…BUT. I have OCD, and OCD is shitty. The important thing to know (at least in my case) is that the ways in which OCD affects me most are NOT productive. They don’t advance my life in the slightest, like, say, having a cathartic experience organizing ones closet once a month. They don’t relieve anxiety, they cause anxiety.

      I do wish people would stop casually throwing around OCD as though it’s this cute, organizational tendency, when for those who have it it can actually really suck. I get that it would be another only-slightly-offensive-to-some thing to remove from vocabulary and I don’t blame people for saying it, but it’s something to think about. (But again, <3 you, Leandra! Just felt the need to make sure that was clear.)

      • Spencer Glassman

        Ahh thank you for saying this! I was worried what I said was goig to be dismissed as too sensitive…

        • Thank you for initiating it! I had the same worry about what I said. Not shutting down the piece in itself (it’s a great article, per usual) but just wanted to bring to light what that acronym, and the words you referenced, too, mean to some people.

          • MeredithG

            Jackie, your comment was spot on! I also love MR and leandra so so so much, this is an awesome piece otherwise! But it is hurtful when people trivialize OCD like its this cute/funny/silly quirk that means you love organization when in reality it is an anxiety-filled and life-altering disorder for many people. I thought this Atlantic piece from last year did an awesome job of explaining it: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/02/ocd-is-a-disorder-not-a-quirk/385562/

          • Really appreciate your comment, Meredith. I never talk about this stuff so it’s nice to hear that someone else gets it! And totally agree, that Atlantic piece nails the explanation.

          • Betsy

            I had the same feeling when I read the title. OCD is no joke – it’s hell. I don’t struggle with it but I have two students that do and it’s really agonizing. No, you are not OCD because you make a list. It bothers me almost as much as when people use schizophrenic as a synonym for MPD (multiple personality disorder) both of which are also hellish.

      • Lisa

        Thank god someone else thought this as well, that was my first thought when I read the title of the article. Cleaning you closet once a month is not OCD, cleaning you closet once a month because you feel like something horrible will inexplicably happen if you dont and you have to clean your closet every month or else is OCD.

      • Grace

        So happy someone else said this because this was the first thing I noticed when I checked the site today. I also have OCD and was only recently diagnosed because, surprisingly, I had no clue that my serious compulsions were OCD. I attribute this largely to it being used in the way it was used here which can prevent people from fully understanding this condition and falsely misattributes certain actions to a very serious disorder. My compulsions mostly have nothing to do with cleaning, organizing, etc, so I didn’t connect my behavior with OCD because I was under the impression that these were the only ways it manifested. Seeing it used this way is upsetting to me because I have and continue to suffer tremendously from it and this usage does not do me and others with OCD justice.

        As much as I love Leandra and don’t want to blame her for using it either, I do think it’s important to hold people accountable for their language and the ways it can perpetuate misconceptions and misunderstandings. I also hope our responses can be seen as serious criticisms and not set aside by being categorized as being part of ~pc culture~, which unfortunately it has been in my experience.

        • This is such a good point, Grace. I was diagnosed years ago but I still remember how clear the diagnosis was to my therapist. Everything I told her was textbook OCD, but I had never even heard of OCD before so I couldn’t recognize the symptoms on my own. Definitely different from your experience since I was pretty young at the time, but I still think it speaks to the overall misunderstanding of OCD as a whole.

          My inclination is to always be overly passive, hence what I wrote above about not wanting to blame anyone, but you’re totally right that by not holding people accountable for their language it can perpetuate misconceptions of OCD. For me personally, it WOULD be better if people had a greater understanding of it, because then I wouldn’t be so hesitant to talk about it, I wouldn’t feel quite as alone in it, you know?

      • I was about to comment something similar, I don’t have OCD personally, but jeez it fecking angers me so much when people throw the term around willy nilly. I was going to comment and ask if she actually has OCD ‘cos I didn’t want to assume, it doesn’t sound like she does. I love MR but I’m so disappointed with this. I really think the title should be changed. I wasn’t sure about what to say though due to not having it, good on you for speaking out <3

      • Kelly

        I have OCD. I pick my skin compulsively till it bleeds and have done so almost daily for at least fifteen years and cry and feel worthless about it and have taken medication and been to therapy and nothing works and I’m covered in scars and scabs and now the perfect skin is such a THING I feel more worthless than ever. BUT I also talk about OCD as casually as Leandra does when I struggle with decision making or do something in an obsessive way and I see no issue with it. Do we all have to be offended about everything these days? It’s not a social good. The more offense is normalised, the harder it will be for YOU to speak. I also suffer from social phobia, it’s intertwined very closely with my OCD and worrying about the fact that every time I express a thought, someone is sure to jump on me activates my OCD too. The struggle actually is real.

      • Kelsey

        This is so well said! I have OCD as well and always cringe when people use the joke lightly. My OCD leads to nothing proactive, just leads me to tortuous, cyclical, obsessive actions.

    • ESW

      This is how I feel about “hoarding” because my mom was a legit hoarder!

  • Natasha

    Thanks for the tips, am feeling the itch to wardrobe clean ASAP!

    But I do think it’s OK to keep things that you haven’t worn in a while, or things that are no longer in trend or even fit your current style, as long as it’s a good quality garment that has made you smile before. One day you might be happily surprised by them! One of my favorite things ever is going into my mom’s closet, and discovering amazing pieces from the 90s that now I get to wear 🙂

  • Raqui

    I do not think that this is OCD at all!!!!

    I wrote about a similar topic on my blog Preternaturalist earlier this week, about how to “weaponize your wardrobe” in order to keep out items that do not serve to help represent you they way you want to be represented. So I 100% agree with you about the need to cleanse your closet in a regular basis!

    For me, I think once a month is a little too often – I think each season makes more sense. But if you are lucky enough to have a stream of AMAZING clothes pouring into your closet, once a month is understandable (and probably needed to keep it under control)!

    Leandra- I LOVE the idea that cleaning out your closet is a form of self respect! When we think of our style as a communication tool that we use to lean about ourselves (and inform others about who we are), its makes sense to chuck pieces that don’t represent us the way we want them to.

    Do you think we could take this even one step further and say that: yes this is a form a self respect but ASLO a form of self care.

    What do you think? Am I the crazy one now!?

    Here is a link to the article I was talking about earlier.
    http://www.preternaturalist.com/weaponize-your-wardrobe

    You guys are a serious source of joy in my life,
    Raqui

  • Diane

    Loved this piece because I am an editor by trade and can’t help but edit my closet on a regular basis (I also make my bed each morning, which I think is another act of self respect). Despite the fact that I now have a large closet, I still adhere to this adage: One thing goes away to make room for something new. When purging my closet, I also consider how uncomfortable an item is since that often deters me from wearing it. When buying, I ask myself these two questions: Am I buying this because it is on sale? And can I wear this on a Tuesday afternoon (i.e., meaning for the lifestyle I am currently living vs. the more glamorous one I aspire to). Can’t tell you how many times I have walked away from an item and how much money I have saved in the process!

    • nygirltrappedinfl

      I NEVER make my bed which is probably why my closet is a train wreck….

  • lily

    Ok i have to go to therapy in like….40 minutes but now I want to clean my closet REALLLY bad

  • Bella

    Where;s the red silk shirt from??! Love it.

  • If you ever feel the need to relieve yourself of the white dress to your immediate right in the first photo let me know. I need that.

  • Cristina

    I clean my closet out each season and am working toward a “wardbrobe capsule.” It’s cathartic really. Only a few times later am I like “hmm.. wish I still had that” but did I wear it enough for it to take up space? No. 1a sounds like the perfect thing for me to tell this neutral, chiffon kimono thingy I have that I loved and thought would go with everything but every time I put it on something just doesn’t work. I’m also starting to be over plaid (in the midwest/south, I’ve just uttered the most sinful thing ever). Ooo and 100% quality over quantity. Which is why I’m currently investing in good jeans. Once a month. Cause well, I’m not a millionaire lol. I’m also happy to say all my shoes are leather and one pair of boots I’ve owned for 10 years and I still luuurrrvvvvv them. Leather only gets better with age!

    • I’m with you 100%, closet clean out once every season change! When you get that feeling like “I wish I still had that” can you think of why you got rid of it in the first place? was it because you didn’t feel like you needed it anymore? It’s so hard to pick and choose sometimes!!!

      • Cristina

        Most of the time, the things I get rid of fall into the “haven’t worn in a year” category. Now that I’ve pretty much whittled my wardrobe down, I clean out stuff I just don’t like anymore for the coming season and replace it with a piece or 2 that I do! I try to buy universal pieces and don’t often do trendy things, unless I know it’s a “trend” I’ll be obsessed with forever. Like Chelsea boots. Or a pair of studded booties I’m buying this year.

        • Christina- that makes so much sense!!! I do the same haven’t-wont-it-in-a-year toss too!!! Also I do something similar to your get rid of one thing replace with 2, but instead if i buy something I get rid of 2! funny! What do you think is it about a certain piece that gives you the feeling that you will be obsessed with it forever? I get that same feeling too about stuff and I am trying to see if I can distill that thought process down to its bare elements. So I like to ask other people for their opinions too, to see if there is a common thread 🙂

          • Cristina

            I mean, I don’t have a rule of thumb number when it comes to toss/replace. I have a hunch to toss 3 shirts and I already have my eye on a couple I want to replace them. And how I know I will love something forever is if I can’t stop thinking about it. I RARELY buy something off impulse. I see it, I take a picture of it, I dwell on it. If I’ve forgotten about it a few days later, then I didn’t need it. If I still can’t stop thinking about it a week or so, then I add it to my list to buy. These are usually pieces I splurge on and that I know match most everything in my closet so I’ll wear them all the time.

          • That’s a great way to test! Kudos on your system!

  • Lindsay D

    What kind of hangers are those?! I may have closet envy 🙂

  • Ting Ting

    I have very limited wardrobe space, so everything I own needs to be loved so much that I’d feel like wearing it almost every single day if I could/had the opportunity. In early spring and autumn I weed out and buy new stuff. That happens naturally as the seasons change. In summer and winter, I mostly try to make things work.
    Whenever something has to go, I feel very sorry for it. It’s like it has failed to make its way to its rightful owner. It had to go because I didn’t buy it with the proper conviction or because it was cheap in quality or in style. The fashion industry is insanely wasteful, so I am against changing with the seasons just because the industry does. I believe in style or design that, if worn with the right attitude, transcends the trends of any era. Sometimes when I throw something away I feel like I’m supporting the part of the fashion industry that is hell-bent on selling half-hearted watered down design or cheap quality to make consumers believe they have to buy everything anew the next season, and that makes me furious. In my ideal closet, each piece would be so special I could keep it forever or so loved it would be worn until it falls apart. In the best of worlds, sixty years from now, I could be like Iris Apfel, wearing this summer’s dress with the pants from 2067 and layering it with the tons of jewelry I will still amass over the years. Well, I’m not a hoarder by nature, but the notion of wearing things that will work for me even many years from now is one that makes me happy, it’s like a happily-ever-after (I’m not married yet).

    • Ting Ting- I LOVE the way you talk about your wardrobe and how you choose items. It is so romantic and full of conviction! When you talk about not wanting to change with the seasons are you thinking that you don’t want to throw out your whole closet and replace with a new one? Because thats understandable. When I talk about chaining my closet over I simply mean putting summer clothes away (moving them under the bed) and hanging up fall items. I actually like to do this because it gives the pieces that I love so much a break from wear and (hopefully) gives them a longer life overall (like you I want to wear my faves until they die so I find myself baby-ing my faves a lot). Do you think that is your wardrobe space was not limited that you would expand the size of your wardrobe? Or would you stick to your (awesomely) disciplined ways?

      • Ting Ting

        Hello there, sorry for taking so much time to reply. I would definitely expand!
        Having a “capsule” wardrobe takes a lot of coordination, so I always forego more “special” pieces in favor of more basic stuff that I can mix, match and drape as I like. It’s a good exercise in coordination and getting to know what one likes and would definitely wear – you know, sort through the muddle of desires when one is shopping – and a good exercise in creativity. But I would like to have some more outrageous pieces that I couldn’t wear quite as often, or really many gorgeous dresses to choose from. And I actually can’t have enough sweaters. 🙂 So I’d definitely keep to my credo of “only buying what you would love to wear every day if you could”, but the more to love, the better, right? 🙂 But actually this approach sets its own limits. I really like my jackets and I find it hard to buy anything new that I would equally like. So my number of jackets has been quite steady. Curiously, even now, there are things that don’t get worn often, so maybe I do have quite a lot of things already?

    • Tania

      I agree with Raqui, your comment was beautifully written. I have the same ideal closet but my main problem is size fluctuation. So as I’ve gotten older I’ve become less obsessed with the smallest possible tailored fit and look for items that can work give or take a few pounds and I’ve embraced the coziness that a slouchy item in a good feeling fabric can bring and being less perfectly coiffed (my hair is quite bedhead now 80% of the time). It’s much easier to be more flexible on size with today’s fabrics. Also feel more like me and not some petite blogger if I transcend fashion’s rules about how a garment should fit and feeling like me is the key to wearing an item for longer even after annual recurring trip where I ate my way across the PNW. It’s taken much of the pressure off and I rarely buy fast fashion any longer (except for the occasional Zara espadrille or soft T). I’m moving in soon with my BF. I currently live in a small space with a giant walk in to a shared space with him (& a normal sized closet) so a regular process is in order. Am feeling inspired about your idea of imagining a piece on an older me (I’ve already amassed quite a jewelry collection). And although I live in Hawaii I do think a seasonal edit and audit is still a good idea.

  • MT

    One of my favorite humans/best friends is a regular closet cleaner and I try to channel her as regularly as possible, though not so often as once a month. I don’t have hard rules for what to keep versus get rid of…. but I’m getting better and prying things I haven’t worn in a long time off of much needed hangers. Much better. My problem is always the money. I spent money on it! It’s wasteful to get rid of it!! I have a lot of penny pinching qualities when it comes to stuff I already own and almost none when it comes to buying stuff, which leads to a REALLY FULL closet.

    I do like this idea of doing it regularly (maybe every 6-8 weeks would be more reasonable for me) and being better about REALLY rotating out things I don’t truly love or wear regularly. I have plenty of space, there’s nothing stopping me.

  • Maria

    Hi, Leandra. Just wondering; where is the choker from, that you’re wearing in this video? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=byBKsK_nZQo

  • Pandora Sykes

    I do this tooooo. I love purging stuff. I can’t function if I have stuff that doesn’t ‘deserve’ to hog space.

    • b.e.g.

      This is me too. If I have things in my closet that I should have purged long ago, I get sort of stupified in front of my closet. That piece that should be gone keeps shouting at me, “why don’t you ever wear me?”

  • Ellen Hawkins

    I go through my wardrobe every SWATVAC period before university exams. I also get a haircut. Its relieving and i feel in control again. Quality over quantity always.

  • L

    I do not consider myself a sensitive person at all and very rarely comment on blog posts if at all. HOWEVER, asking if one cleaning their closet makes them “OCD” offends me to no end. I consider myself quite a relaxed person and even as a female don’t get offended by many of the things Donald Trump says and am able to easily brush them off as stupidity and don’t find myself personally offended ( Although I understand many differ from this opinion- don’t hate me please!)

    When it comes to mental illness, I guess I am on a different wavelength. I was diagnosed with OCD at the age of 14 and now 25, I can say it is barr none the WORST aspect of my life.

    OCD affects every aspect of ones being and has caused many sleepless nights and days of panic attacks, anxiety and at times, suicidal thoughts. I come to blogs such as these to get my mind off my troubles and to read interesting articles.

    I believe that NO MATTER ones illness, whether physical or mental, it does not deserve to be trivialized in a blog post. There are sensitive ways of writing such an article such as ” Am I obsessive about my cleaning” or something along those lines.

    OCD stands for Obsessive Compulsive DISORDER. There is no such thing as being ” SO OCD”.

    I am sorry for this comment I just truly wish people would understand this important difference as mental illness is often trivialized and stigmatized in the media.

    The post may not have been intended as “offensive” but it is extremely ignorant and as an OCD sufferer- I feel as if something should be said.

    I would never label myself ” So anorexic” If I wasn’t hungry. Or ” So broken leg” If i felt a pain in my leg. So people need to realize this and change the way they speak about OCD

    xo L

    • b.e.g.

      L, I understand your point, but these terms get used in everyday vernacular without disrespect. Leandra is very colloquial in her writing voice. If you read enough of her posts you will note she is very conscientious to not offend. I’m sure she feels bad to have offended a reader. It is very difficult to navigate the waters of political correctness. And too much political correctness has led to some seriously ridiculous apologies. I, too, am OCD. My son also. And yes, it is a very difficult part of our lives. But, hey, I don’t expect others to tip toe around me.

  • b.e.g.

    Until I purge all those pieces whispering adjectives at me, my closet is like a room that doesn’t function. That said, I have some serious regrets about some of my deep purges. One pair of kid suede pants in particular. Natural colour, high waisted with an inlaid band of purple. Wide legged and long. Lined. Gorgeous. Looked amazing on me. But after my son was born I stayed overweight for a good year, and I purged them in acceptance of the new me. Stupid. Stupid. Stupid. I still have dreams that I ran back to retrieve them from the Goodwill bin. No, not the wedding dress I gave up then too, keep that, the kid suede pants. Stupid. I should have listened to my mother.

  • b.e.g.

    Actually, on second read, what I really want to know is where do you send those cast offs??? And where, what site, do you “sell” the not donated pieces? You are, yes, much taller and thinner than me, but hey, I may score a nice top or two.

    • diane

      I sell my better stuff on the online consignment site The Real Real and my less expensive things at a local My Sister’s Closet. Another online shop is called Vestaire. Hope that helps!

  • So jealous of every one below who has actually things to clean out, my wardrobe is mini size.I own like 3 pair of jeans, 5 pullovers, 3 skirts, 2 coats etc.
    Have a great weekend everybody.
    Cheers,
    Tatjana
    https://tbymallano.com/

  • Imaiya Ravichandran

    Lol at the mari kondo bit…just finished reading her book for a book club and I felt the exact same way

  • Kelsey Loraine

    Question 1a! Yes! I was going to go look at corgis in Halloween costumes in the park on Saturday, but now I think I have a new agenda.

  • diane

    The only item of clothing I regret discarding was the navy blue jacket I wore to my father’s funeral. It was my favorite jacket and I wore it constantly because it fit well, was comfortable, in a color I love, but every time I wore it afterward, it just made me sad. On a different note, my new favorite tactic when tempted to buy something is to consider if it DESERVES to come home with me!

  • Unless you actually HAVE OCD maybe change the title of this post? OCD is not being organised or tidying your closet out for funsies or cos you have too many clothes or whatever. If this was a serious post wondering if you have OCD I’m sorry, it doesn’t come across. I love MR but pretty disappointed in this, expected better from here!

  • Kelly again

    Also, to the handwringers (or do I mean handwashers? I can say that because I AM one guys, chill, chill): To be honest, I think that if Leandra feels such an overwhelming need to keep her wardrobe under control and perfect there IS a shade of obsessiveness and compulsiveness about it. It might be subclinical but you don’t know how she FEELS about these issues in her deepest heart, or how she feels about herself. She might write about this humorously, but that is the exact way I cope with my own mental health struggles. So don’t be quick to jump on the judge train my little fellow OCD sufferers. I imagine she is under a huge amount of pressure to look correct and be fashionable and not look like she cares yada yada yada, and I can imagine that creating obsessive or compulsive feelings or behaviour in relation to the wardrobe. Which is actually a very loaded space. Which reminds me, this is an interesting book about wardrobes http://www.bloomsbury.com/uk/through-the-wardrobe-9781859733882/

  • Kelly

    Why would you delete my comment moderator? That was inappropriate. Go you, making a SAFE SPACE that shuts down alternative opinions. Pat yourself on the back mod, you’re doing an amazing job.

  • Basil

    I heard 1 and 2 advice on closer clearing a couple of years ago, and it was a revelation. I clear my closet out between seasons (as far as is possible in the UK – sometimes summer looks alarmingly like winter) and find that’s a good time to review. The second rule (don’t hold onto stuff that makes you feel rubbish when you wear it) is so simple but so brilliant. Why on earth would you wear stuff that makes you feel like crap? Well, I kind of got the answer today when doing a bit of a clear out in the name of decluttering. It’s because sometimes that top / skirt represents a version of yourself that you want to hang onto, be it a past you or an idealised you. It can be tough but liberating as well (I got rid of a dress I haven’t worn in EIGHT YEARS. WTF)