It’s Time to Start Brushing Your Hair Again

Messy hair isn’t the only cool kid in town, anymore!


Three-year-olds and lazy Jared Letos had a great run, didn’t they? For at least six years — I think we stopped using hair straighteners after The Hills ended — messy, tousled, unbrushed, middle-parted beach waves were in. The style was more in than that hair wearing a pimple hat burrowed in your bikini line. It was capital T-R-E-N-D.


Well I am sorry to tell you this because effort blows and tangles hurt, but it might be time to start thinking about breaking up the waves and brushing your hair again.

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On a dirty-haired and unassuming Thursday I walked into Blackstones salon (the new one, in downtown Manhattan’s Roxy Hotel) with a mission from Leandra for the artists:

Take Amelia’s Connie Britton bouffant — the higher the hair, the closer to heaven, ya’ll!!!! — and make it COOL or she’s fired.

(How many times has Leandra fired me, by the way?)

Now, a few things before we continue: hair posts on myself are tricky because I know that you the readers are a diverse pod(cast) of people with all different hair types. On July 1 we have a multi-faceted gym hair styling story, we have an upcoming styles-that-hide-your-grease story (with three different kinds of textures), and I’d love for you to shout out how-to’s that you need in the comments section because we’re working on them. 

It’s also important to stress that no one’s here to say what is and isn’t “good hair.” The relationship between a woman and the dead stuff that grows out of her scalp’s pores is:

– Personal

– Unique

– A choice but not always a statement

– Her fucking business

That said I think we can all agree, because of French people and mohawks, that not all hair is created edgy. Especially not mine. Not when you consider its daily height-to-heaven ratio without even the tiniest hint of irony.

But after talking with Blackstones owner Joey Silvestera and salon manager/stylist Maura Burns, I learned that the new way to get edgy hair is to brush it so that it looks like Chloë Sevigny-meets your former youth before you began taking the iron to it.

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^ I mean, look how cool and awkward and fluffy and soft it is. Like a pre-teen who got ready for picture day.

And is it easy? Yes. Does it require clean hair? No. Does it require wet hair? No. But can your hair be wet? Damp. Does it require a really expensive hairbrush that I couldn’t bear to buy so I bought the knockoff and the knockoff worked almost just as well? Yes. 

Let’s call it the Chloë Sevigny Smoothie because all good hair-do’s have a name; the doughnut bun didn’t rise to popularity on shape alone, you know. And let’s do it together (step by step) in the slideshow above.

Want to stick to your beach waves? Totally fine. Beaches will never not trend. Besides, someone has to twin with Jared Leto, for heaven’s sake. For just this once, I would like it not to be me!

THANK YOU TO BLACKSTONES AT THE ROXY HOTEL! Follow the salon @blackstonesnyc on Insta. 

Photographed by Krista Anna Lewis; Amelia wearing an Anine Bing dress.


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  • Sujie Kim

    I feel like I’ve only just started being ok with not brushing my hair….

    • Amelia Diamond

      So keep it up! Don’t brush. Saves time.

  • Anne Dyer

    You look beautiful. And please tell us if the brush was any good so we can save like, a hundred dollars.

    • Amelia Diamond

      I’m doing a post where I’m gonna try both brushes — I can’t tell yet. So far MP’s results are more dramatic but both offer a similar effect.

  • My hair still does that messy beach wave thing even after I brush it. If I don’t brush it just looks like a big awkward puffy ball.

    • Amelia Diamond

      Bet it’s so pretty though!

    • Haley Nahman

      i love puffy balls

  • Kelsey O’Donnell

    no trend! is the new trend … #please #thinhairdontcare #butidocare

    • Amelia Diamond

      there are no trends! but brushing your hair feels nice.

  • Maria

    You’ve been K-Middlefied.

    • Amelia Diamond

      I am not wearing low wedges yet !

      • Maria

        Make them the Carina Castañer espadrilles and all is forgiven.

  • Beth

    The Sonia Kasuk knockoff rated higher than the mason pearson in some magazine review from 7 years ago that I can’t remember….

  • Ashley

    Alternate Title: Amelia is pretty and everyone but her looks terrible on Monday (and by everyone I mean me)

    But also, I’m super into that sock thing. It could transform my hair post midday workout.

    • Ashley

      Totally missed where you asked for feedback. Can someone give me interesting ideas on what to do with my short hair? I also love product advice at all times. The more, the better.

      • Amelia Diamond

        Ok what’s your hair type

        • Ashley

          Curly but fine but thick, if that makes sense? It’s also super color treated. In the past 12 months I’ve been brunette, red, and blonde. I’m currently blonde and my hair usually resembles a lion’s mane with no product which is awesome for empowerment but not for everything else (think: I am woman hear me roar oh wait, I can’t go out with my hair like that). I’m totally inspired by J.Law and Khloe K.’s hair but like, how do they do all that other stuff that’s isn’t just a blow out?

          Does that help? ¯_(ツ)_/¯

    • Amelia Diamond

      This was shot on a Thursday. I look very scary today 🙁

      • Haley Nahman


  • I have very fine, straight hair. I’ve tried dry shampoo but it didn’t do much. (And hair brushing and hair dryers destroy my hair.) The least time consuming solution for grease and sweat is to just wash it.

    • Amelia Diamond

      See for me, I have to PSYCHE myself up to wash my hair. It’s an effing process.

      • Aydan

        oh I’m so glad you said this. Sometimes I get so averse to washing my hair I just go and splurge on a blowout…(not showering, just washing my hair!)

        • Amelia Diamond

          UGH HEAR YOU

  • Samantha s

    I am officially not washing my hair tomorrow morning and trying this

    • Amelia Diamond

      Try it!

  • Aubrey Green

    Amelia: you look AAAHHHHHMMMAAZZIINNNNGGG. So Gorgeous. Your hair is unreal, everything about it. Do you dye it? You’re just lovely.

    • Amelia Diamond

      Yea! I am actually very gray, so I get my roots dyed often + a clear glaze over for shine and once a year I get the ends painted and then sort of cut it off all winter and start again.

      • BK

        Demarcate to me the clear glaze experience, if you will. Worth it?

  • I am very happy with this trend!

  • Krista Anna Lewis

    This convinced me to buy the brush ( has them for like $100 off!!!!) and I haven’t stopped brushing it since. Like actually tho. Ask the unfortunate souls would sit around me.

    • Olivia Vadnais

      Welp. I’ve been convincing myself for years that I didn’t need one, but now that I’ve seen this comment, OOPS I JUST BOUGHT ONE. 😀

    • M Rae

      so is legit?? I read some statement by MP saying they don’t sell online and that there are lots of ‘fakes’ out there. and now I’m hating myself for stressing over hairbrush authenticity.

  • BK

    Okay firstly your hair looks amazing. Like a sexy Gandalf.
    Secondly I second entirely, with all my heart, the Mason Pearson endorsement. I’ve had one for like a year now and it’s so good. Somehow it makes your hair softer. Legitimately it does, I’ve never had anything like it. I actually use two brushes, a wooden-bristled one to massage the scalp and loosen any tangles, and then the MP sort of as dessert. DO ET.
    Also !!! thanx !!! For the dry shampoo tip. I never let it sit and it never seems to work very well and now it’s all coming very clear to me as to why that is.

    • Amelia Diamond

      “Like a sexy Gandalf.” if i die, you guys, this on my tombstone please.

  • starryhye

    Amelia, your hair is shampoo commercial level shiny and thick! Good lord, woman. I’ll let you straight haired girls carry out this trend. I only brush my hair before I get in the shower to pull out all the loose stuff. Brushes and curls are natural born enemies.

    • Aydan

      preach. My brush exists for my bang and my bangs only!

  • Diana

    That looks amazing but honestly also nearly impossible to achieve with my hair… I think it probably remembers how much i try to get volume and texture in it and is for some reason deliberately telling me to fuck off. Does the Living Proof dry shampoo actually help with getting volume?

    • Amelia Diamond

      Yea it does. That stuff was incredibleee.

  • mollie blackwood

    Amelia, how long did it last? I always feel like my dry shampoo-d and brushed third day hair looks great when I leave the house. After lunch I start looking piece-y and flat.

    • Amelia Diamond

      OK good question here: it lasted until about 11 PM and got this done at 4pm . (I had an event that night outside in humidity)

      • mollie blackwood

        Damn humidity. Well, it looks great on you sister.

  • Jessicaaaa

    Just wanna weigh in and say the Mason Pearson brush is pretty amazing imo. More affordable brushes that claim to do the same thing still feel like they’re *ripping* through my hair when I use them – I never have that feeling with the MP. I have relatively fine but very long hair so it tangled easily and painfully. Also I use a very cheap shampoo+conditioner and rarely visit the hair salon, don’t dye my hair etc. so I feel like I save big $$$ on all that, therefore it’s worth it to get the killer hairbrush…

    • Amelia Diamond

      I’m gonna buy and try!

  • I choked at the Easter egg in slide 13

    • Amelia Diamond


  • Berta Amelinaite

    You look so purrrty, Amelia!!!<3 For someone with a mile long hair/unmanageable mane… I found that if I put my hair in a bun before bed it was much easier to brush in the morning and would sill keep pretty light waves! Otherwise if left in its natural state, I would be a walking hair brush accessory or be brush-less (even the brushes give up on my 9 headed dragon hair).

    • Amelia Diamond

      I’m a bun-sleeper, too!!

  • Amy

    Tips for growing out bangs? Because right now I always look like The Waif in GoT. They must be pinned to the side as they are too long to style as fringe and too short to do what the rest of my hair is doing. -_-

    • Amelia Diamond

      hahah for the waif. aren’t you sad the “pouf” isn’t a thing anymore? (make it one!) can you french braid? I used to do a tiny french braid to the side when I had bangs and then pin it there.

  • Your hair is sooo shiny and beautiful. Please tell me that isn’t the result of the Ma$on Pear$on, and if it is, does your knock off also make your hair shiny like that? Or is it the blowdryer sock? I NEED ANSWERS! PS this post made me think of Marsha Brady who brushed her hair 100X/night.

    • Amelia Diamond

      I’m going to do a story with the mason p. versus the knock off to see which works better!! MARSHAAAA. Also that blowdryer sock was awesome but I WATCHED the brush add the shine.

  • Julie

    You have glorious hair Amelia. And Connie Britton’s lion’s mane is legendary. I enjoyed reading through the process and tips etc, as I have also have thick, similar length wavier blonde hair that I’m trying to wash less and less. I do think that your hair looks even shinier by the end of the post but honestly otherwise it looks just as good to begin with!

    Also, I have the MP Popular brush and I really like it but it could be overhyped. I’m sure a good quality, cheaper brush would do the exact same job.

    • Amelia Diamond

      Is the “Popular” brush the name of the one you have or just the actual popular one? There are a few and I got confused on the website and gave up

      • Julie

        Yeah the names are really confusing, took me ages to figure out which one too. So the one I have is the large bristle and nylon (BN1) brush, and it says ‘Popular’ at the base of the red rubber cushion on the handle, if that makes sense. The larger bristle and nylon ones are recommended for long thick hair. The little pocket ones would probably be good for throwing in your bag as well but I’d go with a bigger brush for getting the best result with less effort!

  • Jolie

    Hair wearing a pimple hat. Oh my god. THIS IS TOO REAL AND VISCERAL FOR ME, I LOVE YOU.

  • sin_plomo

    “The relationship between a woman and the dead stuff that grows out of her scalp’s pores is:

    – Personal– Unique– A choice but not always a statement– Her fucking business”

    Could not agree more

  • soniadelvalle

    U guiseeee! I just saw this vid and realized Mia’s hair is BRUSHED and totally thought of this post!