Oh Boy Episode 18
Hari Nef
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“I always wanted to be beautiful,” actress and model Hari Nef tells Jay Buim. “I never felt beautiful when I was a person who was presenting as male. I wasn’t any more beautiful after shooting a fashion editorial than I was before it, but it’s the most conventional affirmation of your physical beauty that you possibly can have. After so many years of trying to figure out how not to hate my body…I just never thought people would see me like that. That was the original rush. Now it’s more of a negotiation, trying to feel beautiful on my own terms and not have it come from the validation.”

In this episode of Oh Boy, we meet Hari Nef, the first openly transgender model signed to IMG who plays Tante Gittel in the 2nd season of Transparent. She speaks about the set’s welcoming environment (she describes it as “gender-chill”) and wonders aloud what the film and television industry would be like if it were controlled by women instead of men. She also speaks to the need for trans rights, more understanding and less stigma — on screen, off camera and in real life.

And like everyone else, she’s trying to figure out what’s next. “I’m just kind of starting my journey,” she says.


Follow Hari on Instagram and Twitter (one of our favorite Instagrams to follow!). Host Jay Buim also has a pretty killer Instagram and website. Logo and feature illustration by Kelly Shami.


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  • Zsazsa

    Hari Nef = inspiration, role model, best Oh Boy episode so far, KWEEN.

    • Leticia Kahn

      I am getting a salary of more than 4500 dollars each week , that is awesome. Over a year ago I was in a horrible condition , jobless and Bank account with only few bucks . Thanks to one of my friends who showed me a way where I was able to gather myself and making average of 68 d/h. So it can change your life as it has changed mine.



  • LF

    What a beautiful interview. Thank you! For reals tearing up at my desk.

  • Allie Fasanella

    “i distracted everyone from how weird i was, by being good at stuff.’ she makes my heart skip a beat, i love her so.