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On today’s roster, Anthony’s Weiner and his wife’s untrammeled, sometimes admirable, sometimes confounding support.


Oh, sure. We’re pretty fond of each other, but the truth is you are all our favorite contributors to The Man Repeller. Today, we formalize that fact with “Let’s Talk About It.” This weekly column is a forum for conversation, communication, and complete distraction from the jobs you’re supposed to be doing right now. So get involved. We promise we won’t tell your bosses.

By now, you know all about Anthony Weiner and Huma Abedin. If you don’t, you’ve likely spent much of the past several weeks nodding silently in the various social settings where someone else has inevitably brought them up.

To recap: super sext-er Anthony Weiner is running for mayor of New York, and the city’s leastloved Dick is back in hot water this week. New allegations against the former U.S. representative have—shall we say—popped up, and at least one woman has claimed that Weiner continued to engage in inappropriate sexual exchanges with her even after he resigned. Apparently, he used the name Carlos Danger. No, really. (An inventive alternative to George Alexander Louis, don’t you think?)

Of course, there’s plenty to say about sex and sleaze and why Snapchat hasn’t signed on as the official sponsor of this mayoral race. But what we over at Man Repeller HQ can’t seem to shut up about is not Weiner himself, but Abedin—the worrisome wonk’s brilliant, inscrutable, and, yes, gorgeous wife. Of particular fascination? Her recent flirtation with fashion.

On the heels of yesterday’s accusations, Harper’s Bazaar has published an excerpt from an essay written by Abedin for the glossy’s September issue. Titled “The Good Wife,” it echoes many of the sentiments that the Hillary Clinton confidante has been sharing for months. In other words: its contents are hardly revelatory. What’s more surprising—at least to me—is that Abedin hand selected Harper’s as the piece’s platform.

On my most optimistic days, I’d like to believe fashion is empowering and that a publication that celebrates modern womanhood—warts and all—appealed to Abedin (and her team of advisors). Plus, there’s no question that Weiner’s wife looks stunning in such highly polished pages. Remember her Vogue spread circa 2007? Still, I can’t help but puzzle over how this piece might have played differently had she decided to run it in a mixed-demographic magazine. Read: one that doesn’t almost exclusively interest women.

Did Huma choose Harper’s because its female readers are—as Leandra posits—more forgiving than a mixed audience might be? If so, why didn’t Abedin opt for an editorial in, say, Good Housekeeping? Does contributing to Harper’s downplay Abedin’s intelligence or underscore it?

And does the article’s appearance in the monthly change your opinion of the political pair? Finally, because we just can’t help ourselves: what the hell do you think of Anthony Weiner, anyway?

Come on now; let’s talk about it.

Written by Mattie Kahn 

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  • magnolia

    Its F*&%ing bullshit. I don’t care how well dressed or good she looks. I cannot believe she is still “standing by her man” such a sham and complete marathon backward for all women.

    • Mattie Kahn

      Not saying I don’t agree, but what should a modern woman in her position do? Quietly divorce? Speak out on Oprah? How does a truly “empowered” woman behave here?

      • jen

        not stand next to him at press conference, at least pretend to be upset about it

        • Hannah

          First of all, I would say that it is tricky to fully comprehend her moves. Is she staying with him to use their marriage in favor of her career and status? Yes. Staying in the marriage for the sake of their child. Perhaps. In doing so however, she is stating to the, I am cautiously going using this phrase, feminist community, that you need your sleaze ball husband to be successful in all three of those arenas. On the other side, The Weiner has taken/took advantage of their marriage too. Can we really blame her for playing the game and getting the most out of an inevitably painful situation? She is a politician too, no? She knows what the fuck she’s doing. Doesn’t necessarily mean she’s setting a good example. Just looking out for herself.

          • Claire

            From what I’ve gathered, she wants to run for office in the future. A married woman with a family is much more likely to win votes (even if her husband is a cheating scum) than a divorcee. Sad that society can’t judge based on qualifications, but it’s the truth.

          • Hannah

            Can’t we begin to change the stigma of the “divorcee” though? She would actually seem a more favorable and powerful candidate to me if she showed the confidence to get out of a shitty marriage. It would her highlight her values. And, it would certainly confuse me if people judged her for a choice like that.

          • Claire

            I totally agree with you that the perception needs to change. But sadly, not everyone is as intelligent as MR readers.

        • Hanne

          why pretend anything??

      • Michele Rodriguez

        In my opinion, quietly divorce.Their marriage has been made a mockery of along with his campaign (according to the most recent polls). She looks weak and although i do feel bad for the woman all I want to do is shake her and ask what the hell she is still doing in this marriage! The man is a pig and it is a very poor, almost concerning reflection on her.

        • nadya

          if she was miserable in her marriage she would have done it a long time ago. she is also very smart. if women start leaving their men for every single little flirtatious mark then i honestly dont think women would stay married at all.

      • Helen

        I find it annoying that at the press conference, she immediately stated “I forgive him” ? this has become the automatic go-to response from wives involved in these political sex scandals- why? wouldn’t a more honest response be “my husband has (sex addiction) issues and we are trying to work through our marriage together..”

      • lululautrec

        Maybe they have an open marriage and she is actually OK with what her husband does. But god forbid anyone in office say something like that publicly.

    • liz

      I think that maybe we (as in every person paying attention to the sexting situation) are being a little judgy. The only two people that know exactly what the Weiner marriage is like are the Weiners. I understand where y’all are coming from, but much like we aren’t supposed to cheat on our spouses, we aren’t supposed to divorce them either – even when the going gets tough. I don’t think we should write her off as a backwards pedaling, idiot who is ruining all the work that women have put in over the years. That seems a bit dramatic.

      • Norwegian

        I actually had this conversation with a girlfriend the other day. What if she just really loves him, and the idea of her life without him is too much? I’ve been married for a little over a year now, and, while I could never imagine my husband cheating on me, if he did I don’t think it would be this easy decision to just leave him. He is my life, and all of a sudden my life would be completely changed. I’m saying this as a lawyer who can fully and completely take care of myself, and who isn’t bound to him by any children.
        The same with Huma and Hillary. Maybe they aren’t just staying with their husbands for political gain. Maybe they do just really love them, no matter how much their men have humiliated them.

  • Hanne

    Choosing Harper’s Bazaar underscores her intelligence, since it shows that she doesn’t shy away from an unusual, and obviously a bit controversial, choice, and it showes that she feels smart and confident enough to oppose anyone who will now in the future look out for signs of her being the shallow fashion girl that prefers Harper’s Bazaar over an outlet with a different direction. It makes her cool, and step out of what she’s known for, and out of the expected.

  • enggirl

    I can probably forgive once but this is ridiculous. I agree, she probably picked that particular magazine for the demographics. But I can imagine it’s pretty hard to leave someone after all the “time you’ve invested” even if it’s the right thing to do.

    • Jessica Yas

      She hasn’t invested THAT much time- she and the Ween got married just about 3 years ago. She has her whole life ahead of her, and I think she should get out while she can. Yes, there is a certain amount of head-shaking that goes on in a lot of relationships- idiocies and mistakes that can be forgiven as foolish things not to be repeated. But Weiner clearly lacks a fundamental respect for his beautiful, ambitious, intelligent, successful wife. Move on Huma, move on.

      • Mattie Kahn

        “The Ween.” Serious question: why isn’t everyone calling him that??

  • suparna

    she’s a moron. so much potential and squandering it, ruining her reputation/image for her husband’s sake…what a shame. she chose harper’s because it’s high brow and perhaps those who are more sophisticated are also the most critical of her and her relationship with that idiot. do new yorkers even read good housekeeping? she couldn’t go with vogue because it’s too snobby. so harper’s it is.
    part of me thinks she truly isn’t bothered by her husband’s sexting..that they have some sort of weird agreement where they are allowed to do stuff like that…like a sham marriage, purely political
    actually writing an article about this and putting it in harper’s with a smiling picture seems like a very calculated political move too…they whole thing is really gross…i do NOT understand those two

    • Maui Mendoza

      this is the worst POV I’ve read in this thread. Try starting your argument with less ignorant statements. Moron.

  • Abigail M.

    Okay totally off topic, but I had a dream last night about meeting you (Leandra) and Charlotte on a bus to Jewish Camp. We were all having such a great conversation and you even told me that you thought I was “pretty neat”. But then I finally came to the realization that I am in fact not Jewish. I hopped off the bus before the driver met his destination and you gave me your number as Charlotte & you waved from the bus.
    Yeah I know, very weird.
    So I came to the following conclusions that I either:
    A) read your blog way too much
    B) have a strange desire to meet you
    C) you came in the form of a spirit last night and took over my dreams

    I’m convinced it’s C.

  • Views on Weiner: He’s a weenie/dweeb.
    Views on her choice: She should leave, really! She has so much more going on, and just like her magazine choice, she is bogging down her intellect by staying with this guy. Despite his possible political prowess, I think that his social life has become too much of a distraction for that to even be relevant. She can excel way beyond these boundaries of his immaturity and lack of respect. That being said, I think she needs to muster some respect for herself and call it quits. He’s to blame, AND she’s to blame. I don’t like the title of the piece, either. being a “Good Wife” to me is not standing by a man who repeatedly fails you (and those wedding day promises).

  • Catherine

    I’m really glad that Man Repeller is addressing Huma — it’s totally valid to examine the reasons a woman so highly regarded in both the political and fashion worlds would have for penning a defense of her sext-obsessed husband in a prominent fashion mag — but Mattie makes an error here. Huma didn’t “hand-select” Harper’s Bazaar for her essay. The Daily News talked to Hearst about the essay, and a spokesperson made it clear that Harper’s Bazaar approached Huma to contribute, not the other way around. I think it’s still empowering that Huma wrote “The Good Wife” to explain why she’s sticking with Weiner regardless of the outlet. But I also think it’s clear that Huma is media-shy and wouldn’t have written the piece if she wasn’t approached with a platform for it; it’s not really in her character to seek it out.


    • Charlotte

      While maybe she didn’t seek out Bazaar, I would imagine there was some choice to be made as I’m sure multiple publications approached her wanting the story. There was definitely a choice somewhere in the matter, and she clearly had to think what kind of image associating herself with Harper’s Bazaar would give off.

      • Christine

        Before we continue to ridicule the choice to submit her to story to a publication that’s been in business since 1867 (that’s over a century, people so they must be doing something right) let’s also consider these astounding stats:

        New York is a leading retail market for Harper’s Bazaar with a total circulation of 109,449. Of magazine’s readership, 85.5% are women, 70.1% are between the ages 18-54, and 68.9% have graduated college. Additionally, the average median household income is $150,907, according to MMR demographics, which ain’t too shabby, right?

        If you want to get in the mind of a politico, you’ve got to think like one first. Consult the data, then construct your argument.


    • Mattie Kahn

      Thanks for chiming in with this! But I agree with Charlotte. I find it hard to believe that Harper’s would be the only mag to reach out to Huma, and her choice to accept its offer (over everyone else’s) should and does matter.

      I’d also like to point out that Abedin has made statements with fashion before. How about when she wore Michelle Obama’s iconic campaign dress to be photographed alongside her husband? (See: http://nymag.com/thecut/2013/07/huma-abedin-borrowed-michelle-obamas-dress.html) In both instances, her decisions feel deliberate. I’m just wondering how to make sense of them…

      • Am I the only conspiracy theorist to wonder if money is somewhere at the heart of it all? From staying together to choosing Harper’s to anything else. Politicians’ decisions are often influenced by financial ties. “Huma, you stay with me and my backers will fund 70% of your future campaign.”

    • haapi

      “…But I also think it’s clear that Huma is media-shy and wouldn’t have
      written the piece if she wasn’t approached with a platform for it; it’s
      not really in her character to seek it out.”
      She’s a political animal, ergo not at all media-shy. It is, in fact, very much in the character of a political animal to do this. It’s just that in this case, she does it from a different angle to the spotlight (although the spotlight is still very much present…)

  • Moinet

    I don’t care what anybody says Huma Abedin looks like Caroline Issa.

  • Ivana Džidić

    to be honest, I don’t have no idea who these people are and am not particularly interested in knowing…ok, I know this is a silly comment, I might have better not said anything at all but well…

    Not to feel guilty, I’ll just say that looks are important in politics. In fact politics is all about appearance. It always has been and probably it always will be…what we look for in our leaders has change little from the times of Machiavelli and The Prince…

    We want our politicians to get our attentions, to be different from everyday people, we want to hate or to love them…we want to love hating them and hate loving them…We want them to make the choices we wouldn’t as much as those that we would.

    …and as for the choices of the lady (whoever she is)…she has the right to stand by her man, it is anyone’s personal decision.

  • Kurie Fitzgerald

    As a pair I don’t believe in them any more than I did before reading the article. But, Huma, I don’t think is asking for people to believe that she still loves her husband…I would bet she doesn’t ..she’s building/saving her political career by coming out with a piece that seems to mock its own headline and draw empathy from women who have experienced the same.

  • Aubrey Green

    Write a book. The End.

  • Bora

    Let’s assume that Abedin is standing by her husband in support of his campaign in which case we can also assume that she believes he is a worthy candidate to lead a major global city. The problem is that we are not seeing those qualities in Weiner. If those qualities are lacking what reason could she possibly have (besides love?) to stand by him?

  • Ahhh, so many interesting questions here. And it’s even more confusing to me because I’ve been through these weird emotions at least once before– when Bill Clinton made so many bad judgments with (probably among others) Monica Lewinsky. I desperately wanted Hillary to leave him, hated that she stood by him and went on national t.v. calling the whole thing a “vast right wing conspiracy” (and hated even more that Bill let her do that, when he knew everything they had claimed was true); I even held it against her when she first ran for President. Now I’m fervently hoping she runs again.

    I definitely think that, as with Hillary, her former boss and mentor, Huma is staying by “the Ween’s” side (as he was so wisely named by another reader) as a political move. I feel about as gross about this as I do about all politics right now.

    And, as for Bazaar, I think most women in high positions choose to do pieces in magazines like this– including Hilary Clinton, Sheryl Sandberg, Michelle Obama, etc., both for the demographics and to position oneself as both serious and hip.

    And I love the new column!!

  • KSldy

    Why do we have to assume we know what makes a couple’s marriage a “real marriage”? Maybe they do really like each other but they’re both really busy. If I’m not mistaken, according to the New York Times Magazine article earlier this year, they were barely around each other at all for the entire first year of their marriage. Someone commented “part of me thinks she truly isn’t bothered by her husband’s sexting..that they have some sort of weird agreement where they are allowed to do stuff like that…like a sham marriage, purely political” – you know what? Who the hell cares? I’m not going to ever tell someone they’re in a “sham” marriage just because they don’t conduct themselves in their relationship the same way I would. Maybe she likes her career, their child, conversations with him at dinner, and his general company. Maybe she honestly doesn’t care, but they’re already married, so meh. Maybe she sees Hilary in the prime of her career, 20 years after not divorcing her husband because really, why waste all that time going through a divorce if you’re still compatible and completely satisfied with everything else in your life?

    I think that we’re applying conservative restrictions and outdated conventions to the institution of marriage when we assume that a woman’s happiness is directly contingent on the devotion of one man towards her. Gay marriage? Fine. Long distance marriage? Ok. Sex before marriage? Whatever. But exhibitionism and illicit dirty talk? Gasp! If we found out he wrote erotica under a secret name on Literotica, would the world be as upset?

    I recently got engaged, and it’s really depressing how differently people treat my relationship now, as though it suddenly has true merit, even though it really hasn’t changed one iota from when we were still just dating, no matter how devoted we were to each other the day before we got engaged.

    And don’t tell me it’s a marathon backward for all women. I’m not saying I would do the same as Huma, but don’t generalize me one way or the other.

    • s.carr.go

      Harpers’ was a great decision. Good Housekeeping? Cringe and no…that would be the look for the politico-wife that left her sexty husband and later wrote the cheeseball article about forging her way on her own after downgrading to stretch pants from Mango. It can be assumed that more Bazaar readers than GH readers (as an example) will actually discuss this situation and form a more open-minded opinion than “leave him.” Hilary dillary pantsuit is doing great a couple decades after her husband’s hiccup/belch in his fidelity cv, and more power to her.

      And it is not intrinsic in being a woman that one must fight or run a marathon for the rights or caricatured feminist vaginas of all women. It is nice when women do such, but if she forgives him, she forgives him. That we would want to shake sense into her, take her for a cosmo and tell her she can do better or etc is ridiculous. She may be a public figure but our conjectures about her decisions have no more bearing on her actual life than how we may feel about carrie and big or hannah or freaking KKKKkKKortney Kardashian.

  • Aubrey Green

    To be a fly on the wall in that household.

  • Why are we judging her, exactly? While it’s easy enough to assume she should do x, y or z it’s obviously a lot more difficult for her to actually deal with it.

  • d4divine

    I can’t judge the woman…I don’t know what goes on between those two. Huma is an intelligent strong woman, she must have her reason for not leaving him, that is her business. On a totally dirty side note…a male member like that is hard to come by…so..just sayin…I know some of y’all thought it too. Lol

  • d4divine

    Weren’t we all saying the same things about Hilary Clinton…what Bill did was A LOT worse. Hilary seems to have turned out ok. Hillary Clinton 2016!!!

  • contentnet

    Of the two, Weiner and Abedin, who do you think would make the better candidate for Mayor of The Big Apple, Gotham, NYC? That is the only question I find relevant to this couple, their life, and the future of the city so many depend upon. Instead of a Mayoral election where the issues that truly impact people’s lives are discussed, we get Weinergate. We get what brand of lipstick Abedin wore to the press conference. (OK, it was gorgeous.)

    We should be wondering a). Why does our culture perpetuate this stupidity? b). Why are married-with-children candidates seen as better candidates than people who have other kinds of stable, loving relationships with people?

    And finally, yes, I saw Weiner’s tweeted extension of himself that’s been posted on blogs… Of course I have an opinion about him, or it, but that’s the thing with opinions … everybody’s got one. So, if you really want mine, contact me for a consultation. The first minute is free!

  • I am all for writing a book in this situation.


  • Jessica Joyce

    Okay, everybody. The guy sent dick pics. I wouldn’t even want to be Facebook friends with someone who takes dick pics. As much as I want to believe that Abedin chose to speak out and get published in this way, there was probably a whole team (as you mention) that urged her to make those decisions. Behind all of this, are people who want to get re-elected and are going to do what it takes to steer everything in Anthony’s direction unfortunately.

  • Incomprehensible

    I’m sorry, this woman is indeed a dummy (and yes, I am very purposefully calling names). Some things are worth judging and this is one of them. He’s admitted to carrying on like this with between 6-10 different women…including multiple women AFTER his resignation. He has jeopardized their livelihood as a family and completely humiliated her beyond comprehension MULTIPLE times. And then her crazy arse spoke up to defend him at the press conference and essentially beg his forgiveness to the public.

    Can you ever in a million years imagine a man doing that? NO, not in a million years. Why? Because despite men’s shortcomings, they have self respect and think they deserve better. Frankly I think her stance sets women back tremendously. At this point she deserves whatever she gets from the wiener.

    I think where she chose to publish her piece is immaterial, frankly. The whole episode is so beyond comprehension. If he stays in the race and wins I will be beside myself. His hubris in even trying to run is baffling. They both are savvy and knew well the criticism and scrutiny that would come with this and they chose to do it anyway. Unbelievable. Sorry, but I’m passionate about this. I don’t want this perv or this sad, pathetic woman as my mayor & First Lady

    • haapi

      She’s only a dummy to those who see marriage as a certain construct. While I am not saying that I don’t, I DO respect that different people have different visions and opinions and perhaps hers is simply one that allows her to look past this kind of behavior. Just a thought.

  • faty

    so much love from morrocco and wainting to see u here to forget all that shit people do or think , here we are leaving in another civilization we are so zeeeeeen so come visit us !!

    so much love from Casablanca http://modesquementmoi.blogspot.com/

  • Alexis

    Status over dignity – and what is there to love – he’s a creep

  • Lu

    Their marriage is simply not any of our business.

    I know, I know, they’re in public life, blah blah blah. You simply can’t know people just because they are in public life and you read articles in media about them. Or even if you see them on TV. Abedin’s marriage choices are NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. Not even as a voter. Not even if it’s a politically convenient marriage. You just don’t KNOW them.

    So vote on his–or eventually her–publically stated political positions and let’s stop turning American political life into an unending episode of the Kardashians. Blech.

    • Mattie Kahn

      Right, but don’t his choice in his personal life reflect on his ability to be a strong leader? Shouldn’t “character” (whatever that means) be a factor when we decide how to vote?

    • magnolia

      It is our business! Especially if you live in New York City and these people are going to be running your city. She chose to be in the public life, she chose to be in a magazine, she chose to share her life and open it up for judgement. We should ALWAYS hold our politicians and leaders to a high standard. They are supposed to be of the higher echelon of humanity in their personal and public lives and therefore worthy of leading others. Maybe you should be a little more concerned who you are voting for.

      • elise

        I don’t feel like the question is really whether or not Anthony Weiner’s wife should forgive him or not for his bad behavior – I would imagine that the hashing out between them has been done and they were prepared for the inevitable bad-behavioring drama that has come out, and if they are choosing to continue to work as collaborators, partners, or general team-members then that is their deal. Their. Deal. We do not get to pass judgement on that situation, as it is their life and their family. Also, hello, did anyone read that big giant New Yorker article from March where they talk about how the intense amounts of time spent separated during the early part of their marriage and how that was disastrous?

        However: we do get to pass judgement on whether or not this hubris and bad decision-making on the part of the Ween (genius, MR readers, genius) impacts his ability to be a political figure. Abedin’s choices are hers; she’s not an elected official. Weiner’s choices are his, as well, but we are able to (and yes! honestly, essentially required to!) decide if those choices disqualify him from representing our best interests. Can the citizens of NYC trust a man who’s being sleazo on the internet? Is this a situation where the security of a city could be compromised because of potential blackmail? Does this show insane shortsightedness and an inability to follow the rules and honor promises made? These are the questions we need to be asking ourselves.

        I am not a New Yorker. Nor am I a resident of South Carolina, where everyone’s favorite Appalachian hiker recently politically came back – much to my horror. What disturbs me about the formerly-disgraced men in politics is that they seem to have a shared belief that they can get away with XYZ trashy thing because, hello, they’re a smooooooth talker. And as someone who is really skeptical about the motivations of all sorts of political officials, I find it extra distasteful. That being said, I would still vote for someone whose sexty actions I was repulsed by if I felt that they were still more in line with my vision for the city/state/country I lived in. It’s complicated.

        Mostly, I don’t like the judgment being passed on Huma Abedin. This is her call. She’s an adult, who is both smart and experienced in the political ways of the world. I trust her to make her own decisions – and I trust myself to be able to not let her choices impact mine as a potential voter.

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  • I don’t mind that she chose Harper’s as her arena. It seems to me that she wanted to speak to other women, because I don’t think a mixed audience is going to care as much about what she has to say as the mostly-female readers of Harper’s will. Why not a magazine like Good Housekeeping? Because that’s not her audience. My mother-in-law reads stuff like that…and I’m not sure she would recognize Huma Abedin or know who Anthony Weiner is.

    Most of us don’t know her personally, so I don’t think I (or any of us, really) should make commentary on their marriage. She feels that it’s important to stay with her husband through this, and her reasons why are really none of our business. We all make mistakes, and no marriage is perfect. It’s unfortunate that her husband is throwing her to the media wolves because of his position, but she seems to be handling it with grace and some brass balls. It can’t be easy to keep stepping into the limelight to tell the world your husband is a bit of a sexual show-off, but she gets through it.

    So to Huma, you keep doing what you’re doing, and don’t apologize for it. Hopefully someday your husband will get his shit together. 🙂

  • Maura

    His cheating is a form of spousal abuse and frankly, I’m
    tired of seeing the carnage played out in the media. If Huma/Silda Spitzer/Dina McGreevy/Hilary
    Clinton (insert name of most recent political sex scandal victim) want to “stand
    by their men” while their husbands apologize to their constituents for the
    ga-zillionth time is no concern of mine whatsoever, what I find completely
    offensive is the political need (real or imagined) to do so publically. It’s reality
    TV at its most decrepit and on par with attending a wake and searching for the
    bullet holes. A message to Huma, if you
    want to forgive your husband for publically humiliating you and making a
    mockery of your marriage, great, fine, God love ya, you are a far better person
    than I; however, I no have absolutely no desire to bear witness. Have that BS play out in your own living
    room, not mine thanks.

  • Jessica

    I’d like to offer a Canadian perspective, comfortably removed from American politics. I’ve never fully understood the American obsession with the sexual exploits of their politicians. When the Bill Clinton scandal broke, I remember at the time trying to wrap my head around why tax-payers dollars and time were being spent on figuring out whether a guy had an affair. I couldn’t figure out what the crime was. I don’t understand how a person’s personal indiscretions affect their ability to be an affective leader. Do I think Bill Clinton’s affair made him a good guy? Absolutely not. But do I believe that he was largely a great, affective President and the affair was really none of my business? A resounding yes. The sad reality is that a lot of people cheat, from every walk of life. You would not expect to be fired from your job if you were caught having an affair so why hold politicians to a different standard? In the words of a former Canadian Prime Minister, P.E. Trudeau, “The state has no business in the bedrooms of the nation.” Does it not hold then that the nation has no business in the bedroom of the state? I’m not trying to be facetious with this comment, I’m genuinely trying to understand this cultural reaction to expect people caught having extra-marital affairs to automatically quit politics. ( I would say the same holds in my mind for the Tiger Woods scandal – why the feigned moral outrage? What did any of it have to do with his ability to play golf, and how was the media storm that followed fair to his family?)

  • Raquel

    I truly like Huma and I sympathise with her. In her work she seems to be the one who keeps the train running and on time, or so I’ve read about her. It seems to me that she is doing the same thing with her relationship and her life. She is getting the train back on track, it is what she does. I feel she truly needs to assess this situation in her private live differently though, even if it blends with her public life of course. It must be overwhelming to be in her shoes, with her career, having found a partner, made a home and a baby, with great future prospects and having to give all that up because her husband turns out to be a creep. She did nothing wrong so why is her train of the track? But she should, in my opinion, get off that train. I hope I would if I were her. I think she would be a lot stronger for it.

  • Think how much unnecessary hatred we’d save ourselves if marriage wasn’t such an “ideal”.

  • nadya

    she can do whatever she wishes, stand by her man, leave him, etc. its her own choice. plus, most men flirt and do other things online (women, too) and just because their wives dont know about it does not mean its not happening. Weiner is in public eye and what he did (which was stupid since everything and anything can be revealed) was very irresponsible. If someone is running for a public office then he/she better clean his act, otherwise shit like this hits the fan. Seriously, this is the reality. And lets also be honest about women who go for men and continue to flirt with them without any shame and then come out talking about it for fame. Just sayin’…

  • LCH

    Some things are more important than political ambitions… like personal dignity. I question the individual who chooses to bear her soul to the world via Harper’s or any other international publication rather than in private reflection. It would appear that it is not so much a plea for forgiveness but a statement seeking validation from those who do not know her.

  • Alejandra

    My only opinion is that people shouldn’t judge her decision without thinking about it.. Some people were raised believing that when something breaks you throw it away and other were taught that when something’s breaks you can fix it.

  • S

    Maybe their political alliance and friendship is the most important part of their marriage , and they have come to terms with being sexually incompatible , like Bill and Hillary , etc.

  • Daydree Vendette

    She should stay by his side until he loses and then when the media spotlight dies down, get a divorce. When she’s ready she can find a man with integrity and intelligence and keep doing what she’s doing. But she doesn’t need a husband to have a political career she just needs to get rid of dead weight Weiner.