Ask Us Anything

by Leandra Medine
December 16, 2013
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It seems like we’re always badgering you with questions and quietly praying that you’ll answer. For the most part, you’re a terrific audience. Your theories are smart, your comments well composed. But sometimes, when you go radio silent (we get it, we get it, you can’t spend your entire day refreshing this particular page on your browser, bla bla bla), we cry. Amelia starts throwing books at my head. Charlotte peels her fingernails back and I’ve already shoved three succulents up Kate’s ass in response to a paltry comment thread. No pressure or anything, but we feed on the level of your engagement.

The thing is, that’s kind of selfish, isn’t it? Maybe you have questions too. And maybe you need answers. From us. Which is precisely why today instead of pondering about the state of Instagram and your following, or street style stars and their bare legs in spite of dismal temperatures or likewise street style stars and the coats they so perfectly plant on their shoulders — we won’t even ask if you’d kill/fuck/marry Scott Disick again — we’re opening up the floor to let you ask us whatever the hell you want.

Hold nothing back, leave nothing in.

(No promises about tomorrow, though — we’ve spent a lot of time cogitating on how Beyoncé actually kept her recent album drop a secret and make no mistake, Amelia’s got conjectures about machine guns, paper machetes, Asian pears and the hair used to cloak the heads of Barbies from here until the end of 2015.)

But go ahead. Today, it’s just us and this here unadulterated communication forum.

REPLIES
  • lefukaka

    I cut my hair into a slanted bob and it is growing out, unfavorably. Remember when Leandra cut hair in the streets? Can we (as in come to me casa) bring that back? If not, who chopped your locks last?

    • Leandra Medine

      I cut my hair this morning, actually! It’s not even at all AT ALL but I wear it so messy to begin with that you can barely tell

    • Charlotte Fassler

      I think it totally depends on hair texture. My hair is pretty straight so I had an issue with unevenness when it was growing out. It didn’t look cool and messy most of the time, so I let some professionals take the reigns, but prior to that Leandra gave me a great trim!!!

  • Kim P.

    Thoughts on the surge of bloggers? Do you think it’s going to last? Is this like Youtube, an unpredictable wave of popularity with no solidity in a stable future? Is this just another fickle moment in fashion or are we witnessing the creation of a new tab in the listing of post-modern journalism?

    • Leandra Medine

      Blogging has indubitably become an industry unto to itself and it seems to me as though like with any other business avenue, Darwinism will prevail – the strong will survive, adapt, modify their mode of operation and those less “invested” or weak will slowly wean off as fashion evolves. The question on journalism is an interesting one to canvass — the entire business has changed so comprehensively simply by virtue of its integrity being so manipulated. I wish I had a better opinion on that one but my speculations are as good as yours

      • Kim P.

        Thanks team! I appreciate your response.

      • wherethestyledthingsare.com

        I totally agree with this! I have officially been blogging for 3 years but only been noticed in the last 6 months, but at the same time I think blogging needs to go back to basics, I feel like bloggers are forgetting what it’s all about…I have become stuck in these ruts before…”Outfit posts, Pretty pictures” sometimes I cull words because I know people won’t want to read it….but…err…wasn’t that why I started a blog? :) x

  • CDJ

    ha, I feel like I comment way too much on here so I try to hold back sometimes. (so I can, you know, work.) I love the way this blog creates such great convo between the readers/authors. I actually feel like you all give a hoot about what we say!

    here are some ?’s:
    -what were all of your college essays about? i have a feeling they were excellent. (mine was so weird, i personified my baby blanket that i still sleep with…)

    -which trend in the last year or so makes you absolutely vom.com (dramatic) when thinking about wearing it or seeing it in public

    • Leandra Medine

      NEVER. HOLD. BACK.

      My college essay was about growing up in a home run by two immigrant parents + three brothers. I drew parallels between my mom’s social position as queen of the kitchen its female-oppressive nature and concluded that I would not learn how to cook so to avoid becoming a housewife. I actually republished a similar-ish story on MR a few months ago –here is link http://www.manrepeller.com/2013/09/coming-to-terms-with-the-kitchen.html

      • CDJ

        noted. never holding back, EVER.

        oh, yes!! I remember that story.

        totally agree. i hate when i see the same one thing everywhere. you always manage to change it up, though! there’s nothing worse than an instagram feed full of bloggers posting the same bag/necklace/shoes. half the time i think people just buy things to post that they have it. GROSS TOTES VOM.COM.

    • Amelia Diamond

      surprise surprise i wrote my college essays about horses.

      • http://madamecouture.blogspot.com/ Emma Hager

        Ahhh good ol’ college essays. This year the max the common app will let us write is 650 words which really stinks but then again it is a lesson in STRIPPING DOWN.

    • Kate Barnett

      long live blankies! my dad had a friend re-quilt mine when i finally had to leave it home during college because it was too fragile. he gave it back to me as a surprise on my 21st birthday and it was easily one of the best things that’s ever happened. as for the essay, i wrote about how disillusioning my year off working in politics was, and how ultimately i couldn’t buy into the ‘ends-justifies-the-means’ mindset when it came to politics and swaying people’s votes.

      as for the trends, i feel like every time i have that reaction i ultimately see leandra style it in a way that – if not completely changes my mind – makes me see it differently. LEANDRA I NEED TO SEE WHAT YOU DO WITH THIGH HIGH BOOTS.

      • CDJ

        that is an amazing blankie story. is it embarrassing i brought mine to all four years of college?

        • Kate Barnett

          if by embarrassing you mean awesome, then yes. 100%. my sister lost hers at 27 and i dont think she’ll ever recover. we have to keep them close.

  • Quinn Halman

    Here are some Qs from a Q (I’m sorry, I just had to)

    – What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever bought? Mine’s shutter shades that I did not wear ironically. I was also 12, but still
    – How often do you get stopped on the street? Also do you remember those people?
    – (For Leandra) Do you still remember what your Bat Mitzvah parshat was on?
    – Will you still love me when I’m no longer young and beautiful?

    • Amelia Diamond

      - this really slutty blue strapless empire waisted chiffon going out top from wet seal because i needed something to wear to a party in college. so many photos that will haunt me forever.
      – one time a homeless guy stopped me and said, “Hey! from far away, i thought you were Julianne Moore! But you’re not.” and he sounded so disappointed. And I’ve always remembered him.
      – (For Leandra) Do you still remember what your Bat Mitzvah parshat was on? :(
      – Yes.

      • Quinn Halman

        Re: the :(
        Ok but I did send just you the dinosaurs in hats.

        • Amelia Diamond

          hahahahhahah Quinn for the win!

        • Charlotte Fassler

          those dinosaurs made our day, seriously!

          • Quinn Halman

            I aim to please

  • Quinn Halman

    Also, not a question, but I met the sistas of Dannijo over the weekend, they said I was cute and funny, then Danielle liked one of my Instagram pictures. I just needed to get that out there because no one at school knew who I was talking about.

  • Verity

    Hi, I’m going to my first Bar Mitzvah next january in Paris and I’m very excited; what should I wear? Also what are the chances of me meeting David Duchovny, falling in love, converting and marrying? But mainly what should I wear?

    • Amelia Diamond

      Your chances of meeting DD falling in love, converting and marrying seem alarmingly high to me.

      • Verity

        That is excellent news, I thought as much. But what should I wear?

    • Quinn Halman

      Cover your shoulders because at synagogue, modest is hottest

      • Verity

        Always a given when in a place of worship. The only sartorial advice I’ve had so far is ‘to go all out’ (?)

        • Quinn Halman

          Truth be told I find every excuse to say modest is hottest, my camp has a one-piece bathing suit rule.
          Just look very, very presentable. I’m positive there will be a photographer there so get your hair done and pick a nice outfit so you’ll love the pictures you’re in!

        • Amelia Diamond

          Leandra will have sooo many good answers for this one.

          • Verity

            Oh please, oh please ask Leandra to do a ‘my first Bar Mitzvah’ feature! I will totally run with her advice….

  • CDJ

    for the sake of not holding back, here’s another one: I’ve recently started a blog for fun (cough, adeliberateimagination.wordpress.com, cough), and so far I think the only person who could ever take offence to my posts would be Bruno Mars (I only have 3). I was just wondering if offending people is something that worries you when blogging. I don’t find anything in your blog offensive, but do you ever go to write something and think “I better not…” After I made fun of Bruno, I felt bad… but is there a certain point where you just can’t think like that because someone will always take offence? How much of that affects what you write each day?

    while we’re at it… is it “offense” or “offence” ?!?!?!

  • Anna Kalmbach

    A previous commenter mentioned the recent surge of bloggers, and I guess you could say I’m a part of that surge. I’ve followed your blog since I was in high school, and I’ve always admired your unapologetic style (as I sit here in periwinkle Uggs, a men’s XL t-shirt and pink sweatpants). I started my own blog a few months ago, probably subconsciously because I wish I was a journalism major–which I’m scared of because the uncertainty of the industry. Anyway, I’ve always appreciated the variety of Man Repeller posts. What are the qualities you notice that make some blogs more successful than others?

    • Anna Kalmbach

      I’m going to take CDJ’s lead and give myself a not so subtle shout-out. Because yolo????? aurevoiranna.blogspot.com

    • Leandra Medine

      The writing! While images are incredibly important, they’re but a mere door that allows a reader the opportunity to walk through it. Funny original content about nothing and everything always reels me in. (Did you, for example, see that NY Mag story today about a woman meeting her fiance on craiglist? gold)

  • Morgan

    I’ve been reading since 2011 (only commenting since last week, lame I know, but I was stupidly afraid) and obviously lots of changes have gone on. What was the turning point for you, Leandra, to be able to hire people, change the layout and do awesome collaborations? Also, how did you find Amelia and Charlotte? If you have to write a novel to answer, I suppose you just have to and we can all deal.

    • Charlotte Fassler

      Never be afraid to comment on here, you guys are our favorite people and the more diverse opinions the better! Glad you jumped on that train!
      To answer your question Leandra found me helplessly floating in the ocean searching for a semblance of civilization. She rescued me and I am eternally grateful. Nah nah I’m just being dramatic…I actually had a classmate who interned for her and upon graduation was looking for a replacement so she connected us and the rest was history!

    • Leandra Medine

      Amelia and I interned together in 2010 and almost immediately became friends (she hit on me via facebook message to tell me she liked my very cool silk tie dye swing dress). We stayed really close and in touch through her internships and first few jobs and my launching Man Repeller and then at some point last year, I realized that if I wanted MR to become something bigger than me, I had to let it be bigger than me — if I was to continue feeding it through just one nipple (knaaamean?) it’d never be able to grow into the fine adult I still hope it will become).

      Charlotte interned for me for about a year before she was hired full time but the job offer was waiting for her well before graduation. Every time I told her about my own deficiencies (photoshop, photographing, illustrating), they were these magically concealed hobbies/proficiences of hers that made her an absolute vital addition to the team.

      Kate who sells our ads and is in charge of all the digital partnerships for the site was connected through a mutual friend who holds a similar position at another website. She lives in El Rito which makes us all feel very zen

      re: Amelia, she walked into a kosher bagel shop and asked for bacon in earnest once — that’s when I knew she was the stuff of dreams.

  • http://alcessa.wordpress.com/ alcessa

    Where do you see yourselves in 10 years? Also: do you do Goodreads.com and if yes, do you take on new Goodreads friends (all of you,am asking because books are important to me and so are some readers)?

    • Amelia Diamond

      I want to be Connie Britton and no BUT it looks awesome and we like good books too. Leandra did a book club post a while back, maybe we will rev it up again! Is that something that would interest you guys?

      • http://alcessa.wordpress.com/ alcessa

        Well that’s an inspiring pair of … Flapping Annies, was it? you’ll be striving towards for the next 10 years. Good idea! :-)

      • Madeline Zappala

        yes i always love book suggestions and look out for them!!

      • http://alcessa.wordpress.com/ alcessa

        I am very interested in what other people read but can only seldom participate in book discussions because of my time issues … so basically, my aim is sneaking: I have quite a few Goodreads friends and whenever I need a reading suggestion, I take a look at what they read and try some of the stuff :-) Obviously, they do the same with me. I am also well past the age of “Tell me what you read and I’ll tell you who you are”, because if I read everything I find at least slightly interesting (if I have enough time), then that’s all my choice says about me: She Who Reads Everything.

      • http://madamecouture.blogspot.com/ Emma Hager

        I am definitely interested in revving up the MR Book Club again! I think it might be something to do a main post on, just in case those browsing the website don’t have time to click through Manstagrams or Minor Cogitations.
        And maybe instead of, say, “meet us back here in a week to speak!” we could have a more structured dialogue, be that by more of a scheduled approach, or questions, etc. Read, discuss, read, discuss.
        I have a book club with some friends and it is actually one of the more enjoyable parts of the week. The conversation can sometimes stray far from that of the plot or the book’s symbolism, but it is all so fun nevertheless.

      • leonorjr

        yes to book clubs.

  • ashton

    what does it mean when your boyfriend first asks you if you want to have babies, and then weeks later brings up the question of marriage? It should be noted that this relationship began june 2012, living together since january 2013, and he was also friends of an ex-boyfriend that cheated on me while on a month long trip in Costa Rica (after being off and on for 4 years).
    What does this mean??? I have never really put much though into marriage for myself. Should I just put my trust issues aside and beleive him. He IS the one who told me he loved me first.

    • Amelia Diamond

      It means he is thinking about it!

      Trust yourself and your gut, don’t feel pressured into anything just because he’s thinking about it. Sometimes two people are on different levels for a while, give yourself time to get there and don’t feel like you HAVE to get there either.

  • Kirsten

    These questions are mainly for Leandra, but Charlotte and Amelia may be able to answer as well :)

    Are the majority of the clothes featured on the blog your own? What percentage of the clothes featured are sent by brands? What happens if your are sent something that you absolutely hate? Do you just try give it away or send it back? Do you feel pressured to feature any if the clothes on here or instagram? Have you ever had a designer send you something to wear to their fashion show that you dislike and do not wear and then they ask you about it?

    My questions are obviously all about the protocol of what happens when you are given or lent clothing, do you send a thank you everytime, do you ask them to stop sending it, etc?

    This is by no means a stab because all your outfits come across 100% authentic and I’ve rarely seen you wear or promote anything that doesn’t feel legit like something you’d wear. It also seems like you buy most of your clothes as you are a super enthusiastic sale shopper!

    Thanks

    • Leandra Medine

      Hey girl — yes, most of the clothes are my own. Sometimes I borrow items (like in the case of the neck scarves story — we called in the Peter Pilotto scarf) and when I am sent things — which is probably not as often as one might think (there is a disclaimer on the site that makes clear that we don’t trade product for post), if I love it (which, in the case of a pair of pumps generously offered as a holiday gift from a fashion house TODAY), I am elated to post it as we see fit in conjunction with the stories we’re running.

      Often times designers will send out clothes to have people wear to their events — sometimes the stuff is great and sometimes it isn’t, when it isn’t, it feels like moral obligation NOT to wear it, so I don’t, and I think the reasons for such (at the core of Man Repeller, I’m essentially a self-stylist, aren’t I?) are typically understood. Hope these answers help!

      • Kirsten

        Thanks so much for the in depth response and your use of examples. This blog is fantastic! Absolutely love it!

  • Andrew Bruggeman

    If you were stuck on a desert island and the only thing you could bring with you was a suitcase full of clothes from one high fashion brand, which brand would you choose and why?

    • Amelia Diamond

      I would bring Dries Van Noten because If I’m going to get stranded, I would want to look eternally chic. Also I feel like his clothes would wear well with the salt water.

    • Leandra Medine

      Can I take food instead? Or just one bikini? would be a shame to waste beautiful clothes on a wifi-less desert island. Where not even Instagram selfies could salvage the lack of attention to beautiful detail

  • Kye

    Just wondering if something has happened to the ads on the side?? I now get these ugly localised (I’m in Australia) ads that have nothing to do with fashion… I miss the pretty net-a-porter ones!

    • Kate Barnett

      thanks for letting us know! i’ve been testing out different ad solutions on the site over the past couple weeks, which explains unintentional local ones that aren’t on point. very helpful to know that and will make adjustments pronto. thanks!

  • Lauren Click

    opinion on Arizona? Nobody ever ventures here it seems, haha just want an outsiders opinion

    • Amelia Diamond

      I have never been but hear it’s absolutely beautiful

    • Kate Barnett

      drove through once! loved sedona. it definitely made up for winslow.

    • Charlotte Fassler

      I shamefully have not been even though I grew up so close! Hear it’s beautiful though!

  • Margherita

    a) Where did you all go to college?
    b) Favorite books/movies of all time?

    • Leandra Medine

      I went to The New School — my favorite book of all time is Catcher in The Rye and favorite movie = Home Alone

      • http://madamecouture.blogspot.com/ Emma Hager

        I didn’t know that was your fave book! Love that one. What’re your reasons? I’d love to know!

  • http://madamecouture.blogspot.com/ Emma Hager

    1. Do you guys feel like you are more productive now that you have an office?
    2. Favorite songs?
    3. Where do you see yourself, say, 3 years from now in relation to Man Repeller or life in general?
    4. Wake up times? Bed times?
    5. Where were you when you got your period? (Girl Talk therefore this isn’t weird)

    • Leandra Medine

      1. Yes. Particularly because I am forced to get dressed every morning (and set an example!)
      2. I love all white people pop, so, figure the Vampire Weekend or Empire of The Sun Pandora stations (I know, I know, who still uses to Pandora? Answer: ME)
      3. Three years from now I’d like to know that Man Repeller is not a great layover station to pass time but a proper destination where people are coming and refreshing and communicating and feeling empowered. Personally, I’d frankly like to have my first kid on the way
      4. I wake up at 7:30 and go to sleep around 11
      5. My friend’s house in New Jersey OR SO I THOUGHT — 7th grade math class IRL.

      • http://madamecouture.blogspot.com/ Emma Hager

        “White people pop” — so great. And I am pretty sure that MR is that now…? I know that I, and many like me, come here for the exact reasons that you just listed. And since you’re a hard worker — constantly trying to outdo oneself is an inevitable, albeit somewhat beneficial side effect of that — I know you may not view MR like that now, but at least you should be incredibly proud that it is well on its way.
        AND KIDS! That’s fun! So that leads me to the next question.
        —> If it’s a girl, what names do you like? And if it’s a boy?
        And re: #5, that’s right! Read that in your book. Ketchup false alarm.

  • Annabelle

    I live in Canada which is unfortunately not blessed with moderately warm temperatures this time of the year. I find myself so limited in what I can wear because it is so hard to find something that is going to keep me warm and will look like I’m at least trying a little. Given that heels are not even an option in our crazy amount of snow, any advice on how to stay stylish and warm? :)

    • Leandra Medine

      here’s something my mom taught me: if your feet, hands, neck and head are warm, you will not feel so cold. SO: two pair of socks in your boots, gloved hands in your pockets, a blanket as a scarf, one beanie and then a hat vaguely reminiscent of the old west et voila — the rest is your oyster.

      • http://madamecouture.blogspot.com/ Emma Hager

        Okay so I am a California girl and should be royally slapped for being pretentious enough to comment on such subjects, but:

        It’s true! Heat exists our body most quickly through our head, and then our feet, which is why they — and especially the head — need to be bundled in order for the rest of the body to feel warm.

        —–

        Ahh shit I just did a google search to fact check my claim and…..

        http://www.nytimes.com/2004/10/26/health/26real.html?_r=0

        Either way, our moms are right in saying that. Mothers’ Tales have some truth.
        @disqus_JYr5afLu3Y:disqus

  • Hannah

    HELP! How do you make the “jump” to delve, head firs,t belly flop-don’t stop…(ugghh run on sentence anyone?) You get the picture. *sucks in air* HOW DOES ONE COMMIT TO ONE’S PASSION??

    What if I end up homeless???

    • Leandra Medine

      You don’t end up homeless because the “job” starts as a part time passion but then evolves into a full time job that cuts your hobby in half/turns it into a passion. When you feel like all the stuff that made you happy in your personal life has becomes the stuff that stresses you out in your public/professional life — THAT’S when you know you’ve done good.

  • KH

    Very important – what Beyonce song is on repeat for each of you? Blow & Yonce for me.
    And – any more MR books in the work? Loved it. X

  • Hereshoping Themayanswereright

    Ok I’m SO glad you asked because I just finished Leandra’s book, which was fantastic btw (please do more) and I NEED TO KNOW: Leandra why oh why oh why did you “like to eat your boogers” when you were a kid? How could they possibly be tasty??? Wouldn’t the texture and appearance alone be enough to gag you? This freaked me out and I dwelled on the why’s of it for quite some time and now I need an honest answer!!!

    • Quinn Halman

      Never yuck someone’s yum

    • Leandra Medine

      It boils down to my propensity for salty stuff

      • Hereshoping Themayanswereright

        thank you!

  • Jenny

    Leandra- how did you become so confident with yourself? You are such an inspiration to me and I love love love your blog and everything you stand for! You have picked the best additional writers…I always exit TMR with a smile and new ideas that get me really excited (dry shampoo, outfit ideas, and inspiration for my own blog). Thanks so much!! http://www.americantrender.com

    • Leandra Medine

      YOU guys made me confident. honestly. nothing is as self-esteem boosting as people agreeing OR intelligently and politely refuting with your point of view.

  • Savannah

    Grr how did I miss this post? I have like so many questions!!!
    If you end up seeing this, my first question is, if you weren’t doing Manrepeller, where do you think you’d be right now? Also how do discipline yourself to stay focused and write? Are there any rituals/ things you do that will get your creative brain going to write these posts? (Answers are open to all)

    • Leandra Medine

      i hope i’d be writing for NYmag! re: the discipline, it’s not so much about staying focused. if im writing something that im passionate about, i almost can’t keep it in, i also start procrastinating when i’m not writing about the right thing which obviously happens every now and then and when it does, i just shut off my wifi

  • Savannah

    So Leandra, you’ve got the wonderful husband, the killer clothes/shoes, and a career that a lot of people would actually have a reason to be envious of you for. What are your next life goals? Meaning things you want that you haven’t necessarily achieved yet. Also, having all of this at such a young age, when your peers are still in the process of dating and ‘finding themselves’ through trial and error, does it make you feel like you’ve grown up to fast in a sense? Like, you’re ahead of the curve, but still with an underlying sense of missing out?

    • Leandra Medine

      so here’s my thing with bucket lists (know you didn’t use that term) — i have a hard time to pin pointing future achievements because when i do achieve them (here’s hoping at least) i don’t want the universe to think i’m done – i am always modifying my M.O. and don’t like setting goals because of how frequently where i want to be changezzzzz

  • Rachel

    Do you have any black friends? Please take no offense, I’m just curiously wondering…

    • Leandra Medine

      haha — yes. i do.

  • Lucy

    It ‘s a trivial question, I know, but please forgive me: which are the movies that have influenced your lives the most?

    • Amelia Diamond

      National Velvet! I always mention it but Dead Poets Society. The Outsiders. Literally every John Hughes movie except for like, Home Alone 3. That one sucked. The Family Stone because I want that house. In America. I’m panicking at this question because I have too many answers. What are yours?

      • Lucy

        It could sound a little bit strange, but Titanic taught me the strength to make uncomfortable decisions at inopportune moments. All movies with Molly Ringwald, I want to revive her in my next life. Home Alone for the home and cookies he eats. Django Unchained because it is true story and I don’t want to forget it. However, I wish to use this space to congratulate you for the amazing work you do every day with MR. You are like a weird orchestra made ​​up of very well dressed musicians. I love you!

  • TallK

    I want to know what the quintessential clothes are for the diverse neighborhoods of NYC. I am moving to NYC soon and want to get your advice! Uptown, downtown, east side, west side??? Am I even accurate??!!!

  • Liz

    I just bought your book last week for my flight to Australia, Leandra! HILARIOUS. I admire your attitude towards fashion and dressing for one’s own happiness first. BUT I do have a random question: is there any means by which I can acquire [a different size in] that stunning Rosie Assoulin dress that you wore to the Ace Awards or am I shit out of luck at this point? Thank you!!

    • Leandra Medine

      i borrowed a sample for that award ceremony! it’s coming out now and i think available at Five Story in NY orrrrrrr, where do you live?

  • Sarah

    How long, on average, does it take you guys to get dressed in the morning? (getting dressed = picking out pieces, combining, recombining etc)

    • Leandra Medine

      me, personally, about ten minutes (that includes brushing my teeth and all) i wear a variation of the same thing to work most days. ask me this question on a saturday night that requires an outfit to compliment several separate locations that don’t support jeans and the answer is more like, an hour of standing in front of a full closet hearing crickets blather in me’brain

    • Charlotte Fassler

      Recently it has been taking 10 minutes or less. Like Leandra I find myself wearing a variation of the same pants/boots/sweater combo just about every day. Our office is a really comfortable environment where we will be sitting for the majority of the day so I put more thought into comfort rather than appearance.
      Also it makes getting dressed for weekends more fun when your clothes don’t feel as worn out from the week!
      When I decide to put time into my outfits it can be a slippery slope of trying on everything I own, causing me to be late to wherever I am going….
      A good tip though is when I occasionally (rarely) feel compelled to pick out an outfit the night before, I spend less time and make myself incredibly easier.

  • Rachael Kilgour

    So I was off work yesterday – missing baked treats at the craft table, a free for all of the beauty goods we’ve pulled into the office over the past year, the one day the elevator is working and we don’t need to crawl 37839585730 steps up to our desks – AND a q&a with Team MR?! WHAT IS HAPPENING. :(

    • Amelia Diamond

      we’ll keep answering! ask away.

      • Rachael Kilgour

        Well, there was some sort of mix up with the stork and I was born in the UK…hey, I’m not mad or anything – but I plan to make it over to New York in 2014 and wondered if you could tell me your favourite spots? For shopping, eating, drinking, people watching taking outfit pics etc! Screw the tourist shit – gotta see that TEAM MR New York!

  • Alessia

    have you never been to Italy? :-)

    • Amelia Diamond

      I haven’t been in a while but I studied abroad in Italy! So beautiful. Everyone was impeccably dressed and I ate pasta every single night. Heaven.

  • Abby Klein

    Hi Leandra! I just finished your book and I am ready to read it again, it made me LOL!
    I have a small newborn baby blog about “modest fashion”, being that I am orthodox and only wear skirts etc. I get a tremendous amount of negativity from the right wingers and hateful, nasty comments are sent to me weekly. I want to throw up every time, and it is sucking the life out of the experience. I cannot imagine you getting hate from anybody ever, but…do you? And if so, how do you swallow it and keep going?

    • Leandra Medine

      I SURE DO. ALL THE TIME. It really, really stings at first, the same way your first fall off a bike is the hardest one but as you continue riding and blundering, the scrapes become common place and at one point or another, you barely even realize they’re happening anymore. If you’re conveying a message you believe must be translated, then keep doing, period.

      • Abby Klein

        You’re a rockstar. Thank you.

    • Quinn Halman

      One of my friends older sister started a blog a while ago called “frum in skinny jeans”. Her and her husband are modern orthodox, she is a lawyer and he a rabbinical student. From the little bit of what I just read it seems like you might like it

      • Abby Klein

        Thanks! The name rings a bell surprisingly, I’ll do a search. I’ve retired my jeans over the past few years, however my love for them has not waned. I just learned to accept the fact that I am not going to wear them ever again..which is very hard. But I guess that’s what my blog is based upon.

        • Quinn Halman

          I totally know what you’re saying. I didn’t go to day school but my conservative camp has made an incredibly profound impact on life. 7 years ago I stopped bacon, 2 years ago I nixed shellfish and I loved those things, now I’m very strict about being Kosher but I’m the only in my immediate family who is. At the end of the day it boils down the the fact that it’s just something very personal and that’s really what matters most

  • Chloe

    Hey! What do you guys think about the idea of fashion blogs giving readers the idea of democracy? Is it truly democratized? & What is fashion to you? Thanks!

  • ede

    -what are your favourite tv shows (regardless of whether it has been cancelled or not) and what tv shows would you recommend?
    -if you were to move to another country, which would it be and why?
    -(for leandra) are you ever going to have a book signing in london?
    Love u guys :)

    • Leandra Medine

      I HOPE I HAVE A BOOK SIGNING IN LONDON SOON

  • Francine Shamosh

    looking for some cool snow-proof boots, but they all look big/bulky/like rain boots. can you find something cool and affordable?! my hunter boots are making all my outfits look the same–like i work on a farm–not that that is a bad thing, but i work in fashion and am struggling! please help!

    • Leandra Medine

      If I said black timberlands, would you hurl? I think they could look great with peg leg,high waist blue jeans and an ivory sweater/plaid neckerchief

      • Francine Shamosh

        Not at all… The funny thing is I was thinking Doc Martens–very similar thoughts…

    • Kate Barnett

      SUCH a good question. there are a few brands that do weatherproof + style well (aquatalia, la canadienne), but they’re pricey and often still look a little more functional than anything.

      according to char, it’s really easy to waterproof suede, so i’m about to turn a pair of beloved boots into my gross weather shoes using nikwax.

  • JR

    I am nearing the end of my first semester in college and have absolutely no idea what I want to major in. I read MR religiously and feel inspired every time I read it because the passion and love that provides the content reminds me to pursue a career in something that I love. Unfortunately, I am not certain my passions would provide a lucrative salary. Should I just marry rich and then do whatever I want in terms of a profession (i.e. Whole Foods checker)?

    • http://madamecouture.blogspot.com/ Emma Hager

      Time is on [your] side, yessss it is. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PHVeyo4W18U
      People who enjoy what they do tend to be more successful because they care, don’t you think?

    • Leandra Medine

      Tell me more about your passions. Let’s get more creative than settling for comfort-over-love.

      • JR

        I’m passionate about living, really living.

  • Darcy

    1) What for you are the most quintessential New York activities/sites?
    2) What’s your MBTI type?

    Many thanks!

  • leonorjr

    my question is for Amelia. if there was one former coworker who you could hire to work with you, who would it be and why?

    • Amelia Diamond

      Great question Leonor! I would have to say that my dream former coworker who I could hire to work with me would be Leonor because she is the sparkliest of sparkles!

  • LucyWho

    I recently started grad school and things are not going very fashionably. I’ve put on stress weight, my clothes don’t fit, and I can’t afford to buy a new wardrobe. Help!

    • Leandra Medine

      Sweaters from American Apparel/Uniqlo, safety pin your favorite jeans and be like, “what? Thom Browne did it last year for the Met Gala….?”

  • Margherita

    Where you good students in high school?
    Amelia totally seems like the student government type. While Leandra is more like the 4.0 GPA kind of freak.
    Am I right?

    • Leandra Medine

      I totally had a 4.0 until I was in 6th grade and it was all downhill from there. Consistent c’s in math and all.

  • Fashion Factive

    I read yours every single day ! Love it all ….the images and the writing ! Give me camera and photography tips …. pls.

  • Leslie

    I wear skirts or dresses to work every day and I feel naked without hose especially with dress pumps…It seems that this style has gone to past but I like it.

  • Pepper_Adventure

    Last spring, my apartment building had an electrical fire, and as a result all (all!) of my clothes and shoes were destroyed by smoke or water. For the last six months, I’ve been wearing cobbled together outfits (donations from my mom and friends – most of whom are a good 6 inches taller than me). I’m mostly over the trauma of losing my carefully curated wardrobe and finally feel strong enough to start shopping again. My question: what are the absolutes when building a wardrobe from scratch?

    • Leandra Medine

      SUCH A GOOD STORY IDEA. Right now, I’ve been living in high waist, knee-ripped light straight leg jeans and three of the same sweater (cashmere crew neck) from uniqlo in black, navy and charcoal grey. And for shoes, during the day it’s either a pair of white tennis sneakers (Golden Goose) or Saint Laurent-looking boots from Zara. At night it’s white patent leather pumps (Manolo Blahnik) or those Prada log sole sandals + socks that I wouldn’t shut up about it Dec. (http://www.manrepeller.com/2013/10/i-buy-therefore-im-not.html)

  • Georgia Booth

    Sorry for commenting so late, you have other things to do but I just finished my first year of uni studying journalism in Australia and when I finish I want to be a writer like you guys (you’re pretty much my role models!) but I was wondering, how did you know when you’re writing was good enough to put out there? I want to be a writer and write about fashion among other things , but I don’t know if I would actually be good at it, because it’s a pretty subjective thing. So I guess what I’m really wondering is how did you find your voice and how did you know when you could actually have a career in writing?
    Sorry that was quite ramble-y, but I just love this blog and your advice would mean a lot to me!

    • Leandra Medine

      My answer to this is: I am pretty sure that my writing is still not good enough to put out there. You do you

  • Lilly Ginds

    Ill be the first to say the #1 thing i LOVVVEE about Man Repelller is how rambly yet utterly interesting your posts are! Do you view the other bloggers in the industry and their posts as “threats” or “inspiration” for your own material?

    • Leandra Medine

      I try not to look at too many other blogs while conceptualizing my own content — am always afraid I might unwittingly take cues from them but for the most part — never ever threats! Always inspiration or ammo to do better.

  • Eliza

    I need winter boots. But not like, Sorel winter boots that make me feel like Nanuk of the North. I want leather ankle booties with a (moderate to low) wedge à la Acne, but they need to be waterproof and just a lil bit slip-proof. I live in Montreal where winter literally NEVER ENDS, and I’m tired of looking like the Michelin Man. How do I keep my cool in winter without freezing and/or slipping to an untimely death?

  • Al

    It’s the oldest one in the book, and so I literally cringe typing it, but if you could somehow go back and tell your teenage self something…what would you let her in on?

    • Leandra Medine

      Oooh, going to blow this one out into a Cog!

  • Tiffany

    Before your blog blew up and people asked you what you want to be, what did you respond with? Just a writer? Did you have any intent in writing about fashion? Also, I hope to write as well as you someday. You are to me what Didion was to you…. really though.

  • Celeste

    Hi! I know this is a bit belated, but I was wondering–what brand of oxford shirts do you guys typically favor?

  • http://24hourfindings.blogspot.com/ Amiee

    Hi guys,

    Dark eye circles:

    Ok, so I hoped I’d never have to ask another woman about ‘those who cannot be named’ and over the years i’ve learnt to love my somewhat ‘shaded’ eyes but with the January weather (and my increasingly dry skin) my under eyes are not doing me any favours!

    Is there anything in particular that you ladies use or anybody reading this?

    I’m a 23-year old in need of a major boost,

    Amiee
    http://www.24hourfindings.blogspot.com