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My day starts early, usually at 6 a.m, because my son is an early riser. The door will fly open and he’ll come and jump on me and my husband, Penn [Badgley]. If he’s not with us, he’s with his dad, so I’ll sleep in a little more on those mornings, but I don’t think I’ve slept past 7:30 a.m. in years.

I meditate every morning. There’s a lot of prayer as well. I’ll say specific prayers for my family and my son and Penn, for everyone. I say prayers for every child in my family. It depends how I’m feeling that day, but I say prayers every day, in some order. Penn is Bahá’í, which is this really beautiful religion; I grew up reading Rumi and I’m pretty into Sufism, so I read prayers from many faiths — Jewish prayers, Christian prayers, etc. — that hold meaning for me. Starting with prayer and meditation helps me be a little bit more forgiving toward myself and everyone else throughout the day, but one thing meditation has taught me is that if you can’t get it in when you’ve purposefully carved out or allotted that time, just try to fit it in at some point later.

Water’s an attitude-changer, but it’s not just a body shower; I need to fully submerge.

I also do this thing called Arvigo. It’s an ancient Mayan abdominal technique where you massage your stomach. A lot of people who have intense periods, infertility issues, women who’ve had hysterectomies or cesareans will do it. If you’re constipated…it’s a good way to really heal. It’s a very ancient method. I normally do this at night before I go to bed, but if I forget, I’ll do it in the morning.

After the prayer and meditation and lemon water, I’ll brush my teeth and shower. I really believe in wetting my head twice a day. I mean, I know you don’t want to wash your hair too much — and I have really thin hair, so if I wash it too much it’s not a good look — but I feel like my days are different when I wet my head twice a day. Water’s an attitude-changer, but it’s not just a body shower; I need to fully submerge. It puts me in a better mood. I sleep better when I do it right before bed, too. It’s kind of a dunk most mornings, but then twice a week I’ll try to have a long one.

I like to dry brush in the morning. I don’t do it every morning but I notice a very big difference when I do. You really don’t need to spend much. The most I’ve ever spent on one has been 20 bucks. They’re at every Whole Foods store. You’re supposed to brush upward toward your heart, even if you’re doing your legs. Everything toward the heart. It stimulates your nervous system so you’ll feel a lot more alert after, and it’s great for the lymphatic system. Because I wake up in the middle of the night a lot to go to a birth, my adrenals need all the help they can get.

After the shower, hopefully I can exercise. I’m lucky: I bought this apartment 10 years ago, the building’s amazing, but nothing was around it when I bought it. I moved out four years ago, but Penn and I just moved back in, and now there’s SoulCycle down the street.

If I have my son and it’s an extra slow morning, I’ll make his lunch. Otherwise I’ll pack it the night before. I learned that from friends who have more than one child. At first I was like, “It’s a treat to be able to ask him what he wants.” They’d be like, “Why do you ask him what he wants? You just pack what you pack!” Now I pack the night before. I used to walk him to school in the mornings but now he’s going to be on a bus, so that’s going to be the weekday thing.

He’s with his Dad on Mondays and Tuesdays and me Wednesdays through Fridays, which means my day will probably start after nine once the school year begins, and this includes meditation. (When he’s with us on weekends or holidays, he knows to give me my time in the mornings to meditate, and he has his time.) The bus is new for me. I love my time in the morning with my son, walking him to school, so I’ll probably only do the bus sometimes, because otherwise I’m going to miss that morning check-in.

Since I recently got diagnosed with Hashimoto’s, which is an autoimmune disease that affects the thyroid, I have to make these crazy protein berry smoothies in the morning with lots of spinach because I need all these things that I kind of can’t get out of some foods. Then, about three hours later, I’m pretty hungry. I’ll usually eat a brunch-y lunch, and I try to always have that meal with my Carriage House partners, Sam Huggins and Lindsey Bliss. I live above a really amazing breakfast place, so I like to go there and get scrambled eggs with kale and tomatoes and a biscuit. It’s really delicious. I get oatmeal from another place that makes it with steel cut oats, cream and jam. The Hashimoto’s diagnosis came this spring, so it’s been a journey as to how to reconfigure my diet to accommodate what I can’t eat now.

I don’t wash my face much because I have really dry skin, which is also connected to my thyroid problem. I felt lucky as a kid that I never really got breakouts. Now I splash my face with water and put oil on it. I use Meow Meow oil. When it comes to “makeup,” I like to dye my eyelashes, so I don’t need to put mascara on them — and that’s it. We get a lot of our products from Package Free, which just opened down the street. The founder’s whole movement is about waste-free living. It’s brilliant. You go in with jars and fill them with the products you need — no packaging.

When it comes to getting dressed, if the thing wears me, I kind of shut down.

I make deodorant and toothpaste myself, which is really fun. You can make your own toothpaste with baking soda, coconut oil, stevia if you like it a bit sweet, peppermint oil, and you blend it all together. It doesn’t go bad, you just keep it in a jar, dip your toothbrush in when you’re ready to brush your teeth and off you go. It tastes okay, and it works. You don’t feel filmy later in the day. My son is really into Colgate now because he goes to sleepovers and all his friends have Colgate. I hate it because it’s got fluoride in it, but there he is, shoving fluoride down his throat.

I’m still working on getting other products out of the house. Penn has a lot of products right now because he’s working again, so suddenly my bathroom cabinet is fuller than I ever remember it being. Kerastase shampoo is my one thing. When I saw the difference between that and the eight-dollar natural health store shampoo that’s like, lavender and geranium, which dries my hair out and smells okay, I was suddenly like, you know what? I have to do it. Because it’s so good!

My hair and makeup routine changes when I’m writing and recording music. Because I write at home or with friends in their spaces, I don’t care as much about how I look — I just wake up and go. (All the same self-care happens, though, to start my day.) I write better at night, so when I meet people during the day, it’s usually to review and rehearse songs I’ve already worked through myself.

When it comes to getting dressed, if the thing wears me, I kind of shut down. It’s how I feel when I put lipstick on or wear a turtleneck: inauthentic. I need a certain amount of freedom when I dress. I have a ton of clothes and I’ve never worn them — all these hand-me-downs from my sisters and my mom, but I like wearing old T-shirts. I have to feel like I can have a very busy day in my outfit, like I can move through the day easily in what I’m wearing. I usually wear kind of dumpy, comfy clothes if I’m going to work from Carriage House. If I go to a birth it’s sweat pants; I’ve got to be ready to be up all night at least.

I definitely try to make a little bit more of an effort as I’ve gotten older. My grandmother’s voice has definitely seeped into my brain in recent years. She was very done up all the time, and my mom is sort of like her but a little bit more rebellious. When I was younger, I used to think I needed to be in a certain shape and then the outfits would just be secondary. I figured I’d be in such great shape it wouldn’t matter what I was wearing. Now it’s the other way around. The outfit has to feel like me, always, and then it doesn’t matter if I haven’t worked out in a week, you know?

Domino Kirke is a songwriter, mother and the co-founder of Carriage House Birth, one of the most prominent doula collectives in the United States. She released her debut record, Beyond Waves, on August 25th, which can be found on Spotify and iTunes, plus on her website: dominokirkemusic.com. She currently lives in Brooklyn with her husband and son.

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  • A. Muscaria

    As a juxtaposition to this article, it would be nice to read the routine of a scientist…

    • Bri

      +100

    • Rebecca

      i’m sorry I don’t really understand your comment, do you mind explaining? Other than the fluoride thing she didn’t make any wild health claims she just stated what works for her. She isn’t making recommendations just stating how she prefers to keep her mind and body healthy for her. And I’m sure there are a lot of scientists who meditate and pray, etc!

      • Kristin

        Mhh i don’t think it’s the meditation and prayer, there are subtle digs at science throughout—the treatment of her autoimmune thyroid disease with diet, her adrenals needing support, and her antifluoride stance.

        • Rebecca

          i get the fluoride thing, although another commenter on this thread mentioned her dentist also doesn’t recommend it. but once again, she isn’t advocating everyone lives this way, she is saying “this is what i do for me”. if she had stated flat out that she was ignoring medical
          or scientific advice i would see where some people are coming from and i would agree. but i’m not willing to put words in her mouth like that in this context.

          • Kristin

            It’s not about her or what she said. It is the implicit endorsement. And there are mutiple other articles on this site which also sort of seem to promote these goop esque lifestyles which are great in some ways and it just seems there’s a lack of a voice of reason—like what I need RN is a lifestyle piece wherein the subject, for example, has thyroid disease and takes thyroid medicine and eats healthyish but nothing too specific or for any reason other than she is hungry and it tastes good and is a good dresser, and meditates and prays and takes multiple showers daily and attends births (which is cool and she hardly talked about it) and maybe she dry brushes but because it feels good and not for her adrenals. And maybe she doesn’t brush her teeth with fluoride but that sentence is footnoted to the evidence behind fluoride recommendations.

          • Rebecca

            I get where you are coming from but I also don’t think a lifestyle or fashion website really has an obligation to post one specific view point or to counter one viewpoint with its opposite. i’m sure they find domino interesting, so they met with her, and wrote about what she told them. it bears mentioning that this is not an opinion piece but an “as told to” piece, their job as interviewer was to simply report on what she told them. i can’t think of any other pieces that are “goop esque” on this site (btw i hate goop, just for the record!), which doesnt mean they dont exist. my point is we cant expect other peoples lives to mirror to us what we would prefer them to look like or to match our own beliefs because they are not us. btw into the gloss recently posted a ITGtopshelfie of a scientist with a v scientific view of skincare, beauty, and life in general, might be worth a read for you!

          • K

            I’m not sure if she is just saying “this is what I do for me”. E.g.

            “I like to dry brush in the morning… It stimulates your nervous system so you’ll feel a lot more alert after, and it’s great for the lymphatic system.”

            This is an assertion about the benefits of a particular thing she does.

            And again:

            “I also do this thing called Arvigo. It’s an ancient Mayan abdominal technique where you massage your stomach. A lot of people who have intense periods, infertility issues, women who’ve had hysterectomies or cesareans will do it. If you’re constipated…it’s a good way to really heal.”

            This contains an assertion about the benefits of Arvigo.

          • Rebecca

            Maybe I just read these a little more lighthearted than others. . .I’m not reading it with an intent to gain ideas for myself but more as a a glimpse into someone else’s routine, so maybe that matters in interpretation of what she says?

          • K

            TBH whilst I do not agree with Domino’s views and think her advice here is ill-founded, I agree with you that this article is just a glimpse into someone else’s life and perspective. So there’s no reason why MR shouldn’t have put it up. I was much more concerned about articles MR had previously where they just seemed to be recommending “alternative” treatments without offering any evidence-based justification for this. Still, I would probably respect MR less if I discovered that part of the perspective on life it advocated (along with, you know, Man Repelling) was the dreaded wellness perspective. So I guess people here are reacting badly to this article because they are worried MR is in fact advocating this perspective – they do offer quite a few articles related to this perspective, to be sure.

          • Rebecca

            Yeah I’ve definitely seen the articles you are mentioning, I just always saw them more in jest than serious suggestions! Maybe that’s because I am so anti-wellness trend and I love this site so much that i assumed they were half mocking the trends and half doing them because its kinda fun to see people do some of the recommendations! And I really don’t see man repeller going full goop on any of us lol

          • K

            The title of this article could definitely be seen as mocking, so I get where you are coming from. But that’s not a natural reading of all the pro-goop-perspective articles they put up. I doubt they would go full goop, but like others here I would like to see a bit more of the anti-goop anti-bullshit perspective being articulated.

          • Rebecca

            lol i didn’t really mean mocking, i meant discovery of something new while not necessarily taking it 100% seriously which is how i see a lot of the articles here, not this one but definitely others. anyways agree to disagree on the seriousness of this article and its possible ramifications

          • K

            Yeah, fair enough. But in case we are not referring to the same articles here, this is an example of what I meant by a MR article that is pro alternative treatments without a lot of thought about the evidence for these:

            http://www.manrepeller.com/2017/05/ovarian-cysts.html

  • Aliin

    I have done the whole baking soda toothpaste shizzile when I have forgotten to buy toothpaste but in general I thought fluoride toothpaste was recommended by dentists? For some reason, i cannot get past that. I do love my dentist.

    • Lou Boom

      my dentist doesn’t recommend fluoride toothpaste, but he and his assistant always emphasizes to not use toothpaste that is too abrasive. Most whitening toothpastes are too grainy and actually ‘attack’ the tooth enamel by taking away too much and roughening it up, so that bacteria and acids can do their thing better. This also goes for baking powder or -soda! Google will know if your toothpaste is ok 🙂

      • Kristin

        I was using this seriously crunchy tooth powder (Uncle Harry’s Tooth Powder) for years until my dentist recommended I stop because it was too abrasive. It looks and feels like a really fine powder, so I was skeptical. The “powder” is calcium carbonate (chalk) with essential oils. I’ve since stopped using it twice a day and use it only in the morning and use Tom’s sensitive toothpaste at night. I was so sad, but I just figured the dentist knows what he’s talking about. He also talked about that bit u mentioned about whitening toothpastes being too harsh, so I definitely stay away from those 🙂

      • Aydan

        THIS is the problem with most modern toothpastes. They DESTROY tooth enamel, something that we cannot grow back. Once its gone, its gone.

  • Ana

    I have recently become enthralled by Lola after watching Mozart in the Jungle, which lead to a spiral of reading articles about all of the Kirke sisters. They are such multi-faced and *buzzword alert* authentic beings even in the limelight, so I really enjoyed this! Curious to know if Domino is aware of MR’s long-term, borderline obsessive, fascination with Penn…

    • Aydan

      or like the entire millennial generation!! ;-D

  • Bri

    you need fluoride in your toothpaste!!

  • cuffers27

    Genuinely thought this was a spoof…

    • Jasmin Sander

      hahaha, yeah, was thinking of Haley’s satires (-:

  • Natty

    wait, shower BEFORE workout?

    • Kristen J

      This also confused me. To each their own I suppose. I sweat like crazy. Does my sweat counts as an additional wet-head-dunk-attitude-change for the day?

    • Amelia Diamond

      I actually shower before workouts, too. I wash my hair before so that when i’m done I can just rinse and run to work like byeee

  • “I was suddenly like, you know what? I have to do it. Because it’s so good!”
    Fluoride should be applied to this statement. I’ve literally never heard of a dentist saying not to use something because of it and in many places its in the drinking water because its proven to work to prevent tooth decay. I feel like I’m watching that Parks and Rec episode where Leslie has to convince the town that its not bad for them.
    https://i1.wp.com/www.modernlifesurvivalist.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/parks-rec-fluoride-joke-communist.gif?resize=250%2C250

    • Arden

      A+++ parks reference

    • Megan Cox

      Yeahh my fiancé grew up in China, where he brushed his teeth every single day twice a day, but never had fluoride in his water or toothpaste. On his first dentist trip they found 7 cavities (and prescribed fluoride toothpaste). I never really understood why everyone here (in China) brushes their teeth daily but soo many people (especially above 40) have god awful tooth decay. Me? I’m gonna keep using fluoride.

  • Abby

    This the most “crunchy hipster rich lady” thing I’ve ever read and I read wellness blogs on the regular.

  • Kendra Sharp

    I don’t understand all the critiques below this article. Domino is inspiring and intelligent… and also entitled to whatever ‘hipster’ routine she likes. I find it refreshing for Man Repeller to share something this low-key. I’d also recommend watching her interview with StyleLikeU!

    • Rebecca

      Agreeee! I love Jemima, Lola, and Domino, they have led multi-faceted lives and I’m very inspired by Domino’s work as a mid-wife. The classes Carriage House Birth offers are v cool, even as a non-parent I enjoy reading about her work in that arena. And I loved her interview with StyleLikeU!

      • Kristin

        A doula is not the same as a midwife. There is a lot of evidence that doulas are helpful and supportive for women and families but they are not medical providers whereas midwives are

        • Rebecca

          i accidentally misspoke when i said she was a midwife. but my point stands, which is that i enjoy reading about her work and support of women and her organizations support of women in their community. especially through the classes they offer for parents. they’re doing some good work 🙂

    • PCE

      Without a doubt, she’s welcome to engage in whatever routine she likes! IMO, though, it’s a little out-of-touch for us regular folk, and not really a routine a lot of us can even fathom getting on board with. Hell I’d love a daily routine of waking up fresh, blending smoothies, working out late morning and taking a “dunk,” buuuut I’ve gotta get to work by 8:30 am, the 4 and 5 trains are delayed again, my lunch is – wait where’s my lunch? and so on and so forth…

      • nelgracev

        Lol tru tho

    • fluffinella

      Was just coming over to say the same. Of course she and her sisters lead a pretty privileged life in many ways, at the same time, I found it refreshing to read the routine of someone who isn’t afraid to talk about spirituality stuff.

      Also for the flouride lovers: https://www.livescience.com/37123-fluoridation.html <<< a pretty balanced take on a controversial substance. I definitely don't want it in my drinking water.

      • Jasmin Sander

        Out of curiosity, what part of that take do you object to? The worst that can really happen appears to be dental fluorosis, which sucks, but is mainly a cosmetic issue.

        • fluffinella

          I have only done a moderate amount of research on the issues with ingesting fluoride throughout ones life in drinking water, there seems to be a lot of conflicting info out there, but a few reliable scientific journals and websites (like livescience) have featured the understudied consequences of ingesting fluoride (of which there are many) see this peer reviewed article: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3956646/

          • Jasmin Sander

            Hm… “Ingesting fluoride” doesn’t take into account the dose. Every effect described in that article except fluorosis is either unlikely (they report statistically insignificant results and cite inconclusive studies) or arises from exposure to higher doses or a combination with other factors (e.g. iodine deficiency). I’m also a little suspicious because instead of proposing more research into these understudied adverse effects, the article basically concludes with “we should get rid of all this pro-fluoride stuff.” Perhaps the authors were slightly biased themselves?

            I’m not particularly in favor of water fluoridation, but I’m also not too worried about it, based on the evidence.

  • amy♡

    I love her! I feel more zen just reading this article.

  • fluffinella

    Love Domino! <3

  • Abby

    did i accidentally click on goop?

    • nelgracev

      Hahahahaha points

  • CM

    This daily routine is so similar to mine, I love it! Although I prefer to buy a natural toothpaste that’s less abrasive than baking soda. There is a similar self-massage practice called abhyanga in Ayurveda, which I practice.

  • I think the comments on this article are pretty judgemental and neggy. To be honest, I thought it was a very refreshing read: here’s someone talking openly about her spirituality and how she cares more about comfort than looking uber fashionable. She mentioned lemon water and dry brushing, nothing too out of the ordinary nowadays, and making her own toothpaste and deodorant. Heck, I’ve even tried that. I am anything but affluent and I could relate more to this post than to the “You need this dress that’s on sale for only $1300 on Matches” that so often can be found on MR.

    P.S. Definitely watch Jemima on StyleLikeU – one of my favourite episodes, it might make you loosen up a bit

    • Aydan

      yes the spirituality bit is so so so interesting! like how incredible is it for them to go beyond the “usual” forms of thought in the western world and explore others that suit their needs and minds! I think its beautiful!

    • Liz

      Yes – incredibly surprised how quickly MR women have shown up to tear down other women for being crunchy, too privileged, rich etc, (Miami farmers) but say nothing when MR posts articles with almost every single clothing piece being out of most people’s price range (and/or their entire months rent lol). Is it because we know the writers? Don’t wanna be like guys this fashion piece is $$out of touch$$? Or is it because we don’t know these interviewed women? Frankly, Domino seems incredibly chill and being a doula literally means she supports women in so many aspects…our turn

  • Kristin

    Although I couldn’t practice a routine like this, I’m fascinated by it. It seems so peaceful and natural. I grew up in Hawai’i and took a lot of showers because it’s so hot and humid, it’s a necessity. Living in WA I meet a lot of people who don’t shower on the regular because they don’t always sweat, or feel like they sweat, when it’s cooler. It’s a weird concept to me, not showering daily, even if you may sit in an air conditioned office all day. Anyway, over this past winter I started taking bubble baths w/my one year old. I’d soak for a bit while she played and I’d get out and start my night routine while she continued to play in the tub to save time. Then after a while I was like eff saving time, I need to chill out and spend more time w/my baby so I’d just soak in the tub, sometimes she’d lay w/me while we both stared at the ceiling. It felt like we were reflecting on our day before bedtime (well, she was probably thinking of how weird the water felt around her ears). Sometimes small changes like slowing down for a second and not trying to be multi-tasking mom of the year is peaceful enough. Thanks for the article to remind me of this!

  • ErinPaige

    I’m a scientist and a midwife and I like fluoride and I also really like this article. And she seems rad. And her daily routine sounds rad. As a person who sometimes reads research articles all day long man repeller is not where I go for my evidence based references. It’s where I go to ponder whether I should have some fun with a dry brush, or meditate more, or consider clashing patterns, or obsessively wonder where Haley bought her glasses. Love it!

  • Stevie

    When MR post a high fashion piece, many readers complain about the out-of-touch prices. When Harling did that amazing H&M styling piece, many were on the offensive about “endorsing” H&M given its poor record in the humanitarian department.

    I studied health economics and pre-medical sciences i, and let me tell you, just because fluoride is in most toothpastes doesn’t mean you need fluoride in your toothpaste. Conversely, just because Gwenth Paltrow or Dave Asprey don’t use fluoride toothpastes doesn’t mean that fluoride is not beneficial to oral health.

    And MR, keep doing you and pay no mind to the cynics.

    • Suzan

      Yes I’m with you Stevie, and Erin Paige worded it also so nicely in a comment on this article.

      It doesn’t have to be all that black or white. And you can enjoy things without 100% relating to it!

  • Lil

    I love the Kirke sisters. Also so refreshing to read this because I’m try to work towards a more balanced and minimalistic lifestyle

  • Lil

    Can we please have more of these “a day in the life” pieces?