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I Hate Being On My Phone All the Time

But that kind of scares me, too?

10.13.16
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Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night anxious because I am growing further away from my youth and I wonder if that means I’m out of touch with a reality that I thought was mine (millennialssssssssssssszzzzzzsssss~) but actually is not.

One thing I’ve been saying a lot lately is that I hate being on my phone all the time. The reason this is particularly painful is because it has turned me into one of those people who complain like hell about everything but never actually do anything about it, because I’m still always on my phone, and consistently paralyzed by how much shit I can do on it — deposit checks, write a book, record a podcast, buy groceries, check in for a flight, listen to music, read all the news (all the fucking news), end my marriage! (I’m kidding about that last one).

It makes tuning it all out and instead just scrolling through Instagram like a braindead walrus so much more compelling. But then I get flustered, because I get too involved in a life that is not my own. Before you know it, I made a left turn when I needed to take a right and now I’m looking up at traffic signs, frantic and confused, like I’ve just been jolted out of a REM cycle.

There are at least two enormous problems here.

The first is that a cell phone can either be a prison or a fortress depending on how you use it, which is completely at the owner’s discretion. It can guide you home instead of get you lost (Google Maps is pretty reliable), and provide enough intelligent insight to keep you genuinely, intellectually satisfied and not the opposite: late, and staring into a gaping hole of nothingness.

But there’s too much choice, I think, which is the real crux of the problem for me. Too many things to do, too many things to read, too many ways to communicate and interpret a point. It can get so overwhelming that even though the reflexive response should be to shut it down, instead you go to the app you’re most comfortable with and waste time as you fall deeper into the spiral of your own generational doubt. Does anyone else know what I’m talking about? I hate being on my phone all the time! It makes me feel like I’m not living in the real world, and that makes me feel like I’m becoming my mother.

Sometimes, when I’m texting, I get so mad at my thumbs for hitting too many keys at once that I genuinely think about what kind of exercise could make them narrower. Recently, my fingertips have started to feel numb because I’m scrolling so often. Numb! That can’t be good. For me, the phone promotes habitually bad behavior, which, if I had to guess, stops mental expansion. I don’t know if that’s true scientifically, but I know that when I am able to pull myself out of the screen vortex, I feel like I’ve just taken a shot of tequila. Alive and ready to dance. So what am I supposed to do? Am I supposed to do anything? I’m scared to stop using it, even though I want to (recently, I’ve started to shut it off on Saturdays and it’s like taking a vacation every week) because what if that means I’m entering that phase of early onset middle-age-hood where I still look like a youth, but feel like a grandpa? Will we still be connected? Will I seem severely out of touch? Is this the beginning of a harsh phase of life wherein I am no longer tuned into the frequencies of the zeitgeist, just standing on the outer corners asking whoever will answer if it’s still blurry in there?

One time, I heard a woman say that women in their 40s are invisible. It broke my heart. Divorcing from my phone makes me feel similarly. Does that sound crazy? SOS.

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  • This post makes me wonder whether it is fear of getting disconnected or fear of getting too connected to the real world that keeps you glued to the phone? In my experience, real world is less interesting and more often full of senseless stress one cannot always avoid, whereas one can always swipe away unpleasantness on the phone and see something nice. Theoretically 🙂

    Anyway, women over 40 who don’t do things (the way) prescribed for women over 40 by local public opinion, get all the visibility we never wanted. And yet I stick my head into books or my pillow instead … must be because my fingers are too large to swiftly type and thus enjoy all the functions available 🙂

  • Cristina

    It doesn’t sound crazy AT ALL. Am I the only one who uses Whatsapp as an excuse when I’m boring? I would say anything funny to any of my friends just to have something to do with my cell phone. As if it couldn’t wait a minute or an hour until we see each other face to face. Or scroll down to all the Instagram pictures, and even look my own over and over again. With no purpose at all, just because it feels good to have something to do with it.
    I’ve deleted Instagram several times and it’s not a big deal. You just get used to it, but Whatsapp… it’s impossible! If someone has any tips, I would appreciate it.

    I also kind of miss the romantic part of being alone in a restaurant having your coffee and looking at other people’s lives, and sometimes another person would look at you aswell. Now it seems impossible. Don’t you think that if you don’t post your great experiences in Instragram is like as if you haven’t lived them yet? That is so sad.

    Loved the post! Made me think again about what we really have around us every day 🙂

    • Robin

      yes to everything you say.

  • Lisa Charlotte

    This described me on point. Now sick in bed holding my phone. And somehow got this feeling that the whole my phone is the whole reason why I am sick.. but still it’s either in my hand or next to my head. It feels like it’s getting worst and worst. Almost like my uncontious is feeling that I want to say farewell to it and is afraid to let go. Okay I’m sounding crazy now, but I think it is time for us to start the relation with phone all over again and set some good rules and boundries. Your one day off is a very good rule to start with. Furthermore I think we should turn it around. Instead of putting the phone down a few minutes a day. We should only pick it up for a few minutes a day. Plan to use phone, plant when not to use phone, set alarms. Because we can read the news later, answer that message later, take that call later, whatch that insta post later. No one would die from that. And we would live.

  • Jackie

    Absolutely agree with you Leandra! I think I’ve reduced the level of intelligent thought going on in my mind over the years since using one’s phone for practically everything became such a huge part of modern day life – the irony of it all. It’s such a dismaying realization to come to. Such a conundrum to feel dulled by a device that is so useful. Here’s to hoping we and most of our generation will find a way to moderate this unsustainable use of phones in the years to come… Love your thought provoking posts – keep them coming!

  • Bailey Stark

    As a student, I can really relate to this, and I think it has to do with the ever expanding technology world that we inhabit. My entire college education is on my laptop. All my professors upload their content to their “pages”, I complete all of my homework on online textbook websites, and I even take my quizzes on a quiz generator website! I really can’t remember the last time I was handed a worksheet! And since all of my work is online, I always have my phone or my laptop open (yes, I have apps that allow me to do my homework on my phone), and then I get drawn into the screen black hole.

    I wish I was less dependent on technology, but I truly believe it’s because of the technology ridden world we live in. I would throw my phone, laptop, and iPad through my window right now if it didn’t mean I would fail all of my classes.

    • I used to teach college English, and I actually started doing more worksheets in class because students were asking for them. I even allowed them the option to hand write a weekly letter assignment I had in my English 101 class. We’re quickly forgetting that some people are tactile (touch or hands-on) learners – and the rest of us could use a little of it from time to time!

  • Vickee

    I think we could all use a little break from our phones. I completely feel your frustration with yourself on this one. Like WHY did I just spend 2 hours scrolling on IG? WHY do I feel the need to check my phone every 5 minutes at work? I’ve been practicing not being on my phone while walking in the city though, which is for my safety and it allows me to actually see people, see things, just enjoy walking and breathing. Little by little, if people put in the conscience effort to live in their moments and not other people’s digital moments, not being glued to your phone can become easier.

  • Cristina

    Ugh, such a necessary evil. Especially owning a brand, or working in marketing (me) in the over evolving technological world we live in. I mean, Snapchat AND Instagram stories, what the heck? I consider myself an app streamliner, so I hate that now I have two apps that do the same thing and you would think I would just go with IG Stories but not all my friends on Snap use Stories and omg if I missed something surely the world would end? ::exhales::. I finally removed the FB app from my phone and now only check it at work on a real computer. This caused a few weekends of hyperventilating and I still cheat sometimes since my iPhone is basically a computer and I just get on the web browser FB… but it’s better. However, I told my mom I was taking a break from FB and to text me or call me with real live info and what does she do? Tags me in FB posts, shares stuff to my timeline. Like mom, WHAT DID I JUST SAY?! I do think we become too engrossed in the wrong things. I’ve also decided to stop reading iBooks and I discovered a local bookstore that just amazing. Just browsing takes me to an entirely other world. With Instagram, I would quit but then how would I know the happy hour specials at my favorite restaurants, the giveaway of my favorite sweater at my favorite boutique or that there is going to be a Harry Potter Festival down the street this weekend?! HOW WOULD I KNOWWWW??!!! Maybe we should all just go bak to 2004 with our Razr flip phone cause I really thought I was cool then lol.

    • Robin

      omg yes at the snapchat AND instagram stories! Even as a consumer instead of producer its super weird. do we really need extra stimulants?

  • Lauren

    I relate to this on every level. In fact, i received 3 notifications while reading this, and steeled myself to finish in one rep! I have deleted instagram and snapchat a few times, but I think all of the time spent on those apps was replaced by me bragging to anyone with ears that I felt enlightened and was surprised by how much I didn’t miss it.

    I’ve found that moving the apps in weird places that don’t make sense (instagram with ovulation tracker/ snapchat with calculator) has slowed down my subconscious path, and therefore made it seem more intentional. The fact that I get irritated if I need to break focus before reaching the bottom of a scroll or finishing everyone’s story is prob bad? Hard to say…

  • Sonia

    I could not agree with this sentiment more. Every single time I am on the subway or in an elevator or in the waiting room of my gynecologist’s office I look around only to see everyone with their necks bent, eyes down, thumbs hammering at their screens like mallets in a game of whack-a-mole. And my first thought is “What have we turned into? Is it really so impossible for us to sit idly while waiting for a pap smear? What is wrong with these humans!?!!” But then what do I do next? Reach into my bag and grab my phone.

    It’s a fixation I have ingrained into my every alternating movement. In the same way cigarette smokers describe much of their addiction as being the oral fixation and routine that comes with having a smoke, I feel the same about my phone. I reach for it even though I JUST looked at it. I re-open Instagram .2 seconds after I’ve closed out of it. As much as I hate admitting this, I am addicted to my phone. And it kills me. Well, not really, but it irritates the hell out of me. Because we’re stronger than this, right? We don’t NEED to be glued to our phones and yet we are. And try as I may to “leave it in the other room” or go on an “electronics diet,” all it takes is one double tap or desire to check the weather to put me right back where I started: in a deep-seated, clingy-as-fuq relationship with a tiny computer.

    And then I think, is it just me? I know there are people who are wholly capable of forgetting their phones or turning them off after 6pm — shoutout to Shonda Rhimes — but I can’t seem to make that part of my routine. But I continue to try because my thumbs hurt and I spend too much money on The Real Real app and I’m scared of carpel tunnel and a neurologist recently told me that there is a whole new form of arthritis because of how often we are on our phones. (!!!!!!)
    I don’t really have an answer or a solution to this problem. But I feel overwhelmed by my attachment to my phone. Then again…where would I be without it? UGH.

    • Cristina

      Oh great, now I have to resist the urge to see what this Real Real app is lol! Not only the arthritis, but they’ve termed the condition caused by your head/neck being bent down like that.. I can’t remember what it is but I can imagine long term it can cause some permanent damage. It is such an addiction, and I do the same and then I hate myself a little. Like why am I so obsessed with the behind the scenes of a famous person I’ll never even be?! I mean, it’s almost creepy lol

      • Abby

        It’s called tech neck!

    • Basil

      Not related to the article at hand, but thanks for the reminder to book a Pap smear. I’ve been overdue for a long time and this post was a reminder to book. MR is a public service!

    • Gabrielle

      same.

    • Leslie Scott

      “re-opening Instagram .2 sec after I’ve closed it” – I thought this was just me! This is serious problem in my life and you and Leandra described it so so well. My 4 year old tells me to put down my phone and listen to her *cringe. And I also now will be checking out the Real Real – thanks a lot!

  • Robin

    don’t have that much to add, just that I can get SO annoyed when I’m with people and they’re on their phones. Like, look at my face please? Tell me something? Some people literally fall silent after a few words, like they don’t know how to have conversations anymore.. This sounds pretty dramatic, at parties or dinners of course everybody can talk, but what I mean is that it seems like it takes some time before people get back out of their phone when you ask them to put it away, and before you get in the groove of speaking, you look again… Sometimes I’m afraid I do the same thing though

    • I find that I get caught in a loop with this – they will put away their phones, but only want to talk about what they just read/saw on their phones. Even though the phone isn’t out anymore, it’s as if they can’t focus on anything else.

      It’s a lot like when coworkers try to socialize, but only want to talk about work stuff. I don’t care what you saw on Instagram two minutes ago – I want to know if you’ve read a good book recently, gone on a fun hike, or done something other than be on your phone. 😉

    • Shevaun

      my parents were recently visiting and they haven’t seen me in about a year and 3 months, and they were on their phones (on Facebook!) about 80% of the time, and it DROVE ME INSANE. I was like a cranky parent insisting that they put their phones down so we could have a conversation. Every time we went out into public they were both taking so many pictures and then uploading them to FB or sending them to my brother or aunts.

      It’s insane how much the ‘phone culture’ thing has spread to the older generations. Like usually technology has a cut-off point (y’know parents and grandparents who can’t download music or sign up for netflix or whatever) but these phones man. these phooooones.

      • Emily

        My parents do this too and I feel exactly the same way! My dad is obsessed with Facebook and constantly checks in, takes photos and uploads them without telling anyone and agonises over the wording of his status updates. Mum is similarly hooked bit on Insta, but this is actually pretty sweet. She styles her photos, puts up pictures of the amazing clothes she makes for her grandkids and has found a way of really connecting with people (strangers!).

  • sin_plomo

    Where can I get that shirt? Now that I have seen it I realise I always needed it

    • Leandra Medine

      It’s from The Reformation!

      • sin_plomo

        It’s beautiful. I am on the waitlist so fingers crossed!

  • Abby

    I’ve been actively working on two things lately: taking my lunch break and not immediately pulling out my phone any time I’m waiting in line/walking somewhere/in an elevator/ETC. This usually means that I take a 15 minute walk outside once a day without looking at my phone at all and it feels amazing! It’s the first time I’ve understood why people get so hype on ~mindfulness~

  • The best part about this problem is that you’re in full control to reach a resolution. Only you have the power to put your phone down.

  • This is such a great piece, and really echos a sentiment so many of us feel. Leandra you always seem to nail my general mindset, trendsetter from pants to cultural memes. You rock.
    How many times have we tried to digital detox only to relapse, or said “I just need to hop into Facebook to message someone about our dinner plans”, only to realize 30 minutes later and 600 scrolls deep in your newsfeed that you forgot why you came there in the first place.
    This conversation is starting to gather steam, and I am glad. I just stumbled upon this Time Well Spent movement yesterday and the TedTalk is so worth a watch! He echos this sentiment perfectly, its a shame our natural psychological tendencies are being exploited so massively. http://timewellspent.io/

  • Molly D

    I see phone use separated into these ways:

    1) productive, getting important shit done
    2) communicating with friends and family
    3) entertainment perusing all of The Things
    4) wasting time doing 3) or trying to memorize the weekend weather or literally just looking at it hoping it gives me something, anything that makes me feel connected or involved and not so alone in the world
    5) using it as a social crutch when I am alone or feel uncomfortable or are waiting for someone public.

    1-3 are cool but must be limited! esp. 3 bc it’s such a black hole. 4-5 are barf and make me feel terrible. I love turning it off even for a couple hours. Then I don’t feel compelled to check it! Also suggest turning off notifications for anything non-essential. I like to remind myself that life is out there, not in my phone. It’s so unfulfilling too isn’t it? It’s such a distraction from real things. Even when I have nothing else to do, just sitting there and looking out the window on the bus feels so much more humane than scrolling.

  • Lady_A

    But there’s too much choice, I think, which is the real crux of the problem for me. Too many things to do, too many things to read, too many ways to communicate and interpret a point.

    MY LIFE!! There’s so much to read, so much to discover and you keepo reading thinkpieces, opinions, academical stuff… It makes my brain hurt but I can’t stop. Also, my work attention spam is terrible. I’m starting to long for the days when FB was blocked in offices.

  • Kim Dubeck

    I am beginning to use my phone strictly for texting/calling (the few people I actually talk to on the phone) & basic apps. I’ve deactivated FB, deleted messenger, don’t have twitter & scaled back on Instagram.
    I thought I’d miss it more & sometimes I do feel in invisible, but to whom am I invisible to? It’s laughable because the only people I care about “seeing” me (literally and metaphorically) can do so without any social media.
    My husband & I put our phones away when we come home now.
    I sure feel less like a narcissistic asshole with numb fingers…which is a pretty good reason to stay the course.

  • Isabel

    Recently my phone has been glitching. I think it’s either the new Apple update or my battery sucking, either way, it randomly shuts off. Take for instance, last week when I was at a friend’s wedding and my phone died while I was taking a video of her gracefully coming down the aisle with her father. I’d be lying if I said my dead phone didn’t make me feel anxious during the ceremony because I couldn’t take photos. THAT IS A TERRIBLE THING. But then I realized that the phone dying forced me to take the experience in the moment without documenting it. And you know what? It’s ok that I didn’t document the ceremony or the reception or dancing on the dance floor because I was in the moment! Plus, who looks back at videos they took anyways? (Where are you, lost videos of every concert I’ve been to post-iPhone?).

    So I’m not gonna get my phone fixed. I’m embracing this glitch. *phone dies*

  • I get this so much. I’ve recently deleted a lot of stuff from my phone including facebook, it’s been so freeing and I check my phone maybes 1/5th as much as I used to, but it can lead to so much fomo when I check it later

    – Natalie
    http://www.workovereasy.com

  • Aly

    “One time, I heard a woman say that women in their 40s are invisible.” Sarcasm aside, we need to stop this ageist nonsense.

    • “The 20-somethings put themselves out to get noticed so much there’s not enough visibility left to go around.”

      OK, now I am officially done with the ageism: in reality, I try very hard to be invisible because I like it, but it is quite difficult sometimes.

  • Therese

    ok ! this is a really good article! Recently my phone just died and i have to start using an old one, and when i say old, I am talking about a nokia with keyboard, zero apps, no email. Nothing! and you what? it´s been a pleasure!!! And that make think about quit Instagram, Facebook! because we don´t talk anymore!

    • graceb

      I went back to a flip phone and cut my Verizon bill in half!

  • Katrine Loris

    Love this – totally relatable and I’m finding myself turning my phone off for hours at a time every day.

  • After I got done reading this, I looked around and realized FUCK I CAN’T FIND MY PHONE!

    It was behind my laptop. Crisis averted. 😉

    I do feel that way a lot, and deleting apps is the only way I’ve found to get off the phone more often. After deleting all the dumb game apps, the messenger thing for Facebook, and a few others that were robbing me of my quiet time, I found it helped. Sure, I’m still on social media WAY more than I should be. Baby steps, right?

    Hang in there. We’re all suffering a bit from phone fatigue, but we’ll figure it out.

  • BK

    I feel all of this. One suggestion that works for me is to start up a hobby or hand exercise (at least in the confines of your own home/the anything-goes bazaar for ladies that is the MR office) that requires the use of both hands but won’t restrict you from say, talking to people and conducting everyday interactions. E.g. At home in my downtime, I usually always have some tapestry needlepoint to get on with, or I bead things. My phone is there near me but I can’t really use it because I’m *busy* and it sort of fades into the background. Sometimes I even LOSE MY PHONE because I’ve been occupied for so long that I forget where I set it down hours ago! Also, I know I hawk the benefit of productive hobbies a lot in this here comment section, but the satisfaction of making something and having a finished product in your hands at the end of is a warm, secret little feeling that is very difficult for others to remove from your system.

  • Trixie

    I’m on my 20’s and I’m not glued to my phone, and I’m so bloody proud of it!!! It takes a LOT of will but it is worth it!! I’d hate to feel that I’m nobody without my phone or that I won’t be able to do anything without it. It serves me I’m NOT its slave! I feel FREE!!! 🙂

  • Sophie

    It’s annoying because it is EVERYTHING
    It is my creative outlet – I research, design, take pictures, sell those pictures, draw those pictures. I can create at any point. That is such a powerful thing.
    It’s my organisation – I can pay Bills, remind my husband to do X, Y and Z. Buy groceries, presents, clothes. anything.
    It’s my social outlet – I can connect to my family, send and receive love, make somebody’s day with a nice message or invitation to something. When I am with my husband at night we cuddle, talk and read our phones. Is that so different to reading books together. Absolutely. But why?

    it’s my greatest tool to procrastinate and my greatest tool to get shit done

    Worst. When I’m on my phone at work. I know my reputation is always being on the phone. I KNOW it affects how people perceive my work effort. Sometimes I am looking at updates on the Bachelorette. Sometimes I am looking into a killer precedent for the latest case I am working on.

    I once took the Ferry across beautiful Sydney Harbor on my way to the north side, and I didn’t look up to see the Opera House or Bridge once.

  • Nathalie

    I feel exactly the same. Thank you for capturing this feeling so accurately.

  • Jolie

    YES! I’ve recently begun to think I’m addicted to my phone (and the internet in general), which I’ve never really admitted until now. I’ve always been the type of person who loves “content” in all forms: all my days as a kid and adolescent were spent reading tons of books, watching tons of TV and movies, trying to find new content to love and absorb.

    I feel like I’ve just taken that need to be informed and distracted and turned it into an all-out phone addiction. I’m constantly reading through all the various websites I love, trying to find short articles and longform reads and listicles and recommendations. There are so many sources of content I love that I find myself dedicating WAY too much free time to it. I get a rush from checking my social media accounts and seeing what other people’s “content” is, whether it’s articles they’ve shared or pictures of their vacation.

    I honestly have no idea how to get out of this black hole and it’s scary and nervous-making!!!

    • grace b

      I’m 100% the same way!! Cutting way back really helped me!

  • graceb

    I went 3 months this summer without wifi in my apartment. It was awesome. I watched movies from the library, read 15 books, and spent waaay too much $ and time in coffeeshops (because I was still using my laptop obvi, used smartphone at work). Highly recommend it to everyone.

    • Sara Lugo

      I had a reverse incident happen a few weeks ago — my laptop went bust and I could only use my phone. I discovered that I use my laptop to procrastinate (perusing blog posts, endlessly scrolling through Twitter), and not having it forced me to face my work and get it done. My phone screen is to small to comfortably spend forever drafting emails, so I’d spend an hour or so at night getting essential “computery” stuff done on my phone then be done. I miss those days so much ;_;

      • grace b

        Yes! I spilled water on my laptop back in June and didn’t get a new to me laptop until August. So I was definitely limited to that hour at the library — it is a little panic inducing to have to get stuff done but you have so much less wasted time!

  • graceb

    Also can we ask Laura, the French girl about this? I’m curious to hear her thoughts.

  • b.e.g.

    I have been late for important meetings because I’ve turned the car around to go get my forgotten phone. What if I have an emergency and I need my phone? What if I get in an accident? What if my son calls me? What if, whatever, it is pointless. I went back home, I picked up my phone after having to use Find my Phone app because it was sitting pretty on top of the dryer where no one would have found it for days or until they ran out of clean underwear. And so, yes, we can’t leave the house without them. And yet it was a mere 10 years ago, maybe more?, when leaving the house without my cell was insignificant. I feel naked without it. I feel helpless and vulverable without it. I am an addict.

  • Tiffany Rey

    Yes, I can totally relate! It bothered me so much I did research aka “googled it” (on my phone of course) and did find one tip that helped me decrease my phone usage. It was to log out of most frequented apps, that way when you are mindlessly perusing your phone it will serve as a little reminder to use your phone less.

  • Kristina Sahleström

    Omg, this is me…

  • Basil

    It’s gotten so bad my husband and I have had to be all grown up about it and institute a “no phones while eating” rule

  • Kathy Cappa
  • Mallory

    “But then I get flustered, because I get too involved in a life that is not my own.”

    This is so true! I think that because we are a generation centered around content/information and the amount of available resources that provide content, we tend to get so wrapped up in information. Whether that information is value adding or just for social purposes, it can start to consume our lives. Recently, I have become more aware of the amount of time I’ve been spending on my phone as well, and I’m trying to make a conscious effort to limit the amount of time spent scrolling through social media or news publications, especially when I’m with other people. Also, as weird as this may sound, I find that even just taking the time to log in to my computer to read articles makes me feel a less reliant on my phone. And maybe that is because my laptop isn’t with me 24/7.

  • Gabrielle

    This!!!!!
    observing shabbos/no phones on a Saturday is a great strategy (haven’t tried it myself, but who knows). other strategies to deal with tech addiction?? For example, I recently logged off facebook for over a month, and completely lost my interest in it. I mean, now I still enjoy checking it, but not compulsively like I used to.
    Compulsively checking my phone – email, text, instagram, not to mention all the other functions you listed – is still a huge problem for me. when you’re always distracted by a magical device with so many powers, it’s really hard to act like a real human, and be “present” (to use an expression I find kind of trite but is appropriate)…

  • Chloe Pueyo

    The tricky thing is to figure out what is important (and hence worth your time on the phone) and what is not. Posting instagram pics at 9pm? Important to feed your engaged followership but is it THAT important?

  • Leslie Scott

    Started charging my phone on the kitchen counter at night instead of the night stand and – OMG – I’ve actually read 2 books in the past week! Win for the brain

  • Rebecca

    Leandra, one of my favorite pieces of yours. BRAVO my darling. I often sit and wonder what my parents generation did for fun without the influx of technology. Did people really talk to one another ?!! ** mouth drops** i too am guilty of relying on my “technology security blanket” way more than I should. Can I really give up my addiction in our day and age?? even my mom has hopped on the bandwaggon. every time I am out for dinner, she is on her phone more than i am. **insert hands over eyes emoji here** love u leandra, always reading my mind

  • Chels

    I felt the exact same way and happened to stumble upon the Bored & Brilliant challenge: http://www.wnyc.org/story/bored-brilliant-project-part-1/. I thought it was ridiculous and silly at first but have noticed a huge difference in my day-to-day feelings of anxiety; my days feel less frantic. Going on a month without my favorite app (Instagram) and don’t miss it nearly as much as I thought! I used to think scrolling through all the pictures was a mini escape but once I cut it out I realized that the need to constantly keep up with all the content was largely negating the benefit.

  • Albee

    All I have to add is that it is true that saying about women in their
    forties. You no longer get second glances from guys and you start to see
    what you look like to teenagers – like a middle aged lady. Aeeee.

  • 1. From my experience it seems like people with androids are a lot less addicted to their phones, probably simply cuz it’s not as fluid to jump from app to app (though the owners claim otherwise)
    2. I remember I used to forget my phone all the time before I got a smart phone simply because there was nothing to do on it besides texting
    3. I remember before I got a smart phone I was able to watch a movie from beginning to end without itching to do something else
    4. I think add/adhd can totally be environmentally induced. Just today I’ve gotten sidetracked from my original task eg I was about to post something on Instagram but a text message came in at the same moment/ I saw a missed call and after I finished answering the message / voicemail I forgot that my original intention was to simply take a picture.
    5 . People in Brooklyn and Europe use their phones a lot less than people in Manhattan…I notice a lot more just staring into space or reading books and newspapers

  • Hellokitty

    DAT SHIRT THO! Can I search for it on my phone somewhere…? x

  • I moved here in August and didn’t bother to set up a US phone plan, I also have a three year old phone with a shoddy battery. So, when I go out it’s like this precious resource; I have to save the battery for like getting around (Google Maps IS great), and only use stuff I can use offline like podcasts or reading books, taking pictures. I also don’t have the data to squander away during my passive time. Instead I tote around a book for fun reading and don’t check social media until I’m home for the night, which is alright with me.

  • Emily

    Thank you for these posts. This blog makes my days better. YOU ROCK!

  • Drew Albo

    Theres an error. Waahhh it should be ready instead of read. “I feel like I’ve just taken a shot of tequila. Alive and read to dance.”

  • myszki

    I relate so hard I just don’t use internet on my cell. It is not activated. I connect with wifi twice a day and that’s it, for reasons above.