10 New Yorkers Give Advice to New York Transplants

  • Cannon Hodge

    1. New York expects you to have a job to get an apartment and to have an apartment to get a job -- it's an impossible situation that inspires many to sleep on couches (I lived on my aunt's for a month) and feign addresses on resumes. If you arrive with a job that promises paid housing, you've pretty much won the lottery.

    2. Every time you complain about your job, know that there are at least a thousand eager (and highly qualified) people willing to replace you. Yes, the world here is that competitive.

    3. Be prepared to publicly cry on the street. Everyone does it and you're not truly a New Yorker until you've done it at least twice.

    4. Don't eat on the subway. It's gross and you're not saving time. You're better than that.

    5. Find a good shoe repair and dry cleaner. These are some of the most important people in your life.

    6. Take advantage of all of the New York City parks and museums. They're magical.

    7. Don't forget that this is a city by the sea. It's wildly fun to take advantage of its ferry and water taxi services. We also have some decent beaches.

    8. You will be surprised almost every day. Sometimes it sucks, other times it's awesome. Also, be prepared to be truly broke. It encourages creativity (also, a slice probably still is the cheapest meal you can get).

    9. One day you'll get lost on the subway -- you may end up in Coney Island. It happens! Just ask for directions and people will sort you out. New Yorkers actually are very nice.

    10. Remember to look up.

    Cannon is a digital strategist who works with brands like Cushnie et Ochs, WWD and Estee Lauder. She moved to New York 11 years ago with her dog, Fred. She now lives in Ft. Greene with Fred and her tortoiseshell cat, Cleo.
  • Christina Pérez

    1. Be open to everything: people, places, neighborhoods, styles, everything.

    2. Don't get too comfortable. The most beautiful thing about this city is that it's always changing, so expect to stay on your toes and you'll never, ever be bored. The moment you get stuck in your ways is the moment the city dies in your heart.

    3. Keep exploring. And be nice. This place is big but you will 100% see the same people over and over again, so don't burn bridges.

    4. And, most importantly: Always carry bandaids. You will walk more than you ever thought possible and you will get blisters. That I can guarantee.

    Christina is a freelance editor and creative consultant. She moved to New York 10 years ago but escapes often for her travel website, Inside Elsewhere.
  • Gabby Sabharwal

    1. Make sure you are an authorized user on your cell phone plan.

    2. If you commute, it's worth sleeping the extra 20 minutes to take a later train. You'll get there at the same time, trust me.

    3. Make friends with your local Starbucks or neighborhood coffee joint to express your morning routine.

    4. Taxi drivers change shifts at 4:30 p.m. so avoid taking a cab during that time and know they won't be available anyway.

    Gabby is the Director of PR at Aritzia and the founder and designer of Giejo. She moved to New York 12 years ago and currently resides in the East Village with her French Bulldog, Hamlet.
  • Glynnis Macnicol

    1. Be alone. Chances are that when you first arrive here you'll feel alone (also overwhelmed and out of place), a state you'll try to escape in a mad frenzy. Don’t. Embrace it. This is the greatest city in the world in which to be alone. We're all "alone together," in the words of a bartender I once knew. Go to the movies by yourself. Go to breakfast, lunch and dinner by yourself. Sit in the park by yourself. Go the museum by yourself. And if I may be so bold, leave your phone at home. At least once. Nearly all the great tales of this city spring from a pre-internet New York. Venturing forth without your phone is the closest you will come to time travel.

    2. Your first year in New York is one of life's great gifts, though there is a solid chance you won't realize it until much later. Keep a journal. Even if you're not a writer -- who among us is not a writer in some form these days? --keep a journal about your first year. Write down everything you see and hear and how you feel about it. Paste in fliers (do people still make fliers?) and receipts and movie stubs and all the other flotsam generated by your activities. If you're here any length of time, everything will begin to feel normal and you'll forget just exactly how amazed and dazzled and confused (HOWston St.?) you were by it all.

    Glynnis is a writer. She moved to New York 19 years ago. She wrote about first arriving in 1997 here.
  • Kevin Kwan

    1. Talk to strangers. The person standing next to you might be a world famous artist, an eighties rock goddess or your next boss. (All three have happened to me.)

    2. Get on all the email lists for the sample sales. Getting incredible bargains on designer clothes is one of the main reasons we all put up with life in New York.

    3. Support your local bodega. It’s good to help mom and pop businesses and the next time there’s a two-day blackout and the ATM doesn’t work, they'll run a tab for you to buy that emergency pint of Haagen Dazs, something CVS most certainly won't do.

    4. Only tourists pay the full suggested admission fee at the MET Museum. Give them a few bucks, visit the museum often, and see just one exhibit each time you’re there. You’ll end up loving it so much more.

    5. The guy who needs to borrow 20 bucks because he’s been locked out of his studio with a bunch of garment bags and is in the middle of working on Ridley Scott’s new movie is lying. Beware of good looking scam artists with elaborate creative tales.

    6. Yes, that’s Yoko Ono. Just keep smiling and leave her alone.

    Kevin is the author of novels “China Rich Girlfriend” and “Crazy Rich Asians,” which is being made into a feature film. He's lived in the West Village for 21 years and doesn't know how he’s managed to keep the same house plant alive for 20 of them.
  • Verena von Pfetten

    1. Forget about living in a "cool" neighborhood or near work or a short commute or any of that nonsense. Move to a neighborhood that allows you to live in a not-entirely-terrible apartment that you can actually afford. Use the money you save on rent to enjoy the city.

    2. Bring a lunch. Don't try and compete with people who buy $8 juices and $12 salads. This is good advice no matter how long you live here.

    3. Don't get a dog. If you LOVE DOGS AND CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT A DOG, wait until you have an apartment with outdoor space and own a car. If you can't afford outdoor space or a car, you can't actually afford a dog.

    4. Relish your Sunday Fundays. Your body will only be able to handle day-drinking (or any drinking, for that matter) for so much longer.

    5. Expect to work hard. Then work harder. Be nice to everyone you meet or work with. Write thank you cards for everything. Do not, under any circumstances, burn bridges. New York is a surprisingly small town and it only gets smaller the longer you live here.

    Verena von Pfetten is writer, editor and digital consultant. She has lived in New York for 15 years. Despite the advice given above, she is the proud owner of two French Bulldogs. 
  • Nicolette Mason

    1. Walk and take the subway as much as possible. Sure, there's something romantic about snagging a cab when you're in a rush, but getting familiar with the subway maps and routes is one of the best crash-courses in orienting yourself with New York. In a city that's exceptionally pedestrian friendly, a sense of direction is important -- even if we do all have Google Maps in our pockets now.

    2. Shop the mom and pop stores in your 'hood and get to know your neighbors. I've lived in the same building in Brooklyn for about seven years now, and rely on my neighbors in the surrounding cafes, stores, and bodegas as extended community. We help each other out in random emergencies, look out for one another and, more importantly: keep New York New York. The little cafes that have been in our neighborhoods for decades are a big part of the flavor here and supporting them is pretty important. That tiny hardware store will probably hook you up when you get locked out of your apartment or are trying to find a weird lightbulb for the fixture in your kitchen, too, (shout out to Aurora Hardware on Bedford, I love you).

    3. It's really easy to get caught up in the fantasy (and myth) of the New York City that Sex & the City sold us, but Carrie Bradshaw is not real and if she were she'd be crippled by debt. Get real about your personal finances and make a budget, especially when you're new to New York! We all know the city is expensive, but random impulse purchases like an uber surge ride here, spontaneous almond-milk latte there, or late night Seamless delivery, can add up to a serious chunk of cash and set you back. Apps like Mint can help you keep track of your budget while you're on the go.

    4. One of New York City's best assets is the access to so many incredible cultural institutions! I really try to take advantage of all the museums, galleries and concerts in the park that the city offers and that most locals will admit they wish they made more time for. Trading in a night out partying (and the subsequent hangover) for a morning stroll along Central Park with some museum hopping is usually really, really worth it (unless you hate art, then you do you, boo). Plenty of museums offer free admission on certain days and events like the Brooklyn Museum's first Saturdays are a great way to meet people and get a group together. I love being a tourist in my own town.

    5. Finally, even though New York is huge and bustling and fast-paced, it can also feel like a really small town. Be nice to people, invest in genuine bonds and relationships and build up your good karma. New York draws in some of the most talented, brilliant, weird, creative minds in the world and, if you're lucky, those people will be part of your closest circles. My favorite thing about New York, of all the amazing things the city has to offer, are my friends and colleagues.

    Nicolette is a freelance fashion writer and blogger living in Williamsburg, Brooklyn. She moved to New York from Los Angeles 13 years ago.
  • Bill Schultz

    At 44 years old, I've seen New York change drastically in my lifetime. As a teenager in the '80s, I was enamored by the grittiness of the downtown music scene and would spend most weekends going to shows and just hanging out.

    In the '90s, Giuliani's police state made it safer here, but at the expense of the culture. I think the Disneyfication of New York has made it less attractive to the best and brightest. It's too expensive to start out here and other cities have become a more desirable destination.

    Los Angeles is spawning an amazing food scene because it's much easier for a young chef to live there on a minimum wage salary. Portland, Asheville, Detroit and Charleston are much more attractive destinations for young people today.

    In 2016, with the internet, it's hard to say that there are things that you can't buy or do anywhere but New York. I love living around the corner from Russ & Daughters and Katz's Deli, but I don't know if that's enough anymore. The subway is more crowded than ever and my 25-minute commute to work gets more painful every year.

    My advice for someone that is just coming out of college? If you don't expect financial hardship then, great, have a blast. If you want to be a hedge fund manager, you probably need to work here. If you want to be an artist, photographer, writer or fashion designer, there are better options in 2016.

    Bill is a Senior Photo Retoucher at SpotCo and creates art for Broadway shows. He moved to New York 19 years ago.
  • Elle Strauss

    I have just one: invest in winter wear (for the Antarctic)!

    I moved to New York in February 2007 and it was, in a word, COLD. Nothing had prepared me for the extreme conditions of a Manhattan winter, especially compared to the un-extreme (and very predictable) dampness of London. I'd read in British Vogue that Sorel boots were New Yorkers footwear of choice and had sensibly purchased a pair in advance, thinking winter was sorted. I couldn't have been more wrong — but at least my feet weren't cold.

    I think that year was one of the worst winters on record (I feel like 'they' say this every year) and stepping outdoors felt like taking a punch. Observing my new neighbors (our first apartment was a matchbox in Soho), I realized that people had thrown style to the wind (literally) and were all wrapped up in common sense clothing. So, although it was against every stylish bone in my body, I purchased a boys' Canada Goose parka (I'm 5' 1") a la David Attenborough in Antarctica. Ye,s it was a duvet masquerading as a jacket, but, for the first time in my life, practicality trumped style.

    And I felt like a true New Yorker.

    Elle is Fashion Director of Brides, Condé Nast. She moved to New York with her then boyfriend, now husband, photographer James Dimmock, almost 10 years ago. They now live in Brooklyn with their two little girls, Honor (6) and Imogen (7 months).
  • Kelli Bartlett

    1. Just say YES! Say yes to invitations even when you are exhausted, don't know anyone or assume you aren't dressed appropriately. You will be invigorated by the city, inspired by the people you meet and compelled to make memories. I have never once regretted saying yes to last-minute plans and have created many of my favorite New York moments as a result.

    2. Find YOUR New York. Your neighborhood, the characters in your story. Get lost. Ask for directions. Stay away from big national chain restaurants and coffee shops in the hopes of finding those neighborhood gems and spots with totally unique flavor and character. Avoid Times Square unless you are taking in the theatre. It's a recipe for a tourist-overloaded panic attack.

    3. When figuring out your New York, befriend your local bartender! They have the keys to the city and enough stories to keep you delighted for days.

    4. Create your New York family. Being far from home, you will need those people in your life who you can rely on when times get tough. This is the most difficult task, but the most rewarding.

    Kelli Bartlett is the Director of Makeup Artistry at GLAMSQUAD. She moved to New York 10 years ago, loves sequins and is a whisperer to lashes.
Haley Nahman | June 30, 2016

Don’t sleep on the city that never does.

Looking for more advice? These women can help you get your shit together and this guy will help you get your love life in order.

“Moving to New York.”

The words somehow look right sitting next to each other, don’t they? They roll off the tongue and, together, feel almost as iconic as the latter two words on their own. Okay, barely. But there are a lot of us doing it! And we’ve been spending a lot of our time navigating subway stations very poorly. So I asked 10 people who in some way embody New York — you know, New Yorkers — to impart their wisdom.

They say you have to live in New York for 10 years before you can really call yourself a New Yorker. That puts our cutoff at 2006, which means these people danced to “Money Maker” by Ludacris in a New York club and saw ads on the subway for the Microsoft Zune. And they all made the move themselves and remember what it’s like to be new in New York, to wander these streets with eyes as wide and dazzled as they are confused. And so we asked them: what advice do you have for those of us in the thick of it?

The result is above, and there’s more New York romance nestled into this slideshow than a Woody Allen movie. Whether you’re old here, new here or want to be here, I have a feeling you’re going to like this one.

Illustrations by Laura Supnik, follow her on Instagram @laurasupnik.

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  • Cay

    If a subway pulls into the station and one car is completely empty, do not go in. Just. Do not. It is empty for a reason.

    Also, New Yorkers are actually some of the nicest people, we just have a bad rep because you have to be a little protective of yourself to live here. So don’t be intimidated.

    • Leandra Medine

      Can you elaborate on this advice!? those are my favorite cars and they’re usually at the front of the train because people are too lazy to walk all the way to the end of the platofmr, which IIII am not!

      • Because they REAK! I’ve seen the same stinky man sleep on the train a few times.

      • I’m with Cay! I’ve noticed most of the empty ones lately all have a broken A/C, and then you’re stuck hopping cars or sweating until your stop.

      • Cay

        Oh, no, you have it right with staying towards the front/back of the train to get the least crowded cars.

        But if it’s a rush hour train and one car is COMPLETELY EMPTY while the others are packed, it’s definitely because someone threw up in it/smells bad/various other terrible things.

      • Nichole

        those cars are usually the ones that 1. have an air conditioning problem and its 500 degrees inside, 2. have a malodorous homeless person in there, or 3. have something really foul or disgusting going on. usually when i’ve went into the empty car, it was because the AC was broken which i prefer, but I have been in a few with a funky smelling person who clears out the car…

    • Jolie

      Accurate. I always give this advice but sometimes get cocky and go into that empty car anyway. Almost 90% of the times I’ve done that, HUMAN SHIT has been the reason for its emptiness. I mean actual poop.

  • This was great! As an aspiring writer in the fashion world, I feel like I HAVE to move to NY, but I’ve been scared. Growing up in the Poconos in PA, NY seemed too close at times and too far away others.

    Dark alleys and catcalling can be a big deterrent. Is it really like that?

    • I lived in the Poconos for four years (Cresco, I attended Pocono Mountain East) and that was enough for me to run as fast as I could to NYC. Yes, there is cat calling, but I never had a serious issue in 9 years. In my personal experience, I felt far more unsafe in the Poconos than NYC. In PA I’ve had men follow me in their cars while walking home from my activity bus stop and I knew no one would hear me scream.

      • Emma

        I agree with Adrianna–there is catcalling everywhere, unfortunately, but when I was in the city, it wasn’t nearly as bad as it was in my college town. I totally understand where you’re coming from, but as long as you have some common sense street smarts (i.e. don’t walk around alone at 2 a.m. in a not so nice part of town), you’ll do great!

      • Small world! I was at Eastburg South!

        That is a really good way of looking at it. I guess I just have to pull up my big girl pants, purchase some mace and do it!

        • Ah, my mother and I used to go to East Stroudsburg to attend Polish mass at St Lukes every week.

          I moved to NYC to attend NYU, and I have no clue how I’d move here otherwise. I wish I had moved here with previous waitressing/barista experience. That is the cliche job for when you’re unemployed and pursing creative endeavors, but not super easy to acquire. I worked retail all through college and even Whole Foods turned me town three years ago.

          And there is nothing wrong with moving to NYC, concluding that it’s not for you, and leaving. NYC is great, but there are negatives.

    • Cay

      New York actually doesn’t really have alleys, dark or otherwise. It’s like the #1 thing that people who live in other cities like Chicago comment about, because we put our trash on the street side (hence the bad smells people comment on during the summer). There’s definitely catcalling sometimes, but that happens in regular towns or small cities too.

      NYC has been cleaned up a lot in the past two decades (some, myself included, would say that it has bee sanitized a little too much, at the expense of the arts and culture). As long as you have common sense, you will be fine.

    • The Fluffy Owl

      I’ve grown up here, I was cat called once while walking around the city, it’s really not that bad, no dark alleys either and don’t be afraid to ask anyone for help or directions, we’ll get you to where you need to go! Best advice is to just keep up with the pace when your walking or crossing the street, and keep your head up and not down on your phone!

    • Jolie

      There are no alleys here, actually. But catcalling and empty streets are real, unfortunately. It happens, but it’s not as scary as it used to be!

    • Alex

      I know this is a delayed response to this comment but I feel so shocked, I can’t not say something. I am an aspiring writer as well and am so timid to take the leap up in NY as my resources are limited and I am supporting a family.
      My mother grew up in the Poconos and I find that 98% of people I talk to have zero idea of what that even means. I usually just get a response of, “Oh! I’m from Pittsburgh.” or something of the sort. My mother grew up in a quaint little village in Shawnee on the Delaware. She attended Notre Dame. Beautiful community. Amazing people. River Road. There’s no place in the world like it there. I miss it dearly.

      Wishing you the best of luck in your endeavors. 🙂

  • Sarah Hassan

    All the advice from this wonderful cast of New York characters is spot-on. I recently moved from New York – home sweet home! – to Atlanta and while I do love my new life south of the Mason Dixon, there truly is no place like the city that never sleeps. I think New York is such an incredible place to live at least once because you truly figure out both sides of what you ‘don’t want’ while you are there and what will remain forever and important to you. It also pushes you like no place else. Thank goodness I’m only a 90 minute plane ride away! And thank you, MR. <3

  • Aydan

    oh gosh the advice about keeping a journal and pasting things into it is an incredible idea! I did this but separately when I moved to London. I wrote in a journal but kept a bunch of these random bits of paper from concerts, movies, theatre, etc. etc. and ended up making some beautiful collages that I framed and now have hanging up in my apartment!

  • ETA 5 weeks, thanks guys.

    But also I lol’d @ ‘be prepared for the cold,’ I’m coming partially because it is quite a bit milder and winter is shorter than gd Canada

    • Jolie

      That’s awesome that you’re moving here! Yes, the winters are definitely milder than Canada, BUT the difference here is that you really feel the winter. My bf moved here after living in a much colder (close to Canada!) climate and has said that NYC winters are the worst he’s ever experienced. It’s because here, you have to walk everywhere, whether it’s 3 blocks to the subway or a mile to a restaurant. You’re just always exposed and it sucks. Definitely take heed! Lol.

      • Also that wind chill is no joke. Sometimes you turn the corner and get BLASTED by a wall of fast moving freezing air that will promptly shrivel all your nether regions.

  • Rebecca

    I funnily disagree with the advice to always say yes to invites. The city can be super overwhelming and can really suck your energy (especially if you’re an introvert like me!). I think it’s wonderful to make plans but also to know your limits and take the time you need to sit alone in your apartment with some takeout, no FOMO needed.

  • The Fluffy Owl

    If you’re thinking of moving to NY, don’t unless you have a lucrative job. I’ve been living here my entire life, finally looking to move out of state, cost of living keeps going up and salaries stay the same. Unless of course you want to work 3 jobs to keep the tiny apartment you’re never home to use because you’re working to afford it or you’re living upstate and not in the city or Long Island. But maybe that’s just me…

  • Yana

    I recommend checking out Sari Botton’s collection of stories from writers living in (and sometimes leaving) New York: Goodbye To All That (inspired by that Joan Didion essay), and Never Can Say Goodbye.

    I’ve only visited New York a couple of times, but boy do these make one dream about moving there – not a lot of practical advice but really inspiring!

  • PCE

    I agree with 99% of the advice given (and was really bummed out by that Bill Schultz guy, what a Debbie downer!)… Except the advice about not getting a dog. OF
    COURSE, make sure you can afford a dog (affording a dog is NOT just food and toys, it’s vet costs too!). But to wait for an apartment with outdoor space is a ridiculous notion because most of us can’t afford that and frankly, it’s not necessary with all the beautiful parks and neighborhoods in this city! Stupid advice like this just scares off people who would otherwise be gung-ho about adopting a dog who desperately needs a home. I adopted my Alfie three years ago and it’s the best decision I made since moving here, and no, I don’t have an “outdoor space” with my apt. I take him to the park down the street and the dog runs in my neighborhood and elsewhere, and he’s a perfectly happy and healthy little guy (who would otherwise be in a shelter or – heaven forbid – euthanized by now if I took this person’s advice).

    AND also, if you can’t afford a car, it doesn’t mean you can’t afford a dog. Maybe you can’t afford a purebred showdog champion, but you can rescue a dog for a few hundred dollars donated to a shelter. What a snob!

    • Verena von Pfetten

      Hi PCE! I totally hear you and just wanted to clarify a couple things! I didn’t mean you shouldn’t get a dog until you *had* those things, just that you could theoretically afford them. Because owning a dog is an investment–vet bills, a dog walker, boarding if you travel. And it’s not about paying a breeder either. One of my dogs is a puppy mill rescue so I am vehemently pro adoption and anti breeder. But as dogs get old, their vet bills get higher, so I just think it’s important that people consider the unexpected costs. Thanks for reading and thank you for the feedback! I’d hate for my advice to be misconstrued.

      • PCE

        Thanks for clarifying! I still disagree about equating being able to afford an apartment with outdoor space to owning a dog, mostly because the cost of apartments with outdoor space in this city are outrageous and not in line with the cost of a dog, especially when things like pet insurance (which I highly recommend, esp for rescues where you have no idea what their medical background really is) can make unexpected vet bills a lot easier to handle. I definitely do agree with you that there are lots of unexpected costs that come with owning a dog that a lot of people don’t realize at first, and each person should really examine his or her budget to make sure that they can afford to handle any major doggy expense that comes along…I just think it’s a matter for each person to figure out on their own. I’ll likely not be able to afford an apartment with an outdoor space or buy a new car for another few years at least (oh hey student loan debt, nice to see you again), but those are also things I forego so I can have my dog and other things and still save a little money.

      • I second your advice. My boyfriend got his first dog when he was 20 thinking he’ll always have friends to take care of his dog when he needed – but those friends got married and moved away. He also didn’t know any better – young people wanted a puppy to baby, and he spent a lot of money in a pet store. He was too young to understand how to train his dog properly, and there are a lot of issues seven years later.

        Boarding in NYC is incredibly expensive, the hours are shorter than you think, and some places are selective. We once realized we needed a boarder last minute, but they wouldn’t take new dogs without a supervised trial. Most people don’t realize just how much you need to walk a dog (even on a Friday night. Every Friday night.) This gets complicated when you work in Manhattan but live in Brooklyn.

        More importantly, we don’t anticipate how many hours we’ll have to work at some point in our careers. My boyfriend worked up to 7 days a week for start ups for two years. His solution was to bring his dog with him to work. His dog developed serious behavioral and abandonment issues when he got a new job. Now my boyfriend has to spend a lot of money on boarding because his dog can’t handle being alone during the work day.

        In other words, don’t get a dog before age 25 or even older. You might think you know what you’re doing, but you don’t.

  • Jolie

    I really loved this article and the advice given. I laughed so hard @ sleeping in for 20 extra minutes because you’ll get to work at the same time anyway — so true. Also, like a few people stressed, be nice to everyone because you really never know who they might be.

    Although all these contributors are undoubtedly New Yorkers, I would’ve liked if you guys had included advice from some native New Yorkers (like Leandra!) as well, because I think their perspective is worth reading.

    • Leandra Medine

      I feel like…my advice might not be constructive or relatable by simple virtue of the fact that I have nothing to compare it to. I can give advice on living here, but wouldn’t be able to expound upon how it’s different from another place and I don’t actually believe that my emotional relationship with that element of Sinatrian “if I can make it here, I can make it anywhere” is as profound as a transplant’s. That said, I’m happy to divulge anything if you have any questions

  • Perfect insight for those of us who dream of living in New York one day!

  • Zoe Penina Baker

    You’ve got no lifelong New Yorkers here! Leandra- you were born n raised here, no? Very surprised and honestly disappointed by the lack of diversity and really real New Yorker’s opinions in this piece.

    • Leandra Medine

      We explicitly only got advice from New Yorkers who are not from here, but have been here at least ten years! That’s the most authentic wisdom to give to someone who, in a similar position, is coming from someone else, but plans to become one of THEM (us?)

  • kellymcd

    “Talk to strangers. The person standing next to you might be a world famous artist, an eighties rock goddess or your next boss. (All three have happened to me.)”

    I NEED MORE DEETS ON THIS KEVIN

  • 6 year New Yorker here, about to move to London in two months time! Any chance we could get a similar guide set up for UK? I plan on blogging (more for myself, really) my experience as a transplant, but would love to get the dish as all of the advice above had me nodding in agreement (still wish I had gotten a dog – I know all the names of the pups in my building, their owners not so much as my brain gets sensory overload around doggies). This city certainly makes you more gritty – encounters with perverts, rude drunk people, bad neighbors – but overall the positives outweigh the negatives. also, don’t live in budget denial. that credit card debt WILL catch up with you if you’re not careful!

  • MW

    Gabby’s was the most useless (how long have you even lived here, seriously…?); Bill’s was the most pointlessly negative (hey, here’s an idea — leave and make room for someone who belongs here!); and Cannon’s was the best and most true.

  • Jill

    Loved this. Will likely never live in NY for various reasons but ahhh, NYC, what a dream!

    — Destined for DC

  • Kathleen

    I can relate to the tip on being prepared for winter in the city. In my case, I recommend you buy the bulky puffer coat that covers your butt. Not only will it keep you warm, but you’ll bounce down the subway steps after slipping on slush instead of actually hurting yourself. True story.

  • Svenja

    ‘Venturing forth without your phone is the closest you will come to time travel.’

    -Fantastic concept, will try!

  • Marty Funkhouser

    Move to LA.

  • lola-pacifica

    Could you do one of these for SF? So many new folks moving/living here and not fully prepped for what to expect. It is so much tougher in some ways than people think.