So Your Going Out Clothes Are Basic. Now What?

Amelia Diamond | January 29, 2016

Or is it, so what?

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A black bodysuit. Black suede thigh highs over dark high waist jeans. Big earrings, big hair, red lips. This is what I showed up to dinner in while feeling…a little wild. Sexy. Cool!

And there sat five of my closest friends in similar versions of my own look, practically matched from head-to-toe.

They say that fingerprints exist either to enhance our grip or boost our sense of touch — scientists still aren’t 100% sure, but what we do know fingerprints to be useful for is identifying individuals.

That identification point is important. We’re all on an endless quest to differentiate ourselves, whether it be at work or at school or from a sibling. And we do this in a variety of ways: studying hard, being a trouble maker, making our talents known. The most obvious and immediate channel, of course, is to do it with what we wear.

During my adolescent punk phase when Abercrombie had just become a thing, I’d feel a sense of pride when I was the only one present in a band tee pierced with safety pins. Paradoxically, there was great relief when I found myself surrounded by others who shared my taste in ripped plaid and Manic Panic.

We all want to stand out. Be individuals. But sometimes there’s very real comfort to blending in.

This is easy to forget when you work in or follow fashion. Because everyone is so entrenched in trends and getting sick of the same things around the same time, there’s a similar look that nearly everyone adopts that changes from season to season. Each person has their standout pieces, yes, but when you’re in the thick of it you can spot the uniform. In fact, whether you realize it or not, you’re probably wearing the uniform right now. And yet because fashion feels like a tiny community of people who express themselves through clothes, leaving your community — whether it be to commute, go grocery shopping, visit your hometown or attend the party of a friend whose group has no clue (or care) as to who Alessandro Michele is, you get to stand out again. You look a little weird or off in that satisfying way.

For me, a relatively quiet dresser, this feeling is most prominent during fashion week. I look forward to meeting non-industry friends after a show and getting to be the one in the remarkable shoes. But once the 7 whirlwind days are over and I’ve immersed back into the regular world, I begin to find myself blending again. Back to basic. Back to regular. Back to normal.

On the night I first mentioned where I showed up to a table of accidental twins, I spent the first portion of the evening wondering to myself what else I could have worn, or changed, to make my outfit different. A billion things, I suppose. If you push through the racks of collared shirts and crew necks in my closet, I’ve got a few show-stoppers. A trophy jacket. A novel knit. Some decent shoes.

But once I finally relaxed into the night I decided it didn’t matter. When you’re laughing at dumb jokes with good friends, what really is there to prove? My fingerprints are different from theirs. And it was a Friday — I considered it a victory I got dressed at all.

Photographed by Nicole Bentley for Vogue Australia; collaged by Emily Zirimis.

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  • ReadER451

    “A black bodysuit. Black suede thigh highs over dark high waist jeans. Big earrings, big hair, red lips.” SAMESIES. So what, indeed.

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  • l:ly

    my standard look is all black tho 🙁 (night and day)

  • We are not doing the earrings and big hair so much but the black clothing with red lipstick made me move to pink lipstick. Thats all the adjustment I can make.

    http://www.fashionandfrappes.com

  • Megan Eckert

    well said! I always remind myself that I rarely pay attention to other peoples outfits when I’m out, so chances are people could care less about mine.

  • alex

    this this this. i literally make it a point to stand out from my friends and people around me. if were going to a shitty dive bar ill wear a tight skirt and matching floor length cape with slick hair and big earrings or if im going to a “shiny” club ill wear a pair of jeans with a vintage fringe jacket and dr. martens. i always look over dressed or undressed but i always stand out and look like IDGAF in a chic way.

  • BK

    But I hate all my friends’ clothes

  • pterridactyl

    My girl gang all have such different tastes that it would be fucking weird if we all turned up in similar outfits! I am definitely the one who is more adventurous and fashion forward and regrettably there have been times it’s bitten me in the ass… I envy my gals for knowing exactly what they like and what works for them and sticking to it/never looking bad!

  • Leah

    I find it preferable to stand out only to those who appreciate that you dress differently, even when it’s not immediately noticeable. Those who know your trainers are A.P.C x Nike, that your grey marl sweater is Acne, that your coat is Burberry, or your t shirt is Comme Des Garcons. I don’t like to attract attention from EVERYONE with what I wear, just those in the know.

    • Sandra Brady

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  • Selina Moses

    While I am more likely to wear black in the evening compared to the day where I love colours, I can’t be bothered with basic black things. If it’s black, it needs some gold or silver embroidery/sequins/beads/lace/sheer/decoration or some texture. I never can just wear pain black