Welcome to Monocycle, Our Newest Podcast!

Leandra Medine | November 16, 2015

My guess is that when Charles Dickens wrote a “Tale of Two Cities,” it was not a Friday afternoon. If it had been, that opening lyric would have read, “it was the best of times, it was the best of times.” Because, you know, Friday afternoons are great. They signal the end of the week, the beginning of the weekend, they maintain the word “fri” in them and everyone knows you can’t spell French without Fri(es). Now, with the launch of our second podcast, I am humbly hoping, they will get even better. That is either a profoundly narcissistic thing to say given the nature of the show (it’s a ten minute monologue delivered by me, which I hope makes you feel like we’re talking on the phone and you actually care about what I have to say) or precisely on point (because of its narcissism!) because I only talk about me to get to you and I swear that’s true.

Monocycle will cover a range of topics that include feelings, feelings, what it’s like to feel feelings and why I feel like without your providing insight, this thing will never be what it could be. So do me a solid, take a listen, make me feel like you truly are the best friend I have made you out to be, and tell me what you want to hear. I sort of feel like we’re just about to round third base.

Homerun incoming,

Leandra

Intro song: “The Show Must Be Go” by Kevin MacLeod, licensed under Creative Commons by Attribution 3.0 LicenseLogo illustration by Kelly Shami.

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  • beaker

    Can’t find it on podkicker? 🙁

  • Catalina

    LM – This whole monologue was incredible. And reminded me of everything I learned & lived by in one of my college classes [shout out to Professor W. Heywood at Arizona State]. I’ve felt over time some of these teachings have fallen at the wayside for me. Tomorrow, I’ll begin my day an hour early and go for a lovely bike ride with some old school Missy Elliot jamz. Thanks for all your insight 🙂

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  • Bella Charlwood

    I love this! keep it up

  • Kiersley Talbot

    This is really interesting! I realized recently that I had gotten to a point where I was napping far too much. Like I had conditioned myself into thinking more sleep was a need that I couldn’t function without, when in fact it was just a desire. Then it hit me: was I taking naps as a way to escape from reality? Like had I gotten to a point of unhappiness to where I even ran out of reasons to stay awake? And I hadn’t even considered myself to be not happy. Anyway, if you find yourself using sleep as an escape, then check yo self! There’s a world out there to live and time to enjoy.

  • Annali

    I loved it!you make me laugh and think and share!

  • Mia

    You are simply incredible <3
    It was everything I needed to hear, thank you for sharing!

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  • Kelly Belly

    I enjoyed this podcast so much. I’m a 25 year old aspiring fashion blogger and writer that hasn’t experienced burnout but I do deal with anxiety daily. That anxiety that hits you out of nowhere and at times for no real reason, and I love that you talked about how you’re celebrating more because I find myself making a conscious decision to celebrate more, to celebrate even the very small things in my life and it helps so much when I am feeling anxious and inadequate. Please keep these coming!!:)

  • Natalie

    I loved it! In case of burn-out and anxieties a little bit narcissm isn´t the worst idea 😉 I am 25 and working fulltime while studying parttime, therefore the feeling of being overstrained and the fear of not making it (the next deadline, my normal workload during exams, the exams themselfs…) is like my daily companion. But I totally agree with your idea of “me-time”, I started going to the opra / the theater / a good movie (mostly independent hipster stuff) at least once a week. It really feels like a reward just for myself, sometimes it´s also nice to share a movie with a friend but the opera / theater thing is something i am doing just for me, me, me, me!!! No friends allowed! After that I feel like I can focus again and just being closer with who I am. Still I´m fighting with insomnia and probably meditation would be a way out of it…

  • Lola

    Thank you for talking like this. I feel inexplicably exhausted and feeling to many feelings about everything at the moment. I don’t know why the categories i used to be able to neatly fit everything into are kind of bleeding into each other. Where did it stop being about happiness? When did i start to prioritise staying an extra hour at work over going home and actually putting the work into my relationship? Actually, to top it all, when did i stop caring that i don’t enjoy my job, i need to stop accepting that. Does the happiness lie in taking back agency- so when you actively get up and do your thing before work, or you read the articles you want to read. So you start bending life around the things that matter to you, rather than pushing them in around the edges that life stuff leaves free. I don’t know, but i do think talking about it is a good start! So thank you!

  • Raquel

    Leandra, it is so great to hear your thinking! I think you are more and more being aware of yourself, which is a path to maturity. I believe we can choose to be happy, just be it, like your brother says, in spite of everything that’s happening in the world, happiness must be inherent to us.

  • Lou

    This was great. Would love to know more about your career coach as well, how does one find one, what’s it like, etc? It sounds like that would be a good practical (like meditation) help to keep sane.

  • Ciara

    Hey Leandra! I just wanted to leave a comment to declare my love for this podcast, and also for Man Repeller in general. I absolutely love the site/instagram/snapchat. I’m 22, going through that weird post-college slump/transition into proper adult-hood, and living in London. I just recently graduated college and now I’m working in a corporate law firm (ZzzzZ), and I feel like fashion is my little microphone for self-expression (no one in my office wears anything other than black. It’s like I’m going to a funeral every day). I visit Man Repeller for daily inspiration, and it doesn’t disappoint. I also read your book recently and I loved it – it was so funny and honest! So yeah, in true fan girl fashion, I just wanted to let you know that your style, humour, and candidness are really inspiring for me and I look forward to the next pod cast!

  • Morgan

    I appreciate you being brave enough to talk about your life and your feelings. There were so many great points you spoke to; I especially liked the idea that negative thoughts are so easy to let in but so difficult to let out. I may not be experiencing burnout but I am at a point in my life, transitioning from college to the next step, and I continually feel alone. I am learning to do things that I love, and not feel bad for doing them; so I loved your idea of taking time to do this in the morning and then move on to a day doing the things you need to get done in regards to work.

    I am so happy I found your website : )
    Thank you Leandra

  • This has come at just the right time, thank yooooooou xxxx

  • bekah

    for some reason it made me weirdly happy to hear you call yourself my best friend. I’ve been reading an loving man repeller for a while but these podcasts bring another level that’s fantastic. I’ve been loving jay’s podcasts but leandra, hearing you speak like this is so incredible and made me appreciate you/you guys as man repeller so much more.

  • Megan

    Loved this, thanks Leandra! Really looking forward to this series. Great format – really feels like the progression of a conversation, and nice that it was both the exploration of a topic on a personal and professional level, and solution-oriented.

  • Selin

    Hello Leandra, I am working in the fashion press business and really curious about what you do when you feel like no inspiraiton to write or the prepare a post… And how do you overcome of this feeling? Anddd really what inspires you? Thank in advance.

  • Therese Lindberg

    You are amazing and I want to be your best friend.

  • Aydan

    Having Leandra speaking to me through my computer gives me all of the afternoon feels.

  • Katie

    Would love to hear you (and MR team) talk about this- https://medium.com/matter/on-gawker-s-problem-with-women-f1197d8c1a4e
    and what it’s like to work at a “women’s publication” and whether or not these problems persist and whether or not you think your experience would be different if you worked in a non-women-centric environment.

  • Fernanda

    I really enjoyed this monologue! I loved how you talked about anxiety and the quote from DVF. Its so true that you have these voice in your head disguised as the normal one that keeps putting you doubts. It gets hard to notice which is which. I’m always preoccupied about the future and what will come that i forget what i want and the things that make me happy.

  • Lucy Korn

    Best.

  • Helene

    I really enjoyed listening to this. Great monologue. It was so relatable for me and I really admire your ability to put all this into the right words. I know it can be so hard but at the same time so freeing to talk about these kinds of things with other people. Your honesty (in this podcast but also in your post about trying to become pregnant) has really moved me. It also helped me to remind myself that it’s not only me trying to figure life out!
    Very much looking forward to the next episode. 🙂

  • Danijela

    Thank You for this , Leandra ,cause I am 25 and I am feeling this more than ever 🙂

  • Katie

    Leandra, you made me cry on public transport.
    I had my first (and hopefully last) burn out when I was 19 and after two really positive positive years I can feel myself slipping again now.
    What you said really put into words what I could not make sense of in my head.
    I needed to hear this so bad.

  • Kari

    Leandra, thank you for giving us another reason to love you. This is beautiful!

  • This is so cool, Leandra! I love hearing you speak. And I also love that you’re meditating, stopping, and thinking about slowing down and being mindful with your time. I wanted to comment on your post about taking time away from your phone, and now I can’t find it.

    I, too, am trying to pull back a little. I realized recently that you could spend 24-7 on social media and have nothing to show for it (other than ennui, FOMO, and and a severe case of I-Wish-I-Had-What-She-Has). It has made me really pull back and refocus myself. I want to focus on things that really matter and that make me feel good.

    I’m taking my time back. And I feel so much better.

    Please keep up the podcasts!
    xx,
    Ali

  • Ashton

    love it, more please

  • Looking forward to hear you!!!

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  • Farrah Mohamed

    Leandra (feels really weird calling you that cause it’s my first time commenting but anyways…)

    I loved the podcast! It’s exactly what I needed, someone to talk about how it really feels. I feel like sometimes people think these feelings are “wrong” or omg millennials, they have everything and still complain. Or someone might say you’re being ungrateful, you’re so successful why are you complaining? But no, we’re all feeling this way so something’s definitely wrong. This episode really spoke to me and I can’t wait to listen to the next one. Thank you so much for this. I’m like you’re biggest fan lol ( but it DOES feel like we’re best friends)

  • Melissa

    I think I may have been too young to call what I experienced “burnout.” I’ll tell you anyway. When I was in my last year of grade school I had to take an exam to get into a selective high school which is like a high achievers high school system in Sydney. After months of preparation, doing practice exams, writing essays and creative passages, doing pages and pages of math drills, every day for a year, on the morning of the exam I was fucking stressed. I was pretty sure my parents would have disowned me if I didn’t score high enough, being the only child of immigrants who slaved away for years to pay for my education and all. I was 11 and I was sitting at my lonely exam table and I cried. Maybe the markers saw my tear stained exam paper and felt sorry for me and gave me a high score but nonetheless I passed with flying colours. I knew I was prepared I was just… idk burnt out I guess. Anyway, I did end up attending a selective high school and there everyone was so fucking competitive. I mean we were 12. And I just remember thinking I never want to feel like that again so I didn’t. I mean of course I did, I’m 20 now and that exam was nothing compared to university. But I’ve learnt from that experience and while I am under 100x more pressure now than I was back then, I’m a different person. I take each day and each obstacle as it comes and it’s not so bad. I’m stressed but not burnt out I guess. I think maybe we live in an environment that perpetuates the idea that if you’re not stressed, you’re not working hard enough or doing enough or you are just not enough. Fuck that.

  • J

    It sounds like she is reading from a paper

  • Stealthily listening to manrepeller at work > getting caught reading manrepeller at work

  • Leah Davis

    I love this- I’m so looking forward to all of the upcoming Fridays!! I can totally relate to not being able to be in the moment and just be happy for what you have. I was a lawyer working in New York and all I wanted to do was to meet someone – I was miserable at my job. I met someone, now I’m married, living in Atlanta, GA and I don’t want to be a lawyer at all and I just feel kind of lost career wise. So, now the situation is flipped – happy in love life but feeling like a wandering soul when it comes to career. However, I want to just stop and appreciate where I am in life at this moment – healthy, found someone to spend the rest of my life with, enjoying my friends and family. Gah – why is it so hard to just appreciate what we have instead of thinking about what we don’t have?? Thank you for the words of wisdom.

    xo from Hotlanta

  • basiliad

    Thank you for sharing your insights. This is exactly what I needed while going through my own ‘burnout’. Looking forward to waking up tomorrow morning just to do something I love. Thanks again, 10/10 quality post!

  • Britt Belo

    Wow. Why have I not listened to this sooner. I set this podcast aside to listen to at a specific time in the day where I knew I’d really be able to absorb whatever it was that you would talk about that was 2 weeks ago… Finally getting around to listening excited me so much and BOY was I just threw for a whirl wind! I’m currently a sophomore fashion design major at Syracuse University and I am also on the track team here. This year I decided to join all the clubs and magazines on campus that I wanted to be in. I thought that in doing so I would be so happy and experience all these wonderful things and meet so many new, awesome, and creative people; HOWEVER, the complete opposite happened. While I did get to meet people and do cool things, I just felt like I was drowning. Like I couldn’t breathe and like I was being pulled in every direction. I didn’t feel like myself at all. I found myself breaking down daily and distancing myself from everyone and I didn’t want to do any of the work I thought that I loved so much. I originally thought that I was going through depression due, but now I can see that I just CRASHED AND BURNED. It’s crazy to see that someone as successful as you, experienced something so similar. After kind of separating myself from the world, in a healthy way, I was able to step back and see that I lost sight of the intentions behind what I was doing this year and being apart of… also with having such a strong faith, being in a college setting really began to take a toll on my relationship with God. Anyways I feel like I’m ranting. Sorry! I really just want to say that I completely relate, and I’m sure many of your other readers can as well. Sooo, thank you Leandra, this is awesome and I can’t wait to listen to the rest! xx

  • Taylor

    Leandra. You fucking rock. You put into words the feelings of my subconscious and things I couldn’t say myself. THANK YOU. I love you?

  • Julia Petron

    YAAAS, LEANDRA! ❤️ Kill it! I love hearing about more personal things from you. 😄 You have such a unique perspective and way of approaching life that I wish more people had. Thank you. 😊