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January 16, 2013

Should we really be dressing like men?

Following Monday’s post on the majesty of boyhood and the earlier culmination of Pitti Uomo, here is a Ton branded look at the anticipatory glory of the overture of manhood. The double breasts, the deep, rich color that effectively remains neutral, the safety pins abutting patriotic stripe work, the ties, the belts–maybe I’ve began attempting discernible male prepubescence because it’s a precursor to manliness? Maybe.

I read a comical thread of dialogue on an internet-fostered discussion board generated by a comment that asked, “why are so many women dressing like men? It’s so totally annoying and weird and like, why not just wear clothes made for you?” While many of the responses fell somewhere along the “it’s the 2010’s, Lady, you have got to be kidding” spectrum, a handful argued in favor of the hard-hitting question, sharing an, erm, interesting point of view. My particular favorite? “You’re right. Women should dress like women and wear make-up and take care of themselves and be fancy.”

Ah! Yes! I left my fancy at home, shoot. My femininity has been completely compromised.

The internet really is magical, you see, in that one minute you’re in 2013 and the next, you could find yourself deep in the trenches of early 1960’s Tehran. (See: my mother’s nascence.) In a most concentrated effort to shill profound benefit of the doubt, I will make an inference about this comment and say one thing. In this ambiguous 3rd Wave over, 4th not quite in tow but certainly permeating-wave of feminism, we are conditioned to function ironically. Blame Generation “i”, blame the Internet (that seems to be a particular favorite of mine), blame reading (or writing) and loving blogs and websites about female individuality that still place whole emphasis on The Man (see: Man Repeller), blame our utter appreciation for TV shows about awesome 20-something women who calibrate their existences based on the merits of their dalliances (see: Girls), and, maybe too, (this one may be wholly subjective) blame indulging in mens’ clothes to feel more powerful.

It doesn’t really give us power, does it?

I’ll be honest, I have no plan of reforming my new outfitting policy. I am committed to looking like a boy until, at least, next week (after all, if I could look like the above, a partisan of the Florence fostered spectacle that seemingly has the capital, italicized IT, too, why wouldn’t I?), but maybe the fancy-fiend on the discussion board is onto something beyond my personal scope of intelligence and qualification. Maybe, just maybe, she wants to say that as women, it’s our duty to dress like women in order to properly greet the next great phase of female evolution and conclusively attain the uncontested respect we want.

Or, maybe, you know, I’m reading too deep into this (and using a lot of commas to justify the confusion). Generally speaking, your opinion is far better than mine though, so please, tell me what you think. Tell me. Tell me now. And if you’re looking for me, I’ll be at Brooks Brothers.

  • http://twitter.com/looksharpWI Look Sharp Sconnie

    Don’t know what this means, and it’s too early to justify with commas that I do, but I know that I, personally, feel most powerful when I wear masculine clothing that is tailored to my feminine form (or drapes over more fitted layering pieces).

    (4 comma sentence)

  • Yates

    Let’s dress however we want. If that means fancy and feminine, so be it. If that means boyish or bro-like, go for it. I’ve got no problem with pop culture or female-individuality blogs (as you put it) continually placing emphasis on The Man and woman’s position in relation to him. Reality is that men are a part of life: fashion, relationships, etc. And the beauty of feminism (as I see it) is that we can choose wherever and however we want to place ourselves on the “feminine” spectrum, whether it be closer to or as far away from “masculine” or male-dependent as we can get. We’re all just people, and I wish we could stop passing judgment on each other for whatever choice we make, sartorially (and pretty much everything else) speaking.

  • Mariana

    what is undoubtedly powerful in the pictured garments and looks is how tailored and structured they are. How they give body to each of the men and women in them and how they embody their style. For me it is not a question of the gender of one given outfit/coat/ensemble, but a matter of how fine proportions and exquisite craftsmanship are attractive to anyone, as indeed, any form of art.

  • jurgita

    Maybe not we, but the men should start dressing like men – and drop all that too fancy s***t.

    http://www.afterout.com

  • mercergirl

    Style comes from how you sell it. No matter what you carry between your legs if you feel femme be femme and if you feel butch be butch. I personally love me some great man wear but I am the first to bust out the red lipstick and tie neck chiffon top and flowy skirt. Masculine or feminine meh…..blur the lines, they are shitty lines anyway.

    • http://nototherwise.com/ Jessica Brookman @ N*O

      they ARE shitty lines. love.

  • http://www.facebook.com/drew.martino Drew Martino

    I personally have a few men’s sweaters hanging in my closet and take the occasional hand me downs from my boyfriend. I don’t see any problem in mixing gender specific items. If i want to put my future little boy (whenever I decide to have kids) in skinny jeans I will. Its all about being able to pull it off and still make it look chic.

  • alcessa

    Haven’t put much thought into it, so far, funny. I am tall, I am … curvy and I like being a woman, I really do.

    Still, I have my beloved Hairkiller’s cut my hair short and have been known to wear “unisex” or men’s clothes a few times … Quite often, actually. It’s that my personality is not fussy, it works on the principle of “less is more” and decoration in the broadest sense of its meaning is nothing I’d like to stuff my life with (it would feel like that to me, it absolutely doesn’t mean I don’t like “real” girls. Women. I do. I just don’t function like that.) … Men get to wear more elegant lines, colors and in general more reliable clothes. Things that last longer than one season. Men get to wear serious colors (as a winter type (think Snow White only much older) I cannot wear pastels, I feel too big for quirky designs and/or girly looks and prefer single colors in general), they often get to wear well-tailored, straight things while I need to use my sawing machine to make things fit my feminine, non-standard size (like most of us) or go with a bad fit …

    And yes: men’s clothes mean more power. For me, because they are better made as a rule and because they don’t try too hard. They just are, mostly. No pleading, Look-at-me! decoration, just the essence. (that would be the main gist, I am quite aware that this is not always true)

    • alcessa

      And yes: I meant the sewing machine :-) *sigh*

  • Rachieeee

    Listen, I wear skirts, but only because Marc Jacobs and Kanye wear skirts.

    Signed,
    A woman (more than a woman?)

    • Melissa

      haha! agreed x

    • http://www.facebook.com/sonia.baines1 Sonia Baines

      And this is now a quote that i will be using … don’t worry I will give you full credit for this genius!

      • Rachieeee

        Only if you PROMISE Sonia

        (jk do what you gusta girl!)

  • Megan

    I am currently wondering whether I should take back the men’s coat that I bought for my boyfriend, which he doesn’t want because it’s too big, and purloin it for myself. Surely, if it’s too big for my man’s shoulders, it will look glorious draped over mine!

    • Megan

      Also, my wardrobe is 85% dresses. Not even skirts. Dresses.

  • Mona

    I am a techie woman and I spend a chunk of my new life dreaming of being a girlly girl but in college then at at work where all are men, even in the most manly outfit – pocket protector and all – I am still standing out. Once I cut my hair like a boy to force myself to wear red lipstick and be more girly. I ended not wearing lipstick and looking like a little boy. Finally I met my husband who finds me sexy in plaid shirts and Brooks Brothers non iron stiff shirts and I slowly let go of the fantasy of me in lace and frou frou and all the things I never got used to owning.

  • James Manche

    More than anything, I’m disappointed. I am disappointed by you entertaining a discussion that limits us to either dressing as men or women. You suggest that we only have two categories to choose from. What about Man Repelling? Wasn’t the idea to dress as we see fit? To dress as we desire despite condemnation from others? And yet, Leandra, by “subtly” showing disfavor with the “1960s” reader, you yourself have indulged in that which Man Repelling abhors – condemnation of others. You’ve criticized her desire to dress as she sees fit. You’re brighter and more open-minded that this post suggests. Loyal readers expect more.

    • Leandra Medine

      I’m confused–I appeased her point and suggested that she may have been getting at an idea that mandates women dress as women in order to achieve the power that we, (or I,) relentlessly want. Additionally, this blog (I hope) is about working through ideas that are sometimes still raw and undeveloped and asking for the aid of precisely my loyal readers to help me through them. I want the relationship to be of the give and take variety. I am never, ever, more right about anything that I put out than anyone else arguing or agreeing.

      • James Manche

        I apologize. I apologize for the excess steam. First and foremost, I think you are brilliant. Your blog is novel in a terribly saturated world of blogs. Your voice is unique and it certainly rises to the top. And I greatly appreciate your honesty, sincerity, and candor. Moreover, I laud your willing to create conversation – after all, is that not the beauty? What I meant to say is that I thought this blog celebrated individuality. I thought it celebrated the individual choices we make on a daily basis. Do I think that all women should dress like women and wear make up? Of course not. But I think that we need to be more open-minded in the way we choose to view the individual. If a female chooses to dress herself in pearls, a Zac Posen skirt and fur are we immediately to assume that she is a traditional woman who chooses to conform to a patriarchal society and that her dress is meant to seduce men and draw envy among women? Of course not. Sometimes, just sometimes, despite fading into the uniform mass, we retain our individuality. When that woman puts on her Zac Posen skirt, pearls, and fur perhaps she’s telling the world – just like you – that her outfit is a reflection of her own taste. She’s dressed not to please men. Not to please women. But to please herself. And that is what I ranted about. Whether women pull skirts or drop-crotch pants or baseball caps or pillbox hat – let’s celebrate her individuality. Let’s celebrate the democracy we live in where women and women are free to dress as they please. And Leandra, thank you. Thank you for taking the time to reply to your readers. Thank you for being courteous. And thank you for pushing the envelope. Carry on, because whether or not we disagree with you, we respect you. Journalism isn’t objective by remaining neutral. It’s objective by presenting both sides of every story (Amanpour).

        PS. I apologize for the royal WE.

        • Leandra Medine

          Frankly, I feel more lucky than anything to have such eloquent, intelligent readers. This is a meaningful comment.

    • Nora

      “I am disappointed by you entertaining a discussion that limits us to
      either dressing as men or women. You suggest that we only have two
      categories to choose from.”

      –> not “limited” to men/women-dressing i think, but the content of this blog post hosts a valid question to think about, there are men and women section in stores too! one could say why does one shop in the mens section if one’s a woman. you are not limited to either dress as men or women, but you are limited to either shop from the men’s collection or the women’s collection, to shop in men’s sizing or women’s sizing.

      i love how you provoke thought leandra, i am a big fan of the blog!

  • http://janmarcel.com/ Michiel

    I really love women wearing menswear, but it shouldn’t be about the power, but about someones style.

    http://www.janmarcel.com/

  • the (un?)social butterfly

    Women have the power to dress in any way they please — nothing is expected of us anymore. I don´t think there is boyish when it comes to girls; there is only girlish when it comes to boys. Androgynous can be as amazing as a thigh-split — neither invalidates the other. This is real power, and it´s with us — the ladies. Just go enjoy being yourselves.

    http://humanwomen.wordpress.com

  • http://twitter.com/ErinGlabby Erin Michelle

    I think it’s funny that these commenters think women should dress “fancy” because well, that’s what they’re supposed to do. There will always be some of that. That was the attitude about women in dresses until Katharine Hepburn rebelled against that one in the 1930s.

    I personally just think menswear on women conveys such an understated sexiness and that is why I love it. Way more so than sequins and leopard and tight things all piled into one outfit. I’m wearing a baggy sweater and beanie as we speak.

    -Erin-

    OneTwoSummer

    • Leandra Medine

      menswear on women conveys such an understated sexiness — YES

      • Weirdo

        AMEN

      • the (un?)social butterfly

        I think what conveys sexyness is the person, not the clothes. I think sequins and leopard and tight things can be really fucking sexy. Or not. Menswear on women can also not be sexy, nor understaded. Plus, understated is overrated.

        http://humanwomen.wordpress.com

      • Voza

        To me the unique subject here is about fashion crowd wearing men’s clothes at Pitty Uomo because it is a trend now. Remember that the same ladies have been wearing prints, colour blocks and dots or self confessed high hill’s women wearing flats. Women styled like men is so old and it had always looked sexy to show you have a man to provide elements to your style (ask Garance, she is always branding this). Expect your fellow bloggers/editors to wear dog’s clothes to get snapped by The Sartorialist if it starts to look fashionable. I must confess that even though I find you brilliant I was embarrassed and sad when you posted pictures of yourself looking like Emmanuelle Alt. I believe you can be a better repeller than that.

  • lavieenliz

    I love looking like a boy! I find it so cute! Also, my legs look anorexic in skirts and dresses so it’s hard for me to dress like a girl!

    check out my fashion blog!

    http://lavieenliz.com

  • monkeyshines

    amazing classy looks!

    Bises,
    monkeyshines
    http://monkeyshines-monkeyshines.blogspot.com/

  • Holly-Bella

    any sentence that starts with ‘women should…’ makes me want to punch the person that’s saying it. Any time a women puts on clothes she is ‘dressing like a woman’. I hope women (and men) continue to challenge and redefine what it is to be feminine, or masculine, even if just for the sake of seeing the looks on people’s faces…

    http://thepersephonecomplex.blogspot.co.uk/

  • Flashbanggiveaway

    This brings up an important conversation that applies to everything (not only how we dress), and that is how do men/women dress? Where have the lines been drawn historically and culturally, and how have we (thankfully) been rubbing them out over the last century?
    We enjoy watching Mad Men/Boardwalk Empire/Downton Abbey at least in part to look at the clothes and corresponding gender roles, but to fall into the trap that those roles no longer need to be questioned is a mistake. This issue drives at gender roles and sexuality perhaps seemingly only on the surface, but what we are allowed to wear, what is culturally permissible reflects what we are allowed to do: see marriage equality, equal pay for equal work, equality in relationships inside & outside the home, acceptance of variation from the historically forced norms of gender in children struggling to be who they are. We may not be able to rid ourselves of the terms “like a man” or “like a woman” but at least we can use them as tongue in cheek references to outfit segregation from the days when your life was predetermined by your color/sex/who you love. And for the record I think it’s important to distinguish between a disagreement based on taste (fanciness not being one) and judgement (women/men should not do something because it offends the natural order to which we all adhere) because not a single one of us, or a very powerful group should be so arrogant as to invest themselves with the power to determine a “nature” to which we all must adhere. Let’s all dress to be our best, fancy fucking transforming faux-drag casual, lazy, glamorous, packing mystery in our pants and brains in our heads.

  • Mary

    I sometimes wonder if we’ll look back on this period of time of menswear inspired fashion the same way we do on the serious shoulder pads of the eighties (linebacker style! power!). And then I just wear whatever the heck I feel most like myself in that day anyways.

  • http://www.facebook.com/SynderelaPage Synderela Story

    People need to learn to embrace whatever it is that they are. Period. No approval needed, from anyone. Style is personal, wear what makes you happy, what makes you the most comfortable in that One of a Kind skin you’re in (didn’t mean to sound like Dr. Seuss, really – although a great character never goes out of style) & regarding “power” “It’s like a lady, if you have to say you are, you aren’t” M Thatcher

  • moldub

    women were made to wear suits, exhibit a: hillary clinton. maybe men have just been dressing like women all along?

  • fashion defensive midfield

    idk, maybe its cause sometimes (and i mean only sometimes) its easier to wear boyfriend jeans and an oversize coat rather than wearing a super tight skinny, heels or a skirt (and therefore waxing -god forbid-)

    why is man clothing so comfy? whyyyyyy?

    http://thefashiondefensivemidfield.blogspot.com.ar/2013/01/galan-de-cancha-el-estilo-de-los-90-en.html

  • Prettyinthrift

    Power to women who don’t feel like they need to look like women to be women, know what I mean?? #chopyourhairalready

  • Pauline

    Men clothing is a passion to me. I’m small and fat so it doesn’t always look good, but I’m not going to stop. I am one of your little man repeller, I keep hoping a man will accept me for who I am. A tiny person in weird men clothes.

  • http://twitter.com/contentnet contentnet

    Boyfriend jeans do not make a woman manly, nor powerful, imho. They do maker her dressed for whatever, though. Here is to unisex – and more pockets, please.

    • http://twitter.com/typicalhousecat Typical House Cat

      Pockets, yes please!

  • Didi R.

    Trying to control what women (or men) are supposed to wear is similar to telling an artist to paint with only certain colors. It is just too limiting! I agree with enjoying the variety of clothing out there and not worrying about what everyone else thinks is “feminine”. That mindset is terribly dystopian!

    So, girls where whatever you want. The canvas is yours.

  • Brooklyn moon

    I think it’s important to be comfortable in what you have on regardless of what it is or what it says (to others). Sometimes I don’t know what I want to wear until I put it on. Clothing has to speak to you on MANY levels. As for man-ish versus girly? It’s all relative. I happen to love dresses, purses, and shoes, BUT it takes me 10 minutes to get ready, I always have shorts on under, and I could care less about make-up. Secret boy on the inside? Girly girl outside? Whatevs.

  • Rachel

    It is ironic that women are saying, we must dress like a “traditional” woman to move forward in female evolution, because men are the ones who originally told us that we had to dress the way we dress. By continuing to dress the way we were told, so long ago, we are not progressing in female evolution, quite the contrary actually. We are regressing by not taking a stand against the stereo-types men have put upon us.

  • http://twitter.com/CassandraMLopez Cassandra Lopez

    I once wrote a post about finding the perfect jacket in the men’s section of a department store, only to come to the realization that it fit me better than any women’s jacket ever has. Ever since then, I make it a priority to scope what the boys have to offer. Sometime’s they have better options. We can share, can’t we?

    http://www.thegrannytreatment.com/2012/11/mixed-signals-ladies-in-mens-section.html

    http://www.thegrannytreatment.com

  • Ewa

    In a world where women and men are equal, this is one thing that women can… and men don’t. It doesn’t gives us power. It shows that we just have it. Still love dresses though.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=731376953 Erin Peak

    I love me a good pair of man pants for the luxurious roomy crotch. I’m not saying I’ve got a huge vagina but who would pass up so much space to thrust freely like Mr Bean dancing?

    • Dana

      HAHA!

  • http://www.EatStylePlay.com/ Eat.Style.Play

    Same goes for me and sweaters and shirts.

  • Isabelle Ofume

    The sporty chic female: a trend that has been long awaited. Turning the regular Nike Free Runs and New Balance into a cute slash underlying femininity. I’ve seen the Timbs been thrown on paired with a slit skirt. I love the wo(man) in me. #manrepellersunite

  • http://lerablogs.blogspot.com/ Lera

    This sounds like I have to give up too much to look fancy. Most of my closet, in fact. No, thanks!

  • katiekatjohnson

    I call my style “Mandry”… named after my ex boyfriend that dresses like a lesbian…

  • Rachel Cliburn

    Ha! I don’t wear pants! Skirts and dresses all the way….just because I like it and I feel pretty. Isn’t that reason enough? Wear what makes you feel confident :)

  • http://twitter.com/ClaireShriver Claire Shriver

    I love men’s fashion and I wish I didn’t feel guilty glancing at the men’s section of stores. Thank you for making me feel less alone! People are so confined to gender roles but it’s becoming more common to break those. Yeah, I like fro-yo and rings but I love a fitted blazer.

  • M A R Y B L U N T S

    Thank you. Being a heterosexual, sociology major at The University of Texas at Austin, I’ve been introduced to the heated topic of pre-determinned homosexuality based on clothing and I find it extremely aggravating since I’d prefer to wear a high collared button up and oxfords any day. #tomboy4lyfe #marykatenotashley

    I’m not saying I don’t like to wear ‘fancy’ or ‘girlie’ things, (’cause I recently bought an Alexandra Grecco tulle skirt that makes me feel like a fucking badass princess) but I would like to dress like a fancy boy and not be automatically thrown into the (fabulous) category of ‘lesbian’. This is the age where we can change that!

    You (and your words) are truly inspirational.

  • Dorie {BrooklynSalt}

    I find it odd that womenswear is not even a word.

    • Christina

      Women’s Wear Daily?

  • Veronica

    maybe men should dress like women

  • The Lint Roller

    adrogyny = sexy

    http://thelintroller.com/

    TLR X

  • Alice

    Just wear whatever you want. Besides, as a woman, I look better in a sports jacket and tie than half the men out there.

  • Betsy

    The real question is, why are men dressing like women?

  • The Lizard Catcher

    I was mulling this over a while ago, but for different reasons. I’m a biology student and research assistant, and I have struggled in the past when trying to strike a balance between my keen interest in fantastic/slightly odd to other people style and my concerns about being taken seriously. The science community can be very accepting, but most of the time style is not on the radar (which I enjoy greatly, because no one loves a good lizard shirt more than I), but when I feel like wearing something a bit more than a t-shirt and jeans, I get the sneaking suspicion that folks wonder why you spend time on something like clothes. I’ve gotten to the point where I just wear what I feel like wearing (tuxedo oxfords with destroyed boyfriend chinos and denim shirt, recently) and assume people will judge me on the quality of my work, not my taste in clothing.

    • Abby

      Some areas of science are worse about this than others, I think! It’s what A Woman refers to (above) as “dress-like-a-man-cause-you’re-a-woman-and-it’s-unexpected”. Physics was terrible, the guys constantly commented on my clothing until I wore the most boring things I could find every day to avoid comment. And the “you must not be serious about science since you’re interested in how you look” thing is a parallel issue.

  • Felicity

    I think it’s patronising and completely contradictory to the whole idea of feminism for anyone to say that women dress like men to “feel more powerful” – I have actually heard people say this and I want to kick them in the shins. Having said that, I do like a male touch (OH DO I) in the clothing department. Who doesn’t like bow ties? I keep seeing excellent cufflinks everywhere, too. And, P.S: looking at these pictures made me want to be male because I know for a fact that I could never look that cool in a 3 piece suit and shades. x
    that-bird.blogspot.co.uk

  • Velvet Jar

    What a convenient time to read this post. I’ve just come back from watching Solange perform and she was dressed in a printed suit with a clashing printed shirt buttoned all the way up (think it was Miu Miu). She looked absolutely sexy. I think it’s a nice contradiction to see a woman pull off a strong masculine look and still convey femininity ( definition of femininity depends on the person) all at the same time. It’s up to the individual of course but I’m definitely up for dressing like a man. I’ve pulled my blazer out to wear tomorrow. I’m channeling my inner Annie Hall/Andre 3000.

  • http://newbornfanatic.wordpress.com/ Newborn Fanatic

    we get to dress like a man, a woman, or get inspired to mix the two. its just too awesome.

    http://newbornfanatic.wordpress.com/

  • http://www.facebook.com/jackihuntington Jacquelyn Lee Huntington

    WHAT DOES IT EVEN MEAN TO DRESS “LIKE A WOMAN” ANYWAY? There’s a fluidity of fashion identity that women have carved out for themselves in Western culture. It’s subconscious, it’s functional, it’s ironically referential, it’s in flux, and it’s open to play. I say let’s [women] do whatever the fuck we want. Keep stretching. Men, too. C’mon, everybody!

  • http://madamecouture.blogspot.com/ Emma H

    I think that when we dress in menswear
    these days, it doesn’t necessarily stimulate the thought of male itself. Sure,
    those coats and pants and capes were originally for men but our great female revolutionaries***
    quickly took them from our male counterparts and made them our own. I feel that
    in this age of ambiguous, androgynous dressing, it is really the philosophy and
    mental outlook that can distinguish a woman from the others that are wearing
    similar blazers. Being a female – through all stages of this existence – is
    such a unique experience that goes so far beyond the physical. And I think that
    when we wear these garments, the power comes more from the confidence that we can
    wear these menswear pieces without much trouble because we OWN it; we’ve won the
    option to do so because, throughout the eras, we’ve fought for it.
    *** Amelia Bloomer, Coco Chanel, and most of all (on a stylistic note b/c she’s a blazer badass) Emmanuelle Alt

  • A Woman

    I think the “dress-like-a-women-cause-you’re-a-women-and-it’s-expected”s are just as bad as the “dress-like-a-man-cause-you’re-a-woman-and-it’s-unexpected”s. (Those are the names of real people). I think it’s about the individual. I say, “More power to you fancy females! If you love it, rock it!” and same to the more androgynous (I get so many major fashion points for using that in a sentence) dressers – I say the same. The way I dress is not about conveying fragility or power – it’s just an exploration of the difference faces of a woman. I say “just” because that’s obvious an extremely simply topic…….duh. Duh?

  • http://www.prettysparklythings.blogspot.com/ Donna

    Way back in 1986, I had a job where the women were not allowed to wear pants. Being such a progressive company, they had “skip level” meetings where our department met with our bosses’ boss. I asked why we couldn’t wear pants, because I didn’t feel that my ability to do my job had any thing to do with co-workers being able to see my legs. The rule was changed shortly thereafter. Gender equality re: dress hasn’t been around as long as one might think.

  • Marina Casapu

    those pictures are amazing! I miss Europe, where a well dressed man isn’t necessarily gay.

  • Cecilie

    Recently, I had a somewhat related conversation with my fiancé about this topic. I am the type that can walk into his wardrobe, pick up his biggest (and therefore, most manly) sweatshirt and wear it with a skirt. And boots, of course. BUT, he is also the person that can walk into my pile of clothes and throw my t-shirts on. And he’ll wear it with pride (fine, I love oversize a bit too much). I asked him why he keeps doing this – and to my surprise, he didn’t hesitate in answering with “I don’t think there’s a difference between womens and mens style anymore, everything is now unisex”. He is, what-they-would-say-in-the-old-days, metrosexual. But let me tell you something, he is definitely not attracted to anything else but women. He’s a man. He’s just.. European. My point being – are men becoming more feminine being surrounded by ladies that aren’t scared of repelling, yet being femmes with facial products and silky long hair? Like Rachieeee said – I wear skirts, but only because Marc Jacobs (you wouldn’t expect anything less from him, huh?) and Kanye (Kim Kardashian’s baby papa) wear skirts. Maybe it is the other way around? (Wo)man to Man? Are they (Wo)man repelling?

  • Abx

    I love mans wear! For example A.P.C, Zara something. But I cant express man’s fit.

  • Lauren at adorn la femme

    Menswear is always so cozy and truly comfortable~I think there is a trend of women embracing this more than ever before! It demonstrates a bold confidence which I aspire to!

    (=’.’=)

    -Lauren at adorn la femme

    http://adornlafemme.blogspot.com

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  • Susana

    Kristian Lalibert from R29 clearly has been reading up on Man Repeller
    “Our 2013 resolution should have been to look more boyish. Apparently, we’ll need all the masculine swagger we can get to pull of the aesthetic ofAlexander Wang’s spring ’13 campaign. We first sneaked a peek at the angular cheekbones and short ‘ n’ choppy hair of model Malgosia Bela last week, and we still beg the is-she-or-isn’t-she question.”

    http://www.refinery29.com/2013/01/41856/alexander-wang-unisex-spring-campaign?utm_source=facebook.com&utm_medium=post&utm_campaign=alex

  • Erin

    The comments about menswear om women being understated sexy- I conquer with the YES. I love dressing like a woman, don’t get me wrong, but I’m a science student, and I have found that in some classes and labs I’m taken more seriously if I don’t dress as feminine or wear lipstick, which is really sad. I love being able to dress feminine or masculine according to how I feel, but I think feminism needs to evolve to where people can also be accepting of sequins and femininity, if that is what one chooses to wear. Just wear what you want people!

    • Abby

      Erin, so true about science and clothing. I am a grad student in engineering and I work part time at a national laboratory. Personally, I’d like to dress like a badass cross between Temperance Brennan (Bones) and Indiana Jones all the time, but any skirts, heels, or fancy blouses can get you mistaken for a secretary. Sooo disappointing when I realized this! Any overt displays of femininity work against you. I have yet to decide if I will wear what I want and let my work speak for itself… for now I avoid anything non-pants.

  • Sophie

    I for one love the structure and build of men’ clothing. Somedays I would rather wear a sleek pant and button down with a bollo tie over a mini-dress. But hello, Kanye just wore a leather skirt on stage. Why aren’t we seeing more men in traditionally female garments???? It’s 2013 why are people still stuck in traditional views of masculinity and feminity? Weak. http://archiveseven.blogspot.com

  • dian_iam

    duh, the intrigue is in the dichotomy…..

  • Liz Barney

    I bought a men’s winter coat this year (black, Kenneth Cole, and I found it in the women’s section, so it’s not like I was looking for boy-ish there…..) mostly because the arms were long enough and it would fit over sweaters. I didn’t even figure out it was a men’s style until my husband pointed out that buttoning on the “wrong” side would be a hint. There was a point there in the 90s when all of my non-work clothes were men’s plaid, stripes, jeans, etc. with Doc Martens. It feels better to mix now, though. It might feel rebellious, my young ones, but it’s been done before. Be careful, though, because it can be pretty comfortable.

  • http://twitter.com/filippofiora filippo fiora

    Thank u so much for featuring my bf and me ( first pic) :)

    • Leandra Medine

      you two are lovely!

  • Faye-Fashion Hound

    And the moral of the story…wear whatever the F**k you want, whenever you want and however you so choose to. End of sermon! So loving this saucy debate
    http://www.fashionhound.tv

  • Anina

    I don’t think women wearing “masculine” clothes is about power at all. Many women seem to think they feel more powerful in heels and pencil skirts. I think wearing “men’swear” as a woman is just a way to feel stylish and put together, but in a laid-back way. I don’t want to be constantly conscious of my body being feminine, or my body at all for that matter. I just want to feel like myself. Because first and foremost me, a person, not just a woman. And just because I’m sitting right now in a blue-striped men’s shirt, doesn’t mean I’m not feminine. I think femininity is most beautiful when it’s subtle, not loud and screaming for attention. I don’t think femininity and masculinity is polar opposites, and I don’t think we need to fight for it being that way. There is no need to be afraid that women suddenly will loose their femininity I don’t think it’s that fragile. The idea of women and what femininity is might change, it will change, but it doesn’t have to be a bad thing.

  • Jacqi Y

    YOU’RE PERSIAN??? ME TOO ! sorrryy so random but I literally just had a jaw-dropping moment after I felt a tingling in my hands and realized it was just my persian radar when I saw “1960’s Tehran” followed by the comment about your mom. Am I too excited?? Probably. Now that I’ve pit that aside (not really, still so excited) I’ve got to point out that menswear is just genuinely REALLY comfortable / who doesn’t think they’re kind of cool to throw on their boyfriends T when taking that shameless walk home ?? Just saying, whoever said that women should always be in skirts and all dressed up clearly doesn’t have much experience with boy T’s and spacey boxers. Men suck, they’re clothes? Ehh not so much.

  • Jeremy

    I am a man who wears skirts, or clothing western society deems women’s clothing and proud of it. I have my wife’s full support and we both wear skirts all over the place in public and at home. Dentist, Opticians, theatres, pubs, restaurants, shopping etc.

    Based in Northern England, I have been to Scotland as well as the South of England and Europe. I get the occasional look of surprise and the extremely rare comment behind my back but on the whole well received and many compliments. Check out my site, I have some photos on as well as thoughts to consider.http://www.libminded.co.uk

    I’m all for equality, gender balance in all aspects of human life. Neither one is better than the other and each one compliments the other. I believe the world would be far mare harmonious with a tempered testosterone with more logic and common sense approach. Being in skirts makes you no less a person for either sex. It is you the person that makes you who you are and the world we live in.

  • Toryabuin

    I think that we, women, are dressing like men not in a way to explore fashion but rather in a way to rebel against all the Norms and stereotypes that come with being a women. For most history we have been just an accessory of men, a trophy wife but now as time changes and women started braking the social boundaries of what is appropriate as a women we are trying to merge win men and in a way saying to all of those conservative people, and antiquated in my opinion, that we can be whatever the hell we want.

  • Alicia

    I think it’s something really great to feel free to dress like a boy, but being a woman,, as people says, that means that you have to be kinda feminine, so, I think that we should make a combination, you know, dress like a boy, wearing pants, coats, Oxford shoes and other outfits that were designed for men, but, giving them a girly touch.

  • Anna

    All I know is I loooooove men’s fashion and my boyfriend hates it!:) i don’t know what it is about women now days and men’s fashion, could it be that we finally got the opportunity to dress like them without being judged by men or other women but admired for bravery and originality (and let’s face it, women only care what women think:)? Men’s fashion is more comfortable and you certainly don’t feel like walking on your toes and in skirts every day. Their fashion also makes them more movable, less vulnerable, more practical in general. They don’t have to switch from heels to flats during the day, they’ll have their casual clothes on and hop from one place to another no matter the occasion. I think women saw the practicality in that and finally decided to take on the garment’s usually reserved for men – brogues, loafers, shorts, shirts without the skirt,etc. But maybe it’s just the whole androgyny trend in past decade.

  • Emily

    Basically I think we should be able to wear whatever the hell we want. If women want to wear pants n so on then fine, n if men want to carry clutch bags or wear meggings well then that’s fine too.

    At the end of the day clothes are, in their most basic form, made to keep us warm, and give us each a little modesty and mystery. It’s also a great way to express yourself and have fun, that’s why we all love fashion, right!? but I think if we continue to conform to made up rules like ‘girls should wear skirts’ we will never have equality. If girls want to wear skirts, do it. If men want to were skirts, also do it.

    Each individual doesn’t need telling what they can and cant wear. what’s important is what’s underneath, the person, their personality, and if I throw on a pair of trousers I’m not going to grow a dick and if a man puts of a skirt he’s not going grow a fanny! What you wear doesn’t make you female or male!

    I mean seriously! if you want to date a chick who wears skirts all the time then do that, but don’t go telling the rest of the women what to wear too, mind your own business.

    And if I want to wrap my grannies table cloth round me and that looks good, I’m going to wear that too, OK! What you think about that?

    p.s. the man repeller rocks! x

  • http://thepoppie.com/ Poppie

    I LOVE dressing masculine! Being 5’9″ I have always had a hard time shopping so visits to the mens department for sweaters, sweats and more! Even now as an adult I find myself shopping in the mens section at H&M along with my Jason. I just love it!

    Chao
    Poppie
    http://thepoppie.com

  • Susan Graves

    Jojo Rockzzzzz…Nice tips.

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