In Your Cart

by Leandra Medine
October 24, 2012
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Shopping cart syndrome may alleviate an interminable urge to spend money.

On October 16th at approximately 10:45AM I received an email from a former classmate (in high school and certainly not Harvard where she is currently undergraduate.) She wrote, “[a] vintage, black, perfect(ly ubiquitous) Chanel bag currently languishes in my Shopbop cart for a cool $2,240, on sale from $4,000. For the next 22 minutes, it is mine. Mine I tell you! But in about 23 minutes, I highly suggest you log on and grab it. I just want it to be loved.” It was brilliant. And the world needed to learn about Shopping Cart Syndrome, the majestic thirty minutes in which any woman, anywhere can own whatever she wants. Below, a 1,000 word analysis of the aforementioned scribed by the culprit herself.

One Tuesday afternoon, I bought a Chanel bag.

I had to do it. I have always harbored a poorly concealed crush on the 2.55’s boxy frame and softly glazed lambskin. Even when the chain-linked miracle prostituted itself on the arm of Snooki, my love for its classic appeal never wavered. I know that it’s been deemed suburban and ubiquitous and that all of the Real Housewives carry it, but there is something about its enduring charm that reminds me of my grandmother and pearls and Alexa Chung. So when I spotted it online and on sale—which happens once every never—and discounted by a healthy 30%, I did not hesitate. Now was not the time to ask myself such questions as, “Can you put a down payment on a bag?” or “Do people really sell their kidneys on the black market?” I had only one option: “Add to Cart.”

I owned it for exactly thirty minutes.

A brief interlude for sanity: I’m twenty years old and in college. I may not have the best handle on fiscal responsibility, but I’m not financially suicidal. Also, I’d prefer that my parents not disown me for retail dalliances that result in the purchase of inky-black leather goods. I could not buy the bag. But I could pretend. For the brief window it would sit in my shopping cart, it would be mine.

I wish I could say this is the first time I’ve succumbed to such behavior. Years ago, on the last day of a trip to London, I ambled into the Burberry flagship and tried on a trench coat. I slipped each arm through its meticulously pressed sleeves while the store manager bustled about and illustrated her expert tailoring suggestions with a smattering of pins. I was not in the market for this class of investment. But I let the woman in plaid go on, and when she was finished ministering to the garment, I appraised my reflection and asked her if I could put in on hold.

“Until the end of the day,” she said. “That would be wonderful,” I replied effortlessly. “Thank you so much.” By the time the store closed that day, I was halfway over the Atlantic.

I am in love with the idea of sequestering things I know I cannot have. It’s an indulgent practice. It’s childish. But fast-forward half a decade and save for a blissful half hour I once spent with my best friend eating raw cookie dough straight from the supermarket package, those 1,800 seconds of fabricated Chanel proprietorship were some of the most exhilarating of my life.

They were also the most agonizing. No sooner had I staked my claim in the storied House of Chanel than the cool, mathematical robots behind Shopbop.com’s glossy façade saw to its excruciating undoing. But I found my silver lining. Now was my chance, I reasoned. Why stop at Chanel when I could also fictitiously load up on Wang and Stella McCartney? When I could buy white satin loafers? Why settle for a $2,240 price tag when I could let my subtotal wander into quintuple digits with no repercussions? Who would care if I did? You don’t pay shipping fees on delusions.

As I bid a prolonged adieu to something I’d never had, my forever-unrealized future with the original cross-body flashed before my eyes. I imagined slipping it over my shoulder on the cusp of promising Saturday nights only to rescue it later from sticky tables and slimy boys. I envisioned wearing it with sequins and satin and seersucker. Years would go by, and its changing contents would reflect…what? Maturity? One day I would pass it on—its insides defaced with errant pen markings and lipstick stains—to a featureless daughter of mine. We’d had a good run, I’d think lovingly, as I bequeathed it to her. We’d been perfect together!

But, of course, we hadn’t been. We were separating before our first date. We loved each other, but we were irreconcilable. We were Courtney Cox and David Arquette, and although I rooted for us, I knew all along that our differences were insurmountable.

Predictably, one of us would rebound (ed note: ricochet) faster than the other. About seven seconds after my thirty-minute grace period had elapsed, I Rip the Band-Aid! refreshed the web page and braced myself. The bag, Shopbop.com informed me, was already sold out.

To the woman who swooped in and snatched my shot at happiness: Please be kind. Respect it. Treasure it for more than thirty minutes. Give it the life I never could. Also, friend me on Facebook so that I can stalk you obsessively and inevitably discover that you are French and look sexy in overalls.

-Written by Mattie Kahn.

Has Shopping Cart Syndrome ever curbed your spending appetite? Are we on to something?

REPLIES
  • Martha

    As a grad student who makes about $20,000 a year, I derive much happiness from Shopping Cart Syndrome. I’m glad the phenomenon now has a name.

  • http://sarahspy.tumblr.com sarahspy

    hahah yes! never knew it had a name. i am constantly remedying my shopping itch by goofing around online, adding items i cant afford to the cart, and then… closing the browser once i’ve got the bug out of my system :) it’s silly, but a lesser time waster than having to return stuff you shouldn’t have bought to stores irl!

  • http://youngisthenewblack.com/ Young is the new black

    One of my fav Man Repeller articles in a while. I am most definitely afflicted with Shopping Cart Syndrome. Anyone have a vaccine?

    p.s. Loved this line: “Even when the chain-linked miracle prostituted itself on the arm of Snooki, my love for its classic appeal never wavered.”

  • Not So Gentle Reader

    I hate to say it, but this is the most well-written piece I’ve ever read here; interesting, amusing, and free of run on sentences. You should offer her a job.

  • http://www.thankfifi.com/ thankfifi

    your friend is a fantastic writer – I hope it was the french overall clad chic lady and not snooki who snatched that last one…

    ♥ ThankFifi

  • zesiku

    HM I NEVER TRIED THE SHOPPING CART THING, BUT I DO A LOT OF WISHLISTING..MY EBAY ETC ETC ARE FULL OF ITEMS I WANT SO MUCH, I LOOK AT THEM ONCE IN A WHILE AND FEEL BETTER..ITS LIKE THEY ARE COMING MY WAY:)))

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  • olivia sacha soyons ouf

    All the time. Heres a tip I discovered by accident… If you shop on Gilt, and you can’t decide whether or not to get something, put it in your cart. They only pull it if someone else wants it. Don’t check out. If when the sale ends they still have whatever you wanted, it will be sitting there in your cart waiting for you. To me that’s usually a sign it was meant to be, but you can take all the time in the world to decide even though you can’t access the sale page anymore!

  • lavieenliz

    I would’ve just bought the bag…like seriously! it is well written but come on woman! you want something, you have the money for it, it’s on sale….you just buy it! It’s easy! ahh I will never understand how someone go be so smart and go to Harvard but have no common sense…the way I look at it…it’s an investment, and she can always get money from her awesome job after harvard. It’s like those 87 year old people who have all this money saved and no family and they won’t spend a penny…what’s the point? you live once…so live!

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  • Rose Sharma

    A really good read, she’s a great writer. I’m working and may be able to pay for these items but could never justify a bag that is 3 months mortgage payments, so I too get my jollies from Shopping Cart Syndrome then refresh the payment page, put on my zara duds and pay my bills. Maybe one day I’ll hit confirm payment though, that’s the hope.

    swagnstyle.blogspot.ca

  • sarah

    I thoroughly enjoyed this! Shopping cart syndrome is a constant for me..and reading this just makes me want to go shopping really badly.

    http://www.styleluna.blogspot.com

  • lynnsay

    I do this all the time, seriously! On net-a-porter.com mostly, I like to pretend that I’ll be rich enough one day to actually buy clothes for such a ridiculous amount of money. It’s kinda therapeutic, but also a little tragic.

    Great post, really well written. She should start her own blog!

    http://www.thesartorialscot.blogspot.com

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  • Sarah {Raving Fashionista}

    Oh this is great! I’m glad I’m not alone in my favorite guilty pleasure – online window shopping. I’m constantly guilty of loading up my online shopping cart (especially on impulse shopping sites like gilt.com), searching for any discount codes and then x’ing out the window before temptations can fully get the better of me and my little habit winds up a plastic charge I’m paying off while tinged with buyer’s remorse.

    http://RavingFashionista.com

  • http://twitter.com/lisbeth636 Lauren Miller

    I thought I was the only one. I do this constantly and there are moments where I get so anxious over the items in the cart, my palms start to sweat and my heart goes all pitter-patter. The Rag & Bone sliver tuxedo jacket in pink with black trim still haunts me. I lurk e-bay for it incessantly. That was the one that got away.

  • Isis

    I thought I was the only one! I did this with a vintage Birkin once. Hehehe.

  • hisloveoffashion

    i love doing this add to cart and dream i could press check out :)
    http://www.hisloveoffashion.com/

  • http://twitter.com/lapeccataminuta lapeccataminuta.com

    OMG BATMAN! I can completely relate to this. The rush, the deliberation, reality setting in…… deep, deep sigh.

  • Kristin

    Every time Rue La La gets Proenza Schouler cross body bags, I do this. I then refresh the page and my coveted bag is completely sold out. I hover momentarily on the “still want it?” button, before closing my internet browser and briefly crying on my keyboard.

  • www.glitzngrime.com

    lol

  • aprettynest

    I never thougt of it as a thing but yes, I admit, I have the fantasy online cart syndrome too !

  • Jessica

    Great articulation of my online shopping (browsing? buying?) ritual. I add everything I could possibly want into my cart, and then whittle the items down to a few affordable pieces. Then, I have a heated inner debate about whether or not to buy them. But those few moments when the total in my cart exceeds my monthly living expenses? Exhilarating.

    My dad’s mantra? Walk away from it, and if you really want it, come back to it.

    Of course, that doesn’t work quite as well when the available quantity is 1 and we’re referring to Chanel.

  • Melanie

    This was so fun to read.. I have definitely done what she’s done.. I have imaginary shopping carts on many sites and dream when I can finally click “checkout” sigh.

    iambornlippy.blogspot.com

  • Alice

    “it’s an inveestmeeent pieeeece”
    My exclamation when people are raising eyebrows of disapprovement

  • Valerie

    i love love love this post! what an awesome voice Mattie has! And I know exactly what she is talking about – i do practice ‘Shopping Cart Syndrome’ everyday.
    Valerie
    Run With the Hunted

  • http://pinkpopmash.blogspot.com Marissa

    Great read!! and I have totally succumbed to shopping cart syndrome! It wasn’t chanel, it was a pair of prada heels, that even on sale I couldn’t afford with my first post-grad salary :(. anyway, can totally relate.

    PinkPopMash

  • lauramach23

    I will admit that I have placed stuff in my shopping cart that exceeds my monthly expenses, but I don’t think I could ever buy online something that costs so much. I think I can only buy it and be completely convinced seeing it in person, trying it, feeling it, you know? All that. x

    Paint me in the landscape

  • http://twitter.com/InformedStyle Informed Style

    Sigh. It’s nice to dream about the day you seal the deal…but then again, sometimes the most passionate love affairs are the unrequited ones…

    Devon
    http://www.informedstyle.com

  • adailydoseoflou.blogspot.com

    Hilarious! I can sooooo relate!! I think every women does this same thing…and maybe just doesn’t admit it! I’m glad you shared this! She is fabulous writer!

  • staceyk

    I LOVE this piece.. and do the same thing. My shopping cart is full on all the various shopping sites i visis.. shopbop, outnet, net-a-porter, tec… the dream is the best part

  • Charlotte

    Such a good post! Lovely and engaging article and I think I may have to see if the shopping cart syndrome curbs my spending…or maybe it’ll just increase my spending.

    Charlotte
    http://www.deconstrut.blogspot.ca

  • alexandra burns

    Beautiful writing that captures the frustrating financial side of fashion, which is so relevant.

  • http://www.the-white-list.co.uk/ The White List

    Hahaha! I love this!!! I can’t say I’ve ever experienced it myself but this is wonderfully written and so hilarious!

  • Charlotte

    Best post I’ve read in ages! Laughed so hard…!

  • vittoria gallacci

    I always stop and cry in front of a Chanel window. I’m 19 and I’m pretty sure I won’t never get the Chanel 2.55 bag of my dreams. Since I was 14 I want that bag, or something similar, a surrogate, but something that reminds me that that beauty exsists.
    Next life? I wanna be MILLIONAIRE!!

    Vittoriahttp://vittoriafiveinthemorning.blogspot.it/

  • maria

    The 2.55 is my fashion obsession since I was 15 ( 23 now), so I perfectly understand your friend. I’m sure I will own it one day!

  • http://www.facebook.com/ana.ortuno.7 Ana Ortuño

    My favorite post of all times, like reading a romantic novel of the likes of Love In The Time Of Cholera. Took me on a magical journey that I also share called Shopping Cart Syndrome.

    I was actually discussing this same topic two days ago, and I explained to the skeptics that it’s not only a form of therapy but a proclamation of what could be yours.

  • http://twitter.com/GoAndGetYaSome Kirsten F.

    …next time please let me know when the sale is going on so I can purchase the bag. Thanks

  • Brita

    This is such an awesome piece – funny, clever, relatable!! Nice writing, Mattie!
    My weakness on sites like Shopbop is shoes – and pretty much anything Badgley Mischka. I want it all, but can’t get any of it. Oh what a wonderful 30 minutes that must have been!
    comininhot.wordpress.com

  • Emily

    This is hilarious. Love it.

  • Amanda
  • http://twitter.com/livesimply Annie

    Never comment on your site based on the belief that you get such a massive amount of comments that how can you read them all geez? But had to today to say how thoroughly I enjoyed the post. Not just the crux of the anecdote, which I believe so many of us can relate to, but the writing. The writing was grand. It was glorious. Hats off to Mattie.

  • Amalie Espeland

    I loved this!! such a great writer. hah, and she is so right! those 30 minutes of owning something you can’t have xx

  • Kate

    You’ve made sense of what I’ve been trying to figure out for years!! Perfectly worded to articulate the most ridiculous practice that we all are guilty of!! Thanks Leandra and Mattie!! xxoo

  • Adelina

    Awesome writing!

  • the (un?)social butterfly

    I suffer from Wishlist Syndrome, most definitely. Currently I would spend around 600.000 dollars were I to purchase everything from my net-a-porter wishlist. I put together a lot of different looks and throw in some of the stuff I have already purchased there to make those looks really BELONG to me. And oh, what joy it is to see a beloved sold item back in stock! Again I have the chance to pretend I can still purchase them when on sale…

    http://humanwomen.wordpress.com

  • http://myboringcloset.com/ Lacey @ My Boring Closet

    This is hilarious!! I am definitely guilty of leaving things in my shopping cart, returning day after day to see if my chosen items have magically gone on sale, usually to discover that the items have been sold out. “Please remove from your shopping cart.”

  • Donna

    Great read!! Couldn’t agree more, sometimes its the idea that you might have it,is enough on its onw. Then you get wild and say F*#%K it, I work hard and I want it. It’s mine!! Having a dream for the ONE (chanel bag is my “The ONE”) keeps me working harder, because one day it will be MINE! :)

    http://www.soyouagree.com

  • Stephanie Lam

    Haha I love love this!! Albeit, the time limit on shopping carts only gave me anxiety!! “Should I get it?? I have 7 minutes to decide!!”

    -Stephanie@LaminLouboutins.blogspot.com

  • mary

    I have all day grad classes on saturdays… they last ten hours. so for most of them I’m simultaneously listening and filling up my shopping cart…everywhere. sad, but true.

  • Kiah

    HA! Love this. Very well written. I must admit I’ve never done this before and so now I’m totally motivated. Be back…going “cart” shopping!! I’ve had my eye on a Birkin! lol

  • mckenzie.collins

    I wish I could add this to the cart! haha what a good writer too!

    http://currentlylovingblog.blogspot.com/

  • http://twitter.com/ayyorivera Alexandra Rivera

    this post is BRILLIANT, hilarious and well written. I’m so glad that I’m not alone in this. We should start a support group for all this lost chances behind items we never really had… oh, the harsh reality.

    Themessybun.net

  • http://dipitblack.com/ Dip It Black

    Beautiful written!
    But I would have bought way more if I had the money haha!

    X
    http://dipitblack.com

  • info

    Well written.

    Bisous
    Suzanne
    http://bisous.typepad.com/bisous/

  • geekatheart

    Hah I do it all the time! Being a student isn’t always too fun, at least not shopping wise.

  • http://twitter.com/justlikesushi Joyce.

    Well written! And yes, I feel you! I’m happy I found a vintage Chanel bag few years ago..

  • http://www.injackiesshoes.com/ Alexandra

    Oh my Lord, what a great piece!!! I love to load up my Net-A-Porter shopping cart and dream of my alternate life. Why not? It brings such happiness and joy, it would be a complete travesty to deny myself the euphoria of what could be if I find a winning lottery ticket before the item sells out. Rock on, sisters in imaginary wardrobes!!
    xo,
    Ali

  • Suzanna

    Can I just say that this is a very ccommon syndrome from which I suffer too. I spend about an hour online shopping adding masterpieces to my cart adding up to the thousands that I can’t afford. I intentionally leave the tab open while continue doing other stuff. They’re just a password away. That is exactly why as easy that I add them to my cart, I proceed to close the tab and pretend with a dropping heart that they never existed as mine. Anyway I realize the only cure is actually pressing the proceed to purchase button once in while. Love your stories as always. Xxxx

  • http://twitter.com/stilettos4Nikki Nikki

    I thoroughly enjoyed this post! Very entertaining and very true to life. I often do this when I want to shop but my credit card statement urges me otherwise. Glad to see I’m not alone in my shopping habits.

  • seaandswank

    I too suffer from shopping cart syndrome, and it’s nice to know that so many others do too – safety in numbers, right? This is a really great post – such a nice read.

    Sea and Swank

  • Alex

    Superbly written piece! have you heard of fantasyshopper.com? Very similar idea, but without the worrying of accidentally hitting the ‘confirm purchase’ button!

  • BEKELAH

    i usually have an average of 7 herve leger dresses in my shopping cart– not sure it can fully curb my appetite

  • sally ann garner

    Can someone explain to me, what a blogger really does???

  • Marnie Thao Nguyen

    I actually REALLY enjoyed reading that. Your friend IS a great writer.
    She has a blog?

    http://marniethao.blogspot.com

  • Styledirectornd

    I do this all the time when I go to lagarconne.com. Worse, I print out my “purchases” and put them up on my closet wall. The hope is that one day I would have chunk change to buy the the whole store. It sometimes curb the need to shop but it also makes me want to cry. Great post. I’m relieved I’m not the only one!

    http://www.styledirector.blogspot.com

  • http://www.natseesstyle.com/ Nat Way

    This post is hilarious, and yes, I have definitely fallen victim to this type of insane behavior. But you know what? I think it’s okay to live in a shopping dreamland every now and then!

    xoxo,
    Nat

    http://www.natseesstyle.com

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100004149726883 Nina Newsome

    I am very excited to hear that I am not alone in doing this. What is a girl to do. We love to nmagine ourselves with “THAT” life. I remember what it is like to be on the other side of that counter doing the selling. The anxiousness and thrill are there for the salesperson, just like for the client. The salesperson is nmaging what it would be like to experience owning something “THAT” extravagant. What would it be like to indulge in the lap of luxury… Thank goodness we can now do it from the safety of the computer screen.

    http://www.nmage.com

  • Wale

    Lol! I do that all the time, somehow it feels like a “cleanse” for my soul, my urge to shop ceases… Until I move on to a different item….and repeat!

  • Vivian

    Haha, I love it.. this is what I do ALL the time! Thank goodness the time that passes makes me not buy the item most of the time or else I’d be totally broke…

    myblissisthisway.blogspot.com

  • zooka

    excellently written!!! does she have her own blog?if she doesn’t, she should start one!

  • http://twitter.com/melissachrisp Melissa Chrisp

    The shopping cart definitely has put a stop to me actually purchasing things. I don’t know why. Maybe the rush wears off? I always have shopping-cart-put-back regret though. Is there such a thing?

    ..Should have bought it when I had the opportunity..!

    I’m a New Zealand fashion blogger and not everyone ships to this country. That saves me pesos!

    Melissa x
    http://melissachrisp.com

  • Rachel

    My sentiments exactly. Right now I own a gorgeous Marni sweater

    http://cargocollective.com/theelectricgirl

  • Dervla

    I live in Hong Kong and often walk into Fendi and Dolce and Gabbana flagships to try on a lot of looks from the season, in particular the stand out ones that make it into all the runway reports. They lose their lustre and I am no longer star struck by them, its weird but I always tell myself “one day,” as I walk out of these shops. That writer is good but you’re more punchy and funny maybe suggest she start her own blog. I missed you posting your own thing today.

  • thechicndamned

    Such a well-written article! Seriously, story of my life. Those damned, chic French women!

    x k
    http://www.thechicndamned.blogspot.com

  • http://twitter.com/looksharpWI Look Sharp Sconnie

    Pinterest is my “shopping cart”. I treat it as a giant “to buy” board – every pin is an intended purchase for my future millionaire man to make.

    It’s saved me thousands. Best coping mechanism I’ve found to-date.

    -Gabrielle

  • http://www.facebook.com/maryalice.bowman Mary-Alice Graydon Bowman

    I do the same thing! Except with items that I would actually spend my money on, had I the money. I’ve filled up countless online shopping carts, only to leave them at the ethereal checkout center like some unthoughtful, self-serving jerk so the online store clerks can put each imaginary item back in their internet bins.

    *Sighs* I call it Stalk Shopping, although that sounds like I’m searching for celery.

    FarytaleBlog

  • Jeniese

    Amazing read! I am currently using this method to cure my shopping addiction and it is working… If I can hold it in my cart, I can justify that it will always be there for me to buy!

  • Chelsey Duble

    Mattie Kahn you are absolutely brilliant. This was so on point.

  • fowsteen unöhü

    unreal. especially loved the overalls. i know you. i miss you. i love you.

  • liz

    lol I do this all the time, I completely relate to this article! I am a student and cannot always make the purchase, but for some reason I love to pretend I will.

  • Natashia

    I did the exact same thing in Burberry in Florence.. was all cool like “yeah I’ll come back this afternoon.. blah blah..” never did. Couldn’t bring myself to actually buy one. Years later I did in fact get a Burberry trench.. sometimes it just takes waiting til the right time!

  • Kristen

    Self-diagnosed, I’m guilty. For those thirty minutes, I’m mind-worn the items 100 times over. And oddly, partially satisfied.

  • Lotus Blossom Design

    I too suffer from Shopping Cart Syndrome. I have had multiple windows open on my phone at once all with at least one item in each. I usually end up getting distracted by a crying baby that helps to remind me that I have diapers to buy! Haaa!

  • http://twitter.com/osborra Rebeka Osborne

    Oh my, this is wonderful! I read it twice. So good!

  • Hillary

    pure genius!
    I would be a millionaire if i had a time for every time i had a full shopping cart of things i will not (cannot) purchase. sadly…a girl can dream

    • Hillary

      dime****

  • http://floralics.blogspot.com/ Amber

    I clicked on the link you provided and added it to my own shopping cart. This is the start of a lifelong addiction. Thank you.

    http://floralics.blogspot.com

  • Sanne Van Robays

    Guilty!

  • Bonnie, Clyde + Marni

    Love this post!! I do the same thing!!
    http://www.bonnieclydemarni.blogspot.gr/

  • schizzed

    It’s a double edged sword…I add tons of things to shopping carts to fantasize over. Then I get blasted with emails letting me know I left things in my cart, do I still want it? Of course I do! Sometimes I press ‘submit’….though never (to date) on something I couldn’t afford.

  • Sharon

    This is brilliant… such a brilliant read!

    http://primpedandprimed.blogspot.com.au/

  • Mia

    I was gonna say oh man repeller is funny again! but oh, wait! It’s not you! :) Great read!

    • AJK

      mean.

  • Lily KG

    Love the way you can hold so many peoples attention through just words. Too many people just skip past the writing for the pictures nowadays. That’s the worst- when people comment on your blog and its quite obvious they haven’t read anything you’ve said. You are very lucky
    Lily KG
    http://www.untangleyourspangle.blogspot.com

  • The Provoker

    WOAH! niceeee. and it’s always interesting to receive emails from old frds… you never know what’s gonna turn up… or down.. lol Btw, check out my new fox fur outfit which makes me kind of look like a whore, read to find out why! :D

    xx The Provoker
    http://www.the-provoker.com/2012/10/feeling-foxy.html

  • http://twitter.com/far_and_wild Far and Wild Jewelry

    i have loaded shopping carts on almost every website imaginable and i actually lose sleep over the fear that one day the purchases might all accidentally go through by way of some glitch and i’ll be sent to debtor’s prison or something. but in the meantime a girl can dream!

    abigail
    http://www.farandwildjewelry.blogspot.com

  • when we wander

    I don’t know a girl who hasn’t experienced shopping cart anxiety!

  • Anjela

    This happens ALL of the time! Perhaps it’s also because I always keep my wallet wayyyy out of reach when I’m ‘online shopping’, fully anticipating that I’ll stock up a massive cart of amazingness, costing approximately a year’s worth of rent, then relay on my laziness to refrain from getting up and reaching for my credit card.
    Awesome piece!

  • Adrienne Mauro

    I do this all the time. I load up my shopping cart and never buy the items. They’re just waiting patiently for me to get a bigger paycheck and take the plunge.

  • Kelly Ann

    This is an amazing entry, wow! Thank you!

    xxKellySparkles and Shoes

  • priscilla

    I do this every day (tho, not Channel). I call it faux shopping. It’s relaxing, it’s freeing, it’s cheap. And, every now and then, I pull the trigger. Whee!

  • http://twitter.com/maggieOphilbin Maggie Philbin

    WOW this was fantastic. I cried & then I laughed!!!

  • Mouthful of Style

    Great article! Enough said.

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  • Pamela Zedan Haua

    This is a great piece! Mattie’s an amazing writer. And I’m sure that as a very talented Harvard student she’ll soon find a way to finance her purchases of many many beautiful Chanel bags!

    http://www.monmonologue.com

  • Sketch42

    This is an amazingly well written piece.

    I do two similar things: 1. I visit pieces I like in person at the store any time I walk into the store. I try them on every time. 2. I sometimes go to cheaper stores like Home Goods or H&M make a massive cart and then get creeped out by the heap of junk Im about to bring home and then I just leave the wagon in a corner and walk out with nothing.

    • Mattie Kahn

      Too real. Polyester en masse is scary.

  • Grace

    Mattie– this was so well written I was sad to see it end. You and L need to collaborate on a book. Actually, you both could hold your own. P.S where did you go to school from K-8? I want to send my kid their. Hopefully they turn out writing just like you. :)

  • Emily

    I fear I do the same – though because I am a serial returner!

  • Viveca

    Your friend is an amazing writer! This post really made me smile, even laugh at times – pure genius and also an eyeopener. I’ve written something that could be considered a response on my blog: http://stainsofpaint.blogspot.dk/2012/10/the-shopping-cart-syndrome.html

  • Jaclyn Andrade

    OMG honestly I love this. its beautiful. i smiled the entire time i was reading. its almost as someone was writing for me, the struggles i go through EVERYDAY! Im lost for words now-bye.

    http://stylevolver.blogspot.com

  • www.shukorina.com

    I love this article! So true!!

  • passant

    i think after that article someone with a loaded pocket will give you a chanel bag as a present, i know it’ll happen..trust me, but if it happens then you owe me! you’ll give me your new bag for just one day! Deal?!

  • Cynthia Brizuela

    My dreams also include golden chains and unreachable monograms, I enjoyed this piece very much, I got inside of it and felt it, you’re a very good writer.

    http://www.isayinspireme.blogspot.mx/

  • The Style Engineer

    Such a good essay! This happens al the time to me…It’s nice to fantasize sometimes about all the wonderfully expensive things you could potentially buy… if only….

    http://lestyleengineer.blogspot.co.uk/

  • Steph

    Holy crap that was a great piece! Very well written! I hope this girl is a writer!

  • HerMajestyS

    I think all SCS sufferers know the feeling of the cold sweat, heart pounding, adrenaline infused daze brought on by a spectacular item on sale or in short supply (or both). To break the spell I just tell myself: “I am a curator. My closet is my museum.” Not only does this help me feel as if I’m engaging in an artistic process rather than gauche consumerism, it lets me think more objectively about whether the thing is truly an “acquisition” and not just some stretchy, trendy piece of crap. Am I MoMA, the Prado, some independent gallery? What’s my aesthetic, my budget, what would complement/enhance my current collection? And most importantly: Even if this thing is like the Venus de Milo of bags/shoes/faux fur coats – will it make my other stuff seem like macaroni art in comparison?

    • liv

      Oh my, I love this! I will be using this thought process from now on!

  • Demelza Duder

    This is one of the best pieces of writing i’ve read and I hope to write like this one day… Shooping Cart Syndrome is real! Being the sad poor student that I am, I cannot even afford the items in my Urban Outfitters shopping cart. I do, however take comfort in the fact that up until the time they sell out, i can pretend that it’s possible to press the “proceed to checkout” button and be on my merry way, decked out in the newest, coolest clothes.

  • Maesie

    This is so refreshing [ and perfectly timed] I was stuck with the idea that I was the only person who did this and consequently decided I was slightly mad. I think that we all like to delude ourselves- an extension of make believe when we were little. It is retail therapy without the expense price tags, what could be better?

  • Stephanie

    I loved this post. Thank you for reminding me that I am not alone in dreaming about those beautiful things that I can not have…just yet!

  • ESC

    Great read! Mattie Kahn- I’m off to Google your name in hopes that you, too, have a blog. Cheers!

  • Courtney Straney

    Fantastic read! Something most college gals can relate to! Love it.

    boxces.blogspot.com.au

  • lu

    I think her writing is purple prose. lots of it. she used the word ‘cool’ twice in three paragraphs. come on.

  • honeythatsok.com

    Oh, I know this feeling too well! Great read :)

  • byjacquelineho

    my new blog post was inspired by this exact one :) thanks Mattie Kahn for the inspiration

    http://jacquelinelingho.wordpress.com/

    and trust me every girl does the shopping cart dance, it’s inevitable :D